Guys have yoou ever been disappointed thusly

[ewopper]

I once went with a woman that after the initial four or five times of sex i would rather watch tv, she had little experience and she was in her 40's It got so i didn't look forward to sex with her becauseI felt that it was a one way thing. in foreplayI would devote extensive time to building her to the threshold but I feel I got little in return, needless to say it fizzled out real quickly, it also had an affect on me where i always wonder when having sex with someone new for the first time will it be like sex with her. and ladies please no personal attacks, just to let you know that all the time it's not the guys who won't be warm and affectionate [ grin ]

 

[bholderman]

I haven't quite gotten this fed up with my wife on this apect yet. But she watches entirely too much tv. So much, in fact, I have developed a bit of hatred for it. The sound of the television drives me nuts, what's worse is the sound of channel surfing. My wife will spend hour doing this without completely watching anything.

SO, I nomrally barricade myself in the kitchen, puttering around, dishes etc., while gritting my teeth at the sound. It definitely turns me off in any kind of romantic mood. There are even times when I thought we were headed towards sex, only to have the bedroom tv flipped on. Then she wonders why I'm not in the mood anymore.

Cheers,
Brad

 

[luv1]

yes saddly, there have been more then a couple....quite a few more. There was one ex who loved it when we sneaked off for a quicky on a late night fun out at a gig which would entailed me going down on her (which I love doing... can't resist a bit of fanny) till she cam but I would have to wank myself as she "wasn't in the mood". Even when she was giving head it was for only a few strokes and then it was "I'm too tired". I even faked an orgasm more then once with her (not that hard if you use a condom. One time I just used spit, it was dark and to her slime was just slime). Not the best time in my life. The funny thing was she dumped me.

 

[SlickTony]

I haven't quite gotten this fed up with my wife on this apect yet. But she watches entirely too much tv. So much, in fact, I have developed a bit of hatred for it. The sound of the television drives me nuts, what's worse is the sound of channel surfing. My wife will spend hour doing this without completely watching anything.

SO, I nomrally barricade myself in the kitchen, puttering around, dishes etc., while gritting my teeth at the sound. It definitely turns me off in any kind of romantic mood. There are even times when I thought we were headed towards sex, only to have the bedroom tv flipped on. Then she wonders why I'm not in the mood anymore.

Cheers,
Brad

Wow--talk about role reversal. Usually it's the guys who watch TV at inopportune times. I still remember one time when my first husband and I did it in the living room, and he had me mount him reverse cowgirl style and he angled his head to one side so he could keep on watching the damn football (soccer) game. I added it to my growing list of grounds.

 

[lizaveta]

If she didn't have a lot of experience, maybe she just didn't know what you wanted her to do. It never hurts to ask for things you'd like to try, even in a newer relationship.

Rest assured that most women really do want to please you, even if they aren't sure how. This was definitely the case with my friend's girlfriend; his story was very similar to yours at first. Finally he brought it up with her, and she really had no idea he wasn't satisfied.

I'm happy to report she's learned a WHOLE lot about pleasing her man since then. LOL

Anyway, sorry to bring the estrogen. Carry on.

 

[ewopper]

Glad to know I'm not the lone Ranger

wow it helps to know I'm not the only guy that has experienced this it seems the media and all the talk shows make us guys out to be insensitive to a woman's needs but if she don't put forth some effort we'll eventually lose interest too, thank you all for commenting. is looking to meet that walmart woman[ her legs stay open 24-7 lol

 

[LotusDreamer]

I agree with Liza. If the woman was in her 40's and showed little experience in the bedroom, that should've been your cue to find out why that was. Maybe she didn't know letting go of her inhibitions would be a good thing.

Probing for details can be an exciting journey.

 

[ewopper]

If she didn't have a lot of experience, maybe she just didn't know what you wanted her to do. It never hurts to ask for things you'd like to try, even in a newer relationship.

Rest assured that most women really do want to please you, even if they aren't sure how. This was definitely the case with my friend's girlfriend; his story was very similar to yours at first. Finally he brought it up with her, and she really had no idea he wasn't satisfied.

I'm happy to report she's learned a WHOLE lot about pleasing her man since then. LOL

Anyway, sorry to bring the estrogen. Carry on.

Ionce dated a girl that told me she would never even try oral but i found out later oreck vacum cleaners wanted to interview her about her technique lmao

 

[Eilan]

C-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n!!!!!

 

[ewopper]

If she didn't have a lot of experience, maybe she just didn't know what you wanted her to do. It never hurts to ask for things you'd like to try, even in a newer relationship.

Rest assured that most women really do want to please you, even if they aren't sure how. This was definitely the case with my friend's girlfriend; his story was very similar to yours at first. Finally he brought it up with her, and she really had no idea he wasn't satisfied.

I'm happy to report she's learned a WHOLE lot about pleasing her man since then. LOL

Anyway, sorry to bring the estrogen. Carry on.

I've dated some women who only had two moves... lay Down and get up lmao please ladies no angry looks I'm only joking

 

[zartol]

C-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n!!!!!

That's very true. Don't be afraid to say something... in a loving and kind way. Give her some encouragement. A little talk now will save a whole bunch of grief later. And think of the fun you'll have.

 

[Missingmeds]

C-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n!!!!!

That is so true. If a man doesn't tell me that he isn't being satisfied how am I suppose to know? After all, I am not a mind reader.

 

[Private_Label]

I've dated some women who only had two moves... lay Down and get up lmao please ladies no angry looks I'm only joking

Have you bothered to tell her that maybe you would like a bit more adventure?

 

[ewopper]

Have you bothered to tell her that maybe you would like a bit more adventure?

that was a long time ago. I got over it, besides It's no big deal. I was just trying to add a little humor.

 

[ewopper]

I agree with Liza. If the woman was in her 40's and showed little experience in the bedroom, that should've been your cue to find out why that was. Maybe she didn't know letting go of her inhibitions would be a good thing.

Probing for details can be an exciting journey.

That's true but in a lot of cases it all comes down to her and wanting to please her man. I notice women always want the man to go that extra mile, and granted... women have the pussy... and it's good, but that's not all there is to it. I'm sure the women in here that has gone that extra mile will attest to the fact that if they put forth some effort and imagination their man will meet her halfway unless she has one who is a player. And finally
any woman or man that has sex halfheartedly or only do it as a duty or imagined duty is going to wind up spending many lonekly nights while in a relationship.Sad to say there are too many willing women out there for a man to take the grief. vice versa for the women. Until I find a mama with minimum drama I'll be jerking off like a dinosaur having spasms lmao. I refuse to take the BS. But that's me, I don't ask no one to agree with me. Ive been to the water... and walked that extra mile. Frankly I am tired of hearing I wish we had stayed together. I'm not a genie you rub me all you're gonna get is an erection lmao

 

[Exciteher]

C-o-m-m-u-n-i-c-a-t-i-o-n!!!!!

Eilan,
You continuously renew my faith in humanity. Totally d-a-s-h-i-n-g.

...it also had an affect on me where i always wonder when having sex with someone new for the first time will it be like sex with her.

Resist with all you might the urge to generalize this experience to any other woman. I have no idea what the dynamic between you two was, but from what you say I gather it did not work. If it is any consolation to you, I have had that happen to me too. But please be honest with me, in the time BEFORE you had your four or five lusty times, AND as you were discovering each other... it was not really working then either. Am I right?

 

[ewopper]

Eilan,
You continuously renew my faith in humanity. Totally d-a-s-h-i-n-g.



Resist with all you might the urge to generalize this experience to any other woman. I have no idea what the dynamic between you two was, but from what you say I gather it did not work. If it is any consolation to you, I have had that happen to me too. But please be honest with me, in the time BEFORE you had your four or five lusty times, AND as you were discovering each other... it was not really working then either. Am I right?

To be honest No... it wasn't, but she was very attractive; and I was smitten by her beauty, what effort went toward the relationship was mostly on my part