Guilt VS Pleasure

[MorgaineLaFay]

How do you spend your days off?

Do you feel guilty when you spend time on your self? Time alone away from your SO or children? Away from Friends? Do you enjoy spending time alone, on your own?


To answer my own question, I enjoy my time alone. Maybe that comes from being an only child, who knows. But I feel guilty, at times (because of my current situation) for taking times out for my self.

I am curious how others spend their time and how they feel about it. Is your private time spent here? With Friends? Reading a book? Browsing in a store? Lingering in a coffee shop of strangers?

 

[Guest]

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Every day is a day off for me

But, hopefully, my return to work is imminent.

I love my work, I have to be careful not to let it consume me. So, I always made time on the weekend, just for me. I didn't feel guilty about it, everyone needs "me" time

Did you get my PM Doll Face? This is why I love ya .. you are so there.

How can I describe this? Sometimes you see people (or I do) and I look at them, and from my glance, some people look whole, to ME, meaning they look, bien dans sa peau ...Comfortable in their own skin..it can be their words or the way they carry them sevles..

 

[freescorfr]

Did you get my PM Doll Face? This is why I love ya .. you are so there.

How can I describe this? Sometimes you see people (or I do) and I look at them, and from my glance, some people look whole, to ME, meaning they look, bien dans sa peau ...Comfortable in their own skin..it can be their words or the way they carry them sevles..

Vie libre - bien dans sa peau, bien dans son corps et bien dans ses relations.

Yes, it's possible. Something's going to happen for you, Morgy, I feel it.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I will be spending the day at home by myself tomorrow. I will be sleeping (hopefully) in the throes of guiltless snoring. I don't ever feel guilty about "me" time. I'm too selfish for that.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Comfortable in their own skin..it can be their words or the way they carry them sevles..

Or even ... safe in my own skin?

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Or even ... safe in my own skin?

Aahh Cheffie..there you are again.. and Yes safe in one's own skin...

 

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[MorgaineLaFay]

Yeah ... I knew I liked ya!

 

[kotori]

. . . But I feel guilty, at times . . .

I feel guilty all the time, no matter what I choose. (Kinda numbs a lot of the pleasure.)

 

[Hamletmaschine]

What is a "day off"? I am unfamiliar with this concept.

 

[Cheyenne]

I don't feel guilty for doing what I want to do when I want to do it. It is one of the main benefits of being single and living alone.

 

[VanB]

I only feel guilty if I get caught up doing something that detracts from the quality time I spend with my daughter. Otherwise zero guilt

 

[ksmybuttons]

I gave up on guilt.

Since guilt comes from trying to live up to others' expectations, (or what I perceive them to be,) I gave it up.

I live up to my own and since I like to feel good, I usually meet them. Being an adult, I have obligations. I meet those, too.
Why not?

I always take some time for myself. I take Wednesdays off from work just so I can do that. I always know I have that day if there are too many external forces pushing on me.

It took me a long time to get to this point. Works for me.

 

[Wave_Rider]

I begin each DAY with ............................

A long run on the sand......................giving me the chance to cleanse my mind of yesterday's problems and begin to prepare for the upcoming day's ones........

After the run, I take some "Derek" time.....sitting on the sand......on MY spot........watching the light change over the ocean.......and my mind drifts.......to a more personal level........allowing me to "feel" and "react" to wonderful images.......

GUILT? Never............I give toooooooooooooo much of myself each day and night....to ever let that "emotion' find itself in me.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I take my alone time when I know it won't interfere with time with my kids.

Every morning when I drop them off at preschool, I go to the local diner and have breakfast. I drink coffee, read a book, smoke, eavesdrop on the old farmers in for their morning gossip session... it's relaxing, and I get to be alone and at the same time feel connected to my community.

After the kids are asleep at night, I go outside and sit on the porch and just enjoy the night sounds.

I used to feel extreme guilt for needing time to myself. I worked my ass off to make everyone else happy, and nearly lost myself in the process. I'm getting much better at being selfish enough to meet my own needs, acknowledge my self, and take care of me. It's been a battle, and sometimes, I still feel pangs of guilt if I want time for me while there's something else I 'should' be doing.

 

[Wiggles]

I always take time for myself. I demand it, can't live without it.

I have no guilt for it. I am too young to take the weight of everyones problems on my shoulders and not have some time for me.

I do different things in my down time, usually reading, movies, games. Don't have anything set in stone.

 

[Summery]

I used to feel a lot of guilt about spending any time at all away from my son the first few years after he was born. Every time I went out with my friends and did anything without him, I never truly enjoyed myself as guilt would over take me.
But in the last year, I have learned to not carry that guilt. I have found the balance between time for my son, and time for my own self. Which is also truly beneficial to both of us. Taking care of my own needs sometimes makes things healthier for all around me. Though, I can honestly admit I still have a few moments of guilt every now and again. *Like when I am thinking of a vacation alone without him* I speculate this is normal for parents. Or I am just strange.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I spend my time off .... sleeping.
I love my sleep, I enjoy just sleeping and dreaming away.

I will go out to a book store or simply kick back and catch up on my "Queer as Folk " tapes or at times I will go to the movies.

I , some times feel guilty because I have an off day and my family & or friends are stuck working or some thing. But that only lasts for a couple of minutes then I go back to sleep. *Zzzzzzz*

 

[Nicole25]

I feel guilt a lot. I don't get much free time to be alone. I work all day and have my partner and son all evening. When I do get time to myself I feel I should be doing things around the house.

 

[CarolineOh]

I don't feel guilty for doing what I want to do when I want to do it. It is one of the main benefits of being single and living alone.

I'm with you on that. I had the day off and I spent most of it sitting here, reading stories,eating cheese and olives, and watching it snow. And I don't feed one tiny bit guilty!

 

[vylette]

my free time

i really enjoy my free time...and when i have some i love to spend the day looking around the net...but yes to answer your question i feel extremely guilty if i take time all to myself...but i just try to remember i deserve it too....we all need some time alone

 

[freakygirl]

Guilt is going to kill me someday.. it's my worst enemy.

My time? a few minutes in the bathroom.. the few minutes it takes me to drive to the school to drop off and pick up my daughter... that's about it really..