Okay, a friend of mine who I have spanked a few tiems has just recently gotten into BDSM more serriously. And well, Im jealous that Im not the one spanking her. I have a wonderful girlfriend who I spank every so often but there has always been something about this girl that just gets to me. My girlfriend sees it to, she has had a crush on this girl since 5th grade. Any way I could get over my jealous streak?
Green Eyed Monster
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John_Mira said:
Well, I take a shot, but mind you there is no hard and fast rule when it comes to feelings. Often the best we can hope for is to understand why we feel a certain way, and accept it, or make steps to change it based on the understanding we have.
Jealousy has many faces, but at the core, there is always one truth.
This truth is...the person feeling jealous, has some how got the notion in their head/heart, that another is getting what should be rightfully thiers. This may be ture or false depending on the situation. For example, if two people agree to exclusiveness, then one goes and give their affection to another, jealousy would be justified, as the love and attention is rightfully that person's by mutual agreement.
I can see how your feeling toward this other friend and the fact you have "spanked" her before, may give you feelings of...ownership(maybe poor wording here, but I think you can follow what I am trying to say).
Chances are she was just exploring when you first spanked her and you were a person she could trust. At that time the door of opportunity was still mostly closed, but now that she has embraced BDSM the door is wide open...You may have been the trusted friend who helped open the door, but you are not the one who she let walk through the door, nor the one she is getting spanked by or calling Sir/Maam.
If she does not have a Dom/me currently and both you and your gf like her, maybe she is open to possibilities. However, you should exmine carefully why you feel you should be the one getting to spank her, and not the current person of her choosing.
Perhaps by doing this, you will come to an understanding why she has chosen someone else to do the spanking, and though you may not be totaly happy with that, at least you can find some acceptance and respect her decision and choice.
A question - have you asked her why she didn't consider you when she came to embrace the BDSM lifestyle? You may find she didn't think you were available because of your existing relationship to your gf.
Bottom line, regardless of all the circumstances and feelings surrounding this, you feel it should be your hand spanking her ass and enjoying all the bennies that come with that...yet I am saying its her ass, and she has a right to chose the hand that touches it. Swallow hard and live with it, respecting her choice.
This may not take away the "feeling" of jealousy, but at least you can mentally battle the feeling knowing you are respecting your friend's choice in the matter.
Hope you can find some help in there somewhere.
Good luck
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Re: Re: Green Eyed Monster
*raises her hand*
yup
RJMasters said:
*raises her hand*
yup
