Gratitude

[MissTaken]

How does showing or demonstrating gratitude play into your D/s relationship?

When you exhibit gratitude, are you always doing so because you truly feel thankful for what your Dom/me or sub has given or do you show gratitude out of habit, or because it is expected?

Do you have any protocols for gratitude?
i.e. requirements that state that the Dominant is to be thanked for orgasms, directions, discipline etc.?

 

[bunny bondage]

we're still working on the groundwork of the D/s aspect of our relationship. taking it slowly and all. and while we've made leaps and bounds in the past few months (read my latest post in "kinkiest experience ever"), there's no "protocol" as such. we're working on it, though. for instance, every time i nibble my nails (i do this quite often, sometimes on purpose!) He's quick to inform me that this is an infraction. so the rules are slowly coming into existance.

but back to the point of gratitude!

i often make it a point to thank Him for a particularly wonderful sexual experience, usually as i'm snuggling up with him afterwords. He always smiles and kisses me, and knows that i say it because i really really needed 'fill in the blank' and enjoyed it very much.

i'll also thank Him if we go out to do something that i need to get done. recently, i desperatly need more books, having read my library through about a zillion times, and i was on the search for a really great bookstore. so He took me to one and was good enough to browse around while i picked through the books in hopes of finding more Douglas Addams or Weiss and Hickman. as we walked out, i thanked Him for coming with me even though it was something that i wanted to take care of. and consequently, He'll thank me when i get His dry cleaning, teach His class (yes, i got to do this! it was SO fun!) or have His favorite lunch waiting for Him. so yes, there's lots of "thank you's" being passed around, and every one of them is sincere!

 

[James G 5]

How does showing or demonstrating gratitude play into your D/s relationship?

When you exhibit gratitude, are you always doing so because you truly feel thankful for what your Dom/me or sub has given or do you show gratitude out of habit, or because it is expected?

Do you have any protocols for gratitude?
i.e. requirements that state that the Dominant is to be thanked for orgasms, directions, discipline etc.?

Depends on the person & situation
I always try to show gratitude to my playmate, especially if it's a special occasion thing or with someone who's not a regular play partner

As for me, I always appreciate a "Thank You"
A hug after is nice
One lady wrote a few poems about our play experiences, that was sweet
I like Moon to kiss my boots
She does it very well, and it's extremly gratifying
I accepted oral sex as a thank you once...the lady in question requested it as a way of showing how thankful she was

I never EXPECT any of these things tho

Much as I get weirded out when someone I don't know calls me "Sir" (I feel the term is one of respect that should be EARNED), I feel thanks should be something freely & honestly given, or they have no meaning

I've said before I can't enjoy a partner doing something with me physically if she's not TRULY enjoying it & doing it for herself as much as for me
Same thing with thanks....if they're rote, why bother?

Have I rambled on enough yet?

 

[Shadowsdream]

My slave crawls into My arms every night, wraps his entire body around Mine and lays his head on My breast as he thanks Me for taking him to slavery and allowing him to be My pet...he is sincere about it and that single sentence never becomes stale for U/us.
Every time I Dominate him especially hard he thanks Me in honest gratitude, several times.

 

[bunny bondage]

My slave crawls into My arms every night, wraps his entire body around Mine and lays his head on My breast as he thanks Me for taking him to slavery and allowing him to be My pet...he is sincere about it and that single sentence never becomes stale for U/us.
Every time I Dominate him especially hard he thanks Me in honest gratitude, several times.

awwww! *gushes* that is SOOOO cute!

 

[MissTaken]

My slave crawls into My arms every night, wraps his entire body around Mine and lays his head on My breast as he thanks Me for taking him to slavery and allowing him to be My pet...he is sincere about it and that single sentence never becomes stale for U/us.
Every time I Dominate him especially hard he thanks Me in honest gratitude, several times.

That is part of where I was heading with this thread.

There are times when we, as submissive, feel grateful and "chosen." We feel fortunate for having been permitted the opportunities granted by having that particular Dom.

One particular Dom, required that when he spanked or flogged me, I count to six. He would stop, then I was required to thank him. Now, it sounds a silly ritual, but as we moved forward into the scene and I began slipping further into subspace, my gratitude was terribly sincere and ultimately, I not only thanked him, but asked for more.

And thank YOU Shadowsdream, for sharing a particularly beautiful avatar.

 

[Richard49]

IMHO gratitude runs far beyond a thank you
far beyond that day

No it does not mean that you owe forever

It means you respect the person and the "gift"

 

[Shadowsdream]

That is part of where I was heading with this thread.

There are times when we, as submissive, feel grateful and "chosen." We feel fortunate for having been permitted the opportunities granted by having that particular Dom.

One particular Dom, required that when he spanked or flogged me, I count to six. He would stop, then I was required to thank him. Now, it sounds a silly ritual, but as we moved forward into the scene and I began slipping further into subspace, my gratitude was terribly sincere and ultimately, I not only thanked him, but asked for more.

And thank YOU Shadowsdream, for sharing a particularly beautiful avatar.

I thought you might enjoy the glimpse of My slaves eye looking up at Me...but now I am back in basic black ~~grin~~

 

[Ebonyfire]

I thought you might enjoy the glimpse of My slaves eye looking up at Me...but now I am back in basic black ~~grin~~

I missed it!
See what happens when I stay away a couple of days?
Eb

 

[calypso_21]

How does showing or demonstrating gratitude play into your D/s relationship?

When you exhibit gratitude, are you always doing so because you truly feel thankful for what your Dom/me or sub has given or do you show gratitude out of habit, or because it is expected?

I've never been one to show gratitude to anyone for something I didn't truly deeply feel thankful about. False gratitude is a pet peeve of mine. If I'm thankful, you will know it. It doesn't matter if it is expected...it happens. I am grateful and happy for anything and everything we share.

I think showing my pleasure in the moment and how happy I am with Him and even telling Him how thankful I am goes a long way to showing Him how important He is to me.

Though I have to admit sometimes no matter if I say it, show it, feel it...I'm not sure if He knows how deeply.

 

[MystiqDrgn]

Gratitude can be as simple as being obedient to the one who owns you. ~M~

 

[cellis]

I am not very good at showing gratitude... I never have been... but I make it a point to thank Him for taking me where I need to go when we play... I always want Him to know how special He is and how special the time we spend together is to me.

 

[Richard49]

Re: Re: Gratitude

I've never been one to show gratitude to anyone for something I didn't truly deeply feel thankful about. False gratitude is a pet peeve of mine. If I'm thankful, you will know it. It doesn't matter if it is expected...it happens. I am grateful and happy for anything and everything we share.

I think showing my pleasure in the moment and how happy I am with Him and even telling Him how thankful I am goes a long way to showing Him how important He is to me.

Though I have to admit sometimes no matter if I say it, show it, feel it...I'm not sure if He knows how deeply.

We Doms do not have full mind reading ablities

plus we to know that what we think we precieve many not be anything but our egos and desires