H-J service

[Ebonyfire]

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Hmm nice pic . One of my favorite things to do to slave.

Eb

 

[the captians wench]

We should post an instruction manual on our respective 'fields of expertise'

And a study guide.

 

[the captians wench]

I can easily see how Top can work a H-J into play - bottom tied down for instance, having his member given attention then the attention withdrawn then given again, cycle after cycle "edging" as it were. The tension can contribute to a huge release. How would bottom give that sort of attention to Top without some sort of roll changing taking place? (I know I know how fluid the rolls are for many)

Pretend set-up. I live alone, am not in relationship. I join a local play group - introduce myself as a Top/Dom, in time find someone interested in being bottom - my toy - my bitch. We play several times and everything clicks as play partners with consensual safe sex included. What sort of scene setup might I set up to include my receiving a H-J?




The coffee is starting to work. There are many more thoughts in my head (perverted thing that it is). I;ll save them for later.


Thanks for all the responses so far.

Shankie, I'm a little confused. Are you working this as you are the top, or the bottom?

 

[satindesire]

Handjobs are something that never happened a lot in my last relationships, not because I or my partners didn't enjoy them..I guess I don't really know why. Hm. In this one, my Dom and I had a really good time last night. He told me to put on a miniskirt and some lingerie (stockings, garter skirt, lacy bra-top) and we started with a nice long massage of his lower back and legs. After he turned over I saw that he was, quite impressivly I might add, fully aroused. I gave him a long but gentle handjob with the warming massage oil (Thank You KY!), which then finish with me in his lap still fully clothed riding him slowly until he came all over my breasts.

I LOVED to watch my little white fingers stroke him...his skin is very dark and the contrast is beautiful and striking. It was incredibly arousing...so much so that I think I want to do that again. And again. And again, and again...well, you get the point.

 

[Shankara20]

Shankie, I'm a little confused. Are you working this as you are the top, or the bottom?

Top - wanting a H-J as part of a scene


that was written this morning before the coffee fully kicked in - sorry, I was horny, lonely, cranky and low on coffee. The coffee has smoothed out the cranky part now.

 

[SouthernDom]

I'm addict for a good H-j, given right with lots of nipple stim and s-l-o-w-l-y taken to the point of climax i have had my most intense orgasms & strongest ejaculations ever.

 

[the captians wench]

Top - wanting a H-J as part of a scene


that was written this morning before the coffee fully kicked in - sorry, I was horny, lonely, cranky and low on coffee. The coffee has smoothed out the cranky part now.

Well it's been my experience with certian doms that that was how I was to great them. They told me once, on our first play session, to eighter blow or hand, first thing, so they got off right away. Then it was just understood this would be what happened every time we began a session.

does that help any?

 

[BiBunny]

I don't mind giving hand jobs, really I don't, but I have a bad habit of getting distracted. For someone with a short attention span and the oral fixation from hell, I'm always secretly plotting ways of getting my mouth on that cock. *Sighs* You have to feel sorry for the poor guy, don't you?

 

[Shankara20]

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[Ebonyfire]

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So Shanky, what panties did you wear today? Inquiring minds want to know.

Eb

 

[Shankara20]

So Shanky, what panties did you wear today? Inquiring minds want to know.

Eb

white cotton pure like me

see av

 

[Ebonyfire]

white cotton pure like me

see av

White cotton? Depressed? Where's the color?

 

[Shankara20]

White cotton? Depressed? Where's the color?

some days are just white days - but today is another day

 

[Ebonyfire]

some days are just white days - but today is another day

Is that a little monkey on those?

I applaud you. You put a lot more work into yours than I do to mine. All I care about is that they fit, and they are cotton.

Eb

 

[Shankara20]

Is that a little monkey on those?

I applaud you. You put a lot more work into yours than I do to mine. All I care about is that they fit, and they are cotton.

Eb

Yes, that is a little monkey.

Panties have become an expression for me and i have fun playing with, and in, them

On a day to day bases in summer for something under my clothing all I want cotton that fits, same as you.

 

[Shankara20]

Sometimes when I'm bored and at a loss of what to do with excess energy I masturbate. I can make it a game and be creative and take time to build heat and have a good time and a great release. Other times I just do it without ever really engaging in the act. I get off, but in a ho-hum sort of way.

I think that can be the same with H-J's. If a couple are just setting around watching TV, little bored and lethargic and he asks to be jacked-off it can be a ho-hum experience. If he doesn't have any "heat" and partner just starts to whack away it can exhaust a set of arms before any results are seen. On the other hand (hee hee) if time is taken and creativity used and some edging takes place, there can be an explosive results.

Anything to add?

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[tealsphynx]

I like to use h-j and b-j as a reward/treat for my sub. he's quite happy whackin it himself, but it's something special when I do it. I suprised him lastnight. He had a really long boring day at work (they went to the firing range all day in the sun, dust and in full gear too) and he was sitting on the couch unwinding when I started to stroke him. I told him to close his eyes and did a few deepthroating strokes too. It's refreshing for those activities to be on my terms. I had an ex that expected that everyday he got off by me somehow, either sex, hand or mouth it did'nt matter if I was exhausted from my day, not in the mood, even if I was ill it was still expected that I do it or he started a fight.

 

[JMohegan]

Partners have felt that it is self-centered without them being the center - have bitched about how their arms have giving out before my “giving out”.- get yucked out about the results.

Waaaaay back in the day, I would have said - I feel your pain.

In my (heterosexual) experience, women seem to fall into one of two groups.

Group 1: Those who appreciate a cock buried in the pink, but are uncomfortable or even disgusted by up-close hand or mouth contact, *especially* with "the results".

Group 2: Those who are fascinated by the equipment, crave close contact with it, and express an affection for the cock that mirrors their affection for the man himself.

A buddy of mine in college used to jokingly bemoan the fact that Rorschach never developed a card to test for Group 1/2 behavior in women, thus saving a lot time & energy spent in the initial stages of dating women in the less desirable category.

This reminds me of a series of posts I read, months ago, while lurking here at Lit. Someone posted a black & white photo of a woman holding a cock pressed up against her cheek. The great part was not so much the photo itself, but the reactions to it from women on the board. I thought of my old friend right away, and laughed out loud. The photo wasn't exactly an inkblot, but the reactions were classic Group 2.

I can easily see how Top can work a H-J into play - bottom tied down for instance, having his member given attention then the attention withdrawn then given again, cycle after cycle "edging" as it were. The tension can contribute to a huge release. How would bottom give that sort of attention to Top without some sort of roll changing taking place?

Top says - pay attention. I will do something to you, and then I'll expect you to do the same thing to me.

Top ties partner, cycles, etc.

Change places (with or without restraints). Top says - your turn.

I don't see this as changing roles. I see it more as the Top giving explicit instructions, and expecting them to be obeyed.

As for the mindset of the bottom, I don't think that an urge to get off on control is necessary in order for edging to be performed well. A sense of playfulness lends itself it very well to this scenario, as does the urge to follow specific instructions to please the mate.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Group 2: Those who are fascinated by the equipment, crave close contact with it, and express an affection for the cock that mirrors their affection for the man himself

This Domme is firmly in the Group 2 camp.

The great thing about owning a slave is that you own all of him. And since his cock is yours, you can do pretty much what you want to it, as long as you do not harm him.

If you break your toy, you cannot play with him.

Eb

 

[the captians wench]

small thread jack

This Domme is firmly in the Group 2 camp.

The great thing about owning a slave is that you own all of him. And since his cock is yours, you can do pretty much what you want to it, as long as you do not harm him.

If you break your toy, you cannot play with him.

Eb

Okay I know that this is off topic but I'm putting it out there anyway.

I LOVE that Master has started to refur to me as "his toy". He's been wanting pics of my next session and I have a hard time phrazing things so that the dom friend of mine will do what I request. Master's reply was "then he can't play with my toy any more". I felt a flush pour over me and grew very wet. Amazing how a simple word can do that.

Okay back to the subject at hand as it were.

 

[Shankara20]

but it's something special when I do it.

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it was still expected that I do it or he started a fight.

there is a difference between "demanding" and "consensual doing as your told"

a hj done as service is a joy

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[Shankara20]

As for the mindset of the bottom, I don't think that an urge to get off on control is necessary in order for edging to be performed well. A sense of playfulness lends itself it very well to this scenario, as does the urge to follow specific instructions to please the mate.

great reply, thanks I like the reference to "playfulness" not to be confused with "silliness"

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[@}-}rebecca----]

Good Morning Shank..........smiles

 

[Shankara20]

Okay I know that this is off topic but I'm putting it out there anyway.

I LOVE that Master has started to refur to me as "his toy". He's been wanting pics of my next session and I have a hard time phrazing things so that the dom friend of mine will do what I request. Master's reply was "then he can't play with my toy any more". I felt a flush pour over me and grew very wet. Amazing how a simple word can do that.

Okay back to the subject at hand as it were.

cool


now back to what's at hand

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[Shankara20]

Good Morning Shank..........smiles

Sis!