Got a vasectomy...

[Pookie]

the whole cob?

Too funny.

 

[jezzilee]

Too funny.

So is your Av... Love the Christmas spirit!

 

[jezzilee]

We've been there...kinda funny that it's close to the same time of year.

When our daughter and her hubby announced that thier baby was coming...we decided it'd be really awkward if I got preggers at that time.

SO, My husband was the big man...brave man..he stepped up to have the vasectomy. Awkward time tho..it was 2 days before Thanksgiving.

It all worked out ok tho...his Doctor told him to keep his scrotum on ice....and I had a turkey to thaw.


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This gives a whole new meaning to giving someone the bird.

 

[Pookie]

So is your Av... Love the Christmas spirit!

Thanks!

 

[Not Normal]

I had a vasectomy about 7-8 years ago. There was a slight complication on the left side that was quite uncomfortable as it was happening. I spend the weekend with frozen peas on my balls and walking in short steps. My doc prefers tests for sperm count instead of x number of ejaculations, Once I got the "all clear" there was never a problem.

I have never once regretted the decision, and actually wish I had done it earlier in life.

 

[evesdream]

Why not just use them now?

Sorry, I had to go but I wanted to add that we had to wait until both of us were ready. Having a child is kind of a big deal.

I was offered the opportunity to freeze eggs some years ago. I decided, with much regret, that infertility was my future, it was for a reason. I would have loved children, but, its not been what life brought to me. I have a superb marriage, with a husband who accepts this, and we have talked with a friend about him being a donator for her. This would give me huge delight, I love her very much, and it would bring her great joy. My feeling was that I accepted the many blessings life has for me, because my life is rich. I love my friends children, children in my family, and it nurture my pets ( to their needs, not as children, but it fulfils my need to nurture).

I'm with you on this, on being content and satisfied in the now. Actually, the prospect of changing my relationship with my husband with the introduction of a 3rd wholly dependent individual gives me pause. I like our relationship and my life how it is. We're both introverts who enjoy our quiet times together, are fulfilled by our hobbies and by our internal lives and by each other. Having, bringing up, living with a child is a huge change that we don't take lightly or for granted at this point in our lives.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Sorry, I had to go but I wanted to add that we had to wait until both of us were ready. Having a child is kind of a big deal.




I'm with you on this, on being content and satisfied in the now. Actually, the prospect of changing my relationship with my husband with the introduction of a 3rd wholly dependent individual gives me pause. I like our relationship and my life how it is. We're both introverts who enjoy our quiet times together, are fulfilled by our hobbies and by our internal lives and by each other. Having, bringing up, living with a child is a huge change that we don't take lightly or for granted at this point in our lives.

No one is ever "ready" for a child. There are those that can handle it and there are those who can't.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Hard_Rom]

You're a Sunkist orange. All juice and no seed.

 

[evesdream]

No one is ever "ready" for a child. There are those that can handle it and there are those who can't.

It seems like *a lot* of stress punctuated by indescribable loveliness. And poop. Lots of poop.

What ever your future is I hope you continue to find happiness. There is more than one type of 'happy ever after' as you understand, and there are always those 'if only' moments but the times where you appreciate what you have are so much more real.

I've been polling my friends Most of them who have kids say they would have been happy either way. They also say that it's def. brought a lot more anxiety into their lives, but that they can no longer imagine their lives without their kids. Despite the difficulties, they would never go back in time and not have them. It's interesting.

 

[cleaver]

is it curious
that it is here
after a relatively quiet couple of years
that roryn chooses to announce this?

i guess this place actually means more
(or if this be a great ruse to elicit mere roaring, then less)
to the poster
than...

well...

nonetheless.

your personal act of self sacrifice is now noteworthy.

i never considered your seed
or lack thereof
of any note before.

thanks for the update?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

It seems like *a lot* of stress punctuated by indescribable loveliness. And poop. Lots of poop.



I've been polling my friends Most of them who have kids say they would have been happy either way. They also say that it's def. brought a lot more anxiety into their lives, but that they can no longer imagine their lives without their kids. Despite the difficulties, they would never go back in time and not have them. It's interesting.

No rational human being knowing the level of commitment ahead of time required to raise a child and keeping it alive would ever have one.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Jesus...I think I just called Rory rational.

 

[Aphro]

Husband had one after my daughter was born. I don't think he even bothered with the frozen peas. I seem to recall he drove himself to the appointment, then went shopping at the mall.

I don't recall any 30 ejaculations. He must've taken care of that himself. I know he went back for the test, because he was that petrified of me having another baby. The doctor said all clear, no swimmers, and thus ended the need for birth control. It really is pretty awesome to not have to worry about getting pregnant.

 

[girlsmiley]

I often find myself being under-challenged. Rory chose to take an adversarial role with me. I'm just fulfilling his wishes.

You could always, you know, challenge yourself.

I know, right? Mind blowing stuff. /sarcasm

Be better.

 

[girlsmiley]

is it curious
that it is here
after a relatively quiet couple of years
that roryn chooses to announce this?

i guess this place actually means more
(or if this be a great ruse to elicit mere roaring, then less)
to the poster
than...

well...

nonetheless.

your personal act of self sacrifice is now noteworthy.

i never considered your seed
or lack thereof
of any note before.

thanks for the update?

This. All of this.

 

[pink]

If you're sure that is what you wanted then congrats.


I have an IUD in and the chances are slim that I can conceive. I am too old anyway and already have a wonderful 22 year old daughter.

 

[Comshaw]

I had mine 30 years ago after both my kids were born and my wife and I decided two was enough. Actually I had two. I was one of the unlucky .5% where the as grew back together. The second time I went ion the doc told me he'd keep doing it until he got it right. that second time he cut a hunk out of it and cauterized it to be sure.
The fun part was the doc told me no sex for at least six weeks. I didn't tell my wife and two weeks after the operation I got a bit horny and talked her into it. When I came it hurt so bad all I could do was yell Oh Oh Oh. My wife thought I was having a stellar one so went crazy trying to make it better. It hurt so much I couldn't even tell her to stop.

I've never regretted that decision. A vasectomy is a minor operation compared to a tuba ligation.

Comshaw

 

[RoryN]

I had mine 30 years ago after both my kids were born and my wife and I decided two was enough. Actually I had two. I was one of the unlucky .5% where the as grew back together. The second time I went ion the doc told me he'd keep doing it until he got it right. that second time he cut a hunk out of it and cauterized it to be sure.

Glad he got you fixed. I think I got all of that this time around, because he mentioned the cauterization during the procedure. And then showed me the tube bits he took out.

I was tubular all along. Doesn't surprise me; I was conceived in Cali.

It really is pretty awesome to not have to worry about getting pregnant.

I had a phobia which should begin to fade away. That in and of itself was worth the small price of admission.

You're a Sunkist orange. All juice and no seed.

And no slave labor.

 

[dirtwrench]

My V-day was 21 years ago. Frozen peas? Please. We were "men" back then- I sat in my recliner for an evening and a morning, alternating ice packs and beer.

My procedure was Friday after regular business hours with my normal doc. By Monday I was back at work - plumber at the time- and doing what needed done. I too was told to refrain from sex for 6 weeks. My doc said it with a smile. I should have known he was a sadist then.

Two weeks post snip, I had to try. I can still remember the feeling of pulling from my toes upward when I came. A couple more weeks went by and all was fine.

Looking back, the funniest part was the doc having my wife hold a clamp for him. He laughed and said "Go ahead and pull it a few times. You probably have wanted to drag him around this way a couple times anyway." I was numb, it didn't matter to me.

 

[doowdniw]

Slight sting and then numb. Snip, cauterize, cauterize; snip, cauterize, cauterize. Two stitches and done. Quick and easy. Pretty much pain free.

 

[about_average]

I had mine done in '96. Pretty uneventful. Not much pain, I can't remember if I took anything more than iboprufen. I think the Dr told me to wait a week before sex, but I don't think I did. Obviously used condoms for a while until my sperm count was zero.

I watched mine being done, it was pretty interesting.

 

[sybarite_1]

It seems like *a lot* of stress punctuated by indescribable loveliness. And poop. Lots of poop.



I've been polling my friends Most of them who have kids say they would have been happy either way. They also say that it's def. brought a lot more anxiety into their lives, but that they can no longer imagine their lives without their kids. Despite the difficulties, they would never go back in time and not have them. It's interesting.

Oxytocin is dumped into the brain during the birth and at the sight of the infant. This bonds the parent to the child.

That is why they can't think of life without them now.

And after all the time, effort, money and training....there is NO gurantee they will be decent people or look after you in your old age. I just watched a daughter piss away $350,000 of her parents savings...they are 70 yo. They gave her power of attorney...she went on a party binge...Who is going to pay the four grand a month for each parent in 10 years or less when they need a long term care home? Who pays for their dental and eyeglasses...what if they need a hip or knee replacement? Who pays the property taxes on their home? Hydro? Water? Who pays to have the lawn mowed? Snow removed from the driveway? Car repairs? Gas? New tires? Insurance?
This is not uncommon. One guy went to Italy and sold his parents property there, sent expensive gifts to his relatives in North America, he was a hero!...now his parents are stuck in Italy and have nothing. He pissed it away.
No matter how much you are bonded to your children...never give them power of attorney over your retirement savings or real estate.

Some of them are cataloging their parents' assets...one woman with only high school education who fancies herself an artist and is divorced with two mentally challenged boys is now at this moment making an inventory and video recordings of all her mother's antiques, real estate, vehicles, jewellery, stocks, bonds and pension plans. She is shopping for discount funerals...and her parents have another 20 years to live yet...I watch their daughter lick her lips as she talks of her parents' net worth. She's a failure as an artist, works as a waitress at a pancake shop and her mother is paying the thousands of dollars a year to get her boys educated at a Montessorey school.

People always think it will never happen to them because their children are angels... .... the devil was an angel at one time...

 

[shrek100]

Had the snip twice - 5 years ago.

Stung a little but apart from that not to bad. Was back at work on the Monday after having it done on the Friday.

After 30 times I took a sample in and I still had swimmers. Was told to give it another 30. . . Still swimmers and a funny call from my Doctor. "do you want good or bad news?" Good I said, "your booked in again on Friday for the Snip" I laughed and he said "even after the snip you have a higher sperm count than a typical 18 yr old" The Bad news was, the first hadn't worked. Apparently it is not that uncommon.

Went in and had it done again, this time it hurt a bit more than the first. And was a lot more painful after. Any way 30 time later took a sample in and all was good.

No real ill effects since, but I am sure I cum less than before. . . or that could be the age.

 

[RoryN]

Two weeks post snip, I had to try. I can still remember the feeling of pulling from my toes upward when I came. A couple more weeks went by and all was fine.e.

This was interesting. I hear different accounts re: what it's like going back to orgasms. Should be fun to find out.