Guilty?

[Quoll]

What do/did you feel guilty about?
Why do you think you feel that way?
Have you overcome your guilt? How?








Sic 'em Cate.

 

[reddelicious]

I'm thinking about having random anonymous sex (or giving a random anonymous blowjob) to someone who has a girlfriend.

 

[human_male]

I'm thinking about having random anonymous sex (or giving a random anonymous blowjob) to someone who has a girlfriend.

Are you sure you want to go there? Is he that hot? Aren't there any nice single men near Toronto?

 

[reddelicious]

Not sure... leaning 90% towards no, but want yes. Hence the guilt.

 

[human_male]

Not sure... leaning 90% towards no, but want yes. Hence the guilt.

Well if it's as much as 90% think about giving yourself a bit more time to meet someone single. I mean, is it just going to be a one off thing or if it goes well would you like it to happen again? If so, imagine how you're gonna feel about that if it becomes a regular thing.

On the other hand, he's the one who's cheating, not you. So if you do decide to go for it don't feel too bad.

 

[INeedLove]

No guilt here







Doesn't every parent feel guilty for something related to their kids? (I guess that's a rhetorical question)

 

[Carnevil9]

Well if it's as much as 90% think about giving yourself a bit more time to meet someone single.

The nice thing about fooling around with attached people is that there is less probability of it turning into a relationship......Carney

 

[Cathleen]

What do/did you feel guilty about?
Why do you think you feel that way?
Have you overcome your guilt? How?








Sic 'em Cate.

Hey, what's that about? I didn't do it, I swear, really I do, I wasn't even there -- I'm just walking away on this one Qman.

 

[Cathleen]

Well if it's as much as 90% think about giving yourself a bit more time to meet someone single. I mean, is it just going to be a one off thing or if it goes well would you like it to happen again? If so, imagine how you're gonna feel about that if it becomes a regular thing.

On the other hand, he's the one who's cheating, not you. So if you do decide to go for it don't feel too bad.

Well, ummm...ah, let's just say guilt or unpleasant feelings are not just reserved for the cheater, the accomplice might have a conscious too.

 

[Mazuri]

What do/did you feel guilty about?

Used to feel guilty about a lot of things in my marriage: not enjoying sex, masturbation, being unhappy, lying, etc.

Why do you think you feel that way?

The sex issues were due to my own upbringing and misconceptions on what I thought my husband would enjoy, accept, and understand. Lying...well, that's pretty self explanatory. I can't lie without feeling guilty and I did it for a while and that just compounded on itself. Being unhappy made me feel guilty because I had everything...and still that didn't make me happy. I had a wonderful husband, a lovely child, didn't have to work if I didn't have to, supportive family in my hobbies and pursuits, etc...but I was miserable. Feeling guilty about it made it even worse.

Have you overcome your guilt? How?

For the most part, I have, and it was through a lot of soul searching and communication with my spouse. We ditched the sex issues by simply talking and listening and believing what the other was saying. If he said he didn't care if I masturbated, I didn't look for other meanings to his words, I took them as he meant them...at face value. We explored what we liked, what we didn't, and what we were willing to try. And we made sure we let each other know it was OK to not like something the other did and it was OK to say so.

The lying...well, I came clean, both to myself and my husband. We worked through that together. It's still an issue, but it's less of one with each day.

With the other things, the unhappiness has definitely lessened over time. I am far happier and more content than I ever remember being. The happier I am, the more comfortable I am in talking with the hubby about things that worry me which resolves more problems which makes me happier....a rather nice circle I believe

 

[Eilan]

I can't remember not feeling guilty.

 

[silverwhisper]

eilan: you shouldn't.

ed

 

[Eilan]

eilan: you shouldn't.

ed

I know I shouldn't.

 

[Sarojaede]

I think I'm like Eilan. I can't remember not feeling guilty. I carry way too much guilt around with me about way too many things.

 

[silverwhisper]

ladies, both of you are better people than you know, than you dare to let yourself feel, so stop fucking feeling guilty for things beyond your control.

ed

edit: BG, that goes for you, too.

 

[bobsgirl]

I can't remember not feeling guilty.

Oh boy, is this ever me. Everything is my fault, and when it's not my fault, I feel guilty that I should have been able to stop it (whatever IT is).

It's the single biggest thing I would change about myself if I could.

 

[Quoll]

Now I feel guilty for starting this thread.

 

[Eilan]

Now I feel guilty for starting this thread.

Now I feel guilty that you're guilty.

 

[silverwhisper]

[trout-smacks quoll]

quit that, you.

ed

 

[Flyin_Free]

Oh boy, is this ever me. Everything is my fault, and when it's not my fault, I feel guilty that I should have been able to stop it (whatever IT is).

It's the single biggest thing I would change about myself if I could.

Oh wow is that ever me! And it's one of the things I really AM trying to change about me!

 

[bisexplicit]

Oh boy, is this ever me. Everything is my fault, and when it's not my fault, I feel guilty that I should have been able to stop it (whatever IT is).

I think it comes from our mothers.

Or at least /my/ mother.

 

[Quoll]

Now I feel guilty that you're guilty.

Oh no, now I feel guilty for making you feel even more guilty as well feeling guilty for starting this thread.

 

[Quoll]

[trout-smacks quoll]

quit that, you.

ed

[hangs head in shame & guilt]
[do it man, I'm the guilty one here]

 

[silverwhisper]

[gives quoll the mother of all atomic wedgies]



ed

 

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