H-J service

[Shankara20]

I have a bit of a hang-up about hand-jobs. It has been difficult for me to find partners that enjoy that sort of giving without the exchange of cash for the services. Partners have felt that it is self-centered without them being the center - have bitched about how their arms have giving out before my “giving out”.- get yucked out about the results. In past relationships I have had real problems asking for a hand-job. Consequently I have a bit of an obsession about H-J’s and a huge pics collection. I’ll post some of them here - you are welcome to do the same. Critiques of the pics are encouraged.

Till today it has not crossed my mind (perverted thing that it is) how I would work out H-J service from a bottom in service to me. I like mine without lube and want my release to just go wherever it goes. How to work that into a scene has not been considered on my part - yet.

How do H-J’s play out in your relationships? What do you want or don’t want giving/receiving? Do you enjoy giving them? Do they gross you out?

Hmmm - just now realized that I was thinking about hand-on-dick H-J's, but lets include hand-in-pussy H-J's as well...

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[Shankara20]

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[Rebellious_Sub]

I get really turned on by giving a H-J. Its actually something that I ask permission to do...

Don't understand the grossed out thing, but I suppose everyone has their own likes and dislikes, I always think of the final results as my reward.

 

[dominiqque]

Mmmm handjobs and BJ's. Good or bad, my relationship with my man centers around them or should I say are the "main focus" of what we do. Is it self centered of him to want all the attention on his cock? That depends on my mood..sometimes I do want a more attention put on me, but most of the time we both enjoy what I do for him...really enjoy it. It has taken my own personal level of arousal to new heights, plus it really brings out the animal in me, more than any other sex act. I just seem to want more and more.... grinning.

 

[FurryFury]

I've never been asked in RL to give one. However in doing some research on hand jobs for a story I was writing I did include one as part of a scene. During the scene I tried all sorts of techniques including Lingam Massage.

Good link.

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/LingamMassage.htm

Fury

 

[graceanne]

I have a bit of a hang-up about hand-jobs. It has been difficult for me to find partners that enjoy that sort of giving without the exchange of cash for the services. Partners have felt that it is self-centered without them being the center - have bitched about how their arms have giving out before my “giving out”.- get yucked out about the results. In past relationships I have had real problems asking for a hand-job. Consequently I have a bit of an obsession about H-J’s and a huge pics collection. I’ll post some of them here - you are welcome to do the same. Critiques of the pics are encouraged.

Till today it has not crossed my mind (perverted thing that it is) how I would work out H-J service from a bottom in service to me. I like mine without lube and want my release to just go wherever it goes. How to work that into a scene has not been considered on my part - yet.

How do H-J’s play out in your relationships? What do you want or don’t want giving/receiving? Do you enjoy giving them? Do they gross you out?

Hmmm - just now realized that I was thinking about hand-on-dick H-J's, but lets include hand-in-pussy H-J's as well...

I'm actually really good at hand jobs. When I'm sick (or hugely pregnant) I give a lot of them. K prefers sex, though. Handjobs are something he only goes for is their's some reason that sex is out of the question. Occasionally, though, we'll mutually masturbate. Normally that's cause we're sharing a room with someone (like the kids) and are horny.

 

[the captians wench]

I love giving hand jobs. I really like to alternate between hand and mouth. If one gets tired the other takes over *giggles*. There was a time when I had the "yuck" frame of mind but now I could be covered from head to toe and would be happy as a clam and trying to lick as much up as I could *giggles*.

 

[Chicklet]

hand jobs have never grossed me out. i can't really think of a reason they would... it's hard to comprehend! however, i DO get extremely tired very quickly, and especially with my last partner it was frustrating 'cause it took so long for him to get off.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Strangely I always have thought they were only for public places when you need to be discreet.

Naturally overcoat/well placed jacket involved that kind of thing nothing to frighten the general public/horses etc.

Damn live and learn huh

 

[PerthOzMale]

A gf I know loves using oil to slowly stroke her lovers and to prolong it as much as she possibly can.

There is a skill in keeping a man at the peak as long as you possibly can, she has this skill.

 

[O'Mac]

Strangely enough, handjobs AND blowjobs have never done anything for me. Just don't fancy them.

 

[shy slave]

I find H-J's difficult for any length of time.
No matter how I try I always seem to be at the wrong angle somehow and then my wrists start to ache.
Like wench I do swop hands but I can't maintain the speed or ability in a consistant manner, which annoys me.
I prefer to do it as part of other things, however if I could get the angle, speed and rhythmn as he wants it, I would want to do it as a single act in its own right.

H-J's have always seemed to me to be something a man does too well himself to want do from start to finish. He knows at what point something needs to change and in what way, in order to give maximum pleasure. He knows what he wants to do to himself that matches the fantasy in his head, when giving a H-J I always feel I may not quite get it perfect for him.
If my wrist aches then I end up focusing on me not him, which is not the point of a H-J.
In an odd way H-J's make me feel like a failure.

I do like watching though, I like to see the small changes to where the fingers and hand move to. At what point their balls tighten and what they do to carry it onto orgasm. It gives me a better understanding of what turns him on and if those same things can be replicated with my mouth and tongue.
As for the mess, I love it. Catching an H-J in my face, mouth and hair is amazing. It really spins my mind to another place where only he, I and that split second exist.


As for someone giving me a H-J. Well at one point I would have said I don't like it.

My ex husband always used to poke two fingers in me immediately prior to fucking me. I was never sure if he was checking that he still knew where the hole was or checking the temp was correct. Either way it made me feel like an oven ready chicken being core temp tested.

Now it depends at what point its done and where in my head I am at the time. Sometimes it can send me over the edge of oblivion, other times I just think 'Yuck, it soo messy'

 

[catalina_francisco]

HJ's have been just as much a part of sexual service as any other, even when I was vanilla (lol, and also using feet instead of hands). I have arthritis in my hands which often causes cramping and extreme pain, but I figure using your hands is better than not and actually often notice more flexibility in them for a few hours afterward..bit ike knitting, takes awhie to limber them up and push through the pain, but the end result is more flexibility. The aching arms thing is just a matter of getting fit in that way...I have found it does wonders for toning the upper and lower arms, not to mention nurtures an iron grip. It amazes me how many people will not try things they do not see as 'normal' or necessary.

Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

I find H-J's difficult for any length of time.
No matter how I try I always seem to be at the wrong angle somehow and then my wrists start to ache.
Like wench I do swop hands but I can't maintain the speed or ability in a consistant manner, which annoys me.
I prefer to do it as part of other things, however if I could get the angle, speed and rhythmn as he wants it, I would want to do it as a single act in its own right.

H-J's have always seemed to me to be something a man does too well himself to want do from start to finish. He knows at what point something needs to change and in what way, in order to give maximum pleasure. He knows what he wants to do to himself that matches the fantasy in his head, when giving a H-J I always feel I may not quite get it perfect for him.
If my wrist aches then I end up focusing on me not him, which is not the point of a H-J.
In an odd way H-J's make me feel like a failure.

I do like watching though, I like to see the small changes to where the fingers and hand move to. At what point their balls tighten and what they do to carry it onto orgasm. It gives me a better understanding of what turns him on and if those same things can be replicated with my mouth and tongue.
As for the mess, I love it. Catching an H-J in my face, mouth and hair is amazing. It really spins my mind to another place where only he, I and that split second exist.


As for someone giving me a H-J. Well at one point I would have said I don't like it.

My ex husband always used to poke two fingers in me immediately prior to fucking me. I was never sure if he was checking that he still knew where the hole was or checking the temp was correct. Either way it made me feel like an oven ready chicken being core temp tested.

Now it depends at what point its done and where in my head I am at the time. Sometimes it can send me over the edge of oblivion, other times I just think 'Yuck, it soo messy'

I can totally empathize with you. I used to always worry if I was doing this right or that, was the speed right, is there enough lube, should I sqeeze more or less, just tons of questions that I didn't know the answers to and was afraid to ask. I used to have blowing my ex cause I could never get him off that way and it made me feel like I wasn't good enough. But I did like watching him masterbate. I'd study each move, notice what signals his body was giving and what he did in responce. I noticed I enjoyed the same thing with the last person I gave a hand job to. It was a new experence for me anyway as I'd never seen an uncut cock in person before, let alone handled one. I started in, but we both quickly realized I was out of my feild of expertice with this one, so I watched, and studied. I carefully took note of every move he made, and every instruction he gave. I think I did much better the next time I was given the opertunity.

 

[shy slave]

I can totally empathize with you. I used to always worry if I was doing this right or that, was the speed right, is there enough lube, should I sqeeze more or less, just tons of questions that I didn't know the answers to and was afraid to ask. I used to have blowing my ex cause I could never get him off that way and it made me feel like I wasn't good enough. But I did like watching him masterbate. I'd study each move, notice what signals his body was giving and what he did in responce. I noticed I enjoyed the same thing with the last person I gave a hand job to. It was a new experence for me anyway as I'd never seen an uncut cock in person before, let alone handled one. I started in, but we both quickly realized I was out of my feild of expertice with this one, so I watched, and studied. I carefully took note of every move he made, and every instruction he gave. I think I did much better the next time I was given the opertunity.

We should post an instruction manual on our respective 'fields of expertise'

 

[WriterDom]

Mouth, ass, pussy, hand, it's all good. I haven't found too many women who didn't like to give hand.

 

[Shankara20]

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[Shankara20]

We should post an instruction manual on our respective 'fields of expertise'

Isn't that what Talk & the Cafe are all about?

and with pics to boot.

 

[Shankara20]

I can easily see how Top can work a H-J into play - bottom tied down for instance, having his member given attention then the attention withdrawn then given again, cycle after cycle "edging" as it were. The tension can contribute to a huge release. How would bottom give that sort of attention to Top without some sort of roll changing taking place? (I know I know how fluid the rolls are for many)

Pretend set-up. I live alone, am not in relationship. I join a local play group - introduce myself as a Top/Dom, in time find someone interested in being bottom - my toy - my bitch. We play several times and everything clicks as play partners with consensual safe sex included. What sort of scene setup might I set up to include my receiving a H-J?




The coffee is starting to work. There are many more thoughts in my head (perverted thing that it is). I;ll save them for later.


Thanks for all the responses so far.

 

[Ebonyfire]

H-Js

I use in concert with bondage, edge or sensation play, and strap on fun. I do it and sometimes I force the sub to do it to my specifications. It is fun to make them do it while watching their favorite sports on TV or during commercials.

It is also fun to use a timer to make them finish in a prescribed time period or face punishment.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Strangely enough, handjobs AND blowjobs have never done anything for me. Just don't fancy them.

Now see if a sub told me that, he would see a plethora of hand job scenarios just to mess with him. As for the blowjob I would use a pump on him.

Eb

 

[Shankara20]

It is also fun to use a timer to make them finish in a prescribed time period or face punishment.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

It is fun [for me at least]

 

[M's girl]

I like giving handjobs and am told I'm pretty good at it. It's either part of our whole sex-encounter or I finish him ( ) .... sometimes I just can't help myself and HAVE to continue when I see how the tension builds and M enjoys it.... Hmmmm sweet, it really is. A great turn on and power.

 

[Shankara20]

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