Hand job

[JustaGirl128]

Ok...no use for being shy I guess...but I just wanted to hear from guys how to give a good hand job.
I'm kinda worried, because last night I ended up hooking up with a friend of mine, and it was my first really intense sexual experience. I fondled him for awhile, and then I tried to help him jack off, but I'm not sure if I did it right...

so for future reference, would y'all care to enlighten me on how it's done basically?

 

[sirhugs]

I think experienced women might have a better perspective ( literally) on this. I love a good handjob, and yes, there are bad ones and good ones, but generally, our attention is not on the mechanics. If it is, something is likely wring.

A few very general personal views ( non exhaustive):

- too tight hurts- vary the pressure from barely touching to grasping, but not squeezing.
-the very tip gets sensitive- use caution if you touch there at all
-playing with the scrotum/balls is essential
-vary the pattern- relentless up and down might work, but no guarantees
-vary the speed- nothing but top speed seems like you are in a hurry, don't really like it, nothing but slow just won't progress events. I suggest start slow, build speed, then vary.finish fast and hard.
-watch the finger nails- scratchs distract, may hurt, and might get infected later. but a bit of teasing with the nails is like a bit of teeth in a bj- a nice treat.

 

[lovetoread]

The best way is to let him guide your hand the first time to let you know how he likes it.

I know someone that just wont get off on a regular handjob. He had something special that he liked to have done and thats all that would work.

If he had not shown me, I'd have never known.

 

[capricious_chic]

Another suggestion. Lube! Whether it be Wet, Astroglide, whatever your preference, or just good old fashioned spit, make sure your hand is lubricated. Makes giving a hand job much more fun for both. The sounds are all sticky and wet, and I am not a guy, but it seems I can apply more pressure when my hand is lubricated. Vary the speed and tempo until the very end.

 

[ub6ibfine]

Another suggestion. Lube! Whether it be Wet, Astroglide, whatever your preference, or just good old fashioned spit, make sure your hand is lubricated. Makes giving a hand job much more fun for both. The sounds are all sticky and wet, and I am not a guy, but it seems I can apply more pressure when my hand is lubricated. Vary the speed and tempo until the very end.

thank you for not letting that slip by unspoken. if im not using lotion when im jacking off i like to use my spit sometimes. it makes it very wet.

 

[sheath]

Ask him to masturbate for you...and watch closely, try to file away in your memory that way he did it...how fast, how slow, how tight, what parts of his body he focused on. And when you do it for him, ASK. ASK. ASK.

Of course, if he's tensed up and begging you not to stop, don't bother to ask.

S.

 

[Different Guy]

Hey there

I've just wandered into the realms of sexual acts too *does a little dance! Anyway, my partner gave my my first handjob a while back and it did the trick. Although she always likes to finish orally...

Speaking from a guy who'd never had a handjob before, anything is good so long as it doesn't hurt. Because my girlfriend turns me on so much, I go insane when she slips her hand down my pants and she doesn't have to do too much for me for me to enjoy it.

However I think I'm quite different to most guys in some way. I think I have a lil bit of extra foreskin that rolls back and forth over the head which means I or someone else can pump me hard, fast, slow whatever and it doesn't hurt.

Anyhoo, just sliding your hand back and forth over his whole penis is always good. Ask him, "you like that?" You're not gonna get any horrible remarks from it. He'll either moan a yes or say, "well actually...". Also, ask him if you're doing it right. That way he knows that you want to pleasure him and it's not just a chore. If you wanna shine things off, "what do you want me to do...?" is always fun! However, STAND YOUR GROUND. If you don't want to do something, DON'T! You can have your limits so stick to them