Going into hibernation

[shy slave]

Going into hibernation for a while.

Master and I have finished our relationship.
Happened very quickly, no arguement, no explanation nothing, he has simply stopped speaking to me.
It still feels raw and painful.
Have been torturing myself wondering if I pushed too much too soon in the relationship.
Anyway upshot is that I keep thinking of the things we explored together and simply feel dirty and sordid, not cared for and loved.

I know you will all say variations of 'time will help etc' and I am sure that is true.
But right now I need to be alone and work through this in my mind.
It doesn't help that every room in the house has items he bought me or memories of him.

I am still at the stage of wondering if it is illness that has prevented him from contacting me not a wish to end the relationship. I know its highly unlikely but maybe just maybe....

Anyway I will be away until my head clears, take care and have fun

shy

 

[shy slave]

Sorry double post

 

[Kajira Callista]

Going into hibernation for a while.

Master and I have finished our relationship.
Happened very quickly, no arguement, no explanation nothing, he has simply stopped speaking to me.
It still feels raw and painful.
Have been torturing myself wondering if I pushed too much too soon in the relationship.
Anyway upshot is that I keep thinking of the things we explored together and simply feel dirty and sordid, not cared for and loved.

I know you will all say variations of 'time will help etc' and I am sure that is true.
But right now I need to be alone and work through this in my mind.
It doesn't help that every room in the house has items he bought me or memories of him.

I am still at the stage of wondering if it is illness that has prevented him from contacting me not a wish to end the relationship. I know its highly unlikely but maybe just maybe....

Anyway I will be away until my head clears, take care and have fun

shy

*hug*

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm so very sorry honey. *huggles*

 

[robynwildchild]

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depressions a trip...
remember you can't stay in the hole forever...
know when to get off...

remember there's always another day and more fish in the sea to make play.

*hugs*

 

[english vicky]

babe please don't feel sordid and dirty - i know it's always easy for other people to say these things, but there is no need to feel like that.

So you have experimented and tried new things with him, that's a positive thing you have gained from the relationship. If it is over, you will be able to take that experience to another relationship, when you are ready to.

It's not sordid one bit.

Time will help but don't watch the clock...you will wake up one morning feeling much better which may be completly unexpected.

take care hun.

 

[jdmct]

sorry to hear

It gets better.Promise.
Speaking as a man,sounds like it's him ,not you.

 

[dragonlace]

so sorry

 

[Desdemona]

I know it hurts, but go get yourself another. He's just a man and they're making more of them every single day. Wallow a little, but don't allow yourself to feel like a victim for long. The best thing to do is get out and be with other people so you can heal. I know from past experience what I'm talking about. There are others here who have also been down this road. Best wishes.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I know it hurts, but go get yourself another. He's just a man and they're making more of them every single day...

OMG.... that about made me pee my pants!!!!

Definately some words to live by. LOL

 

[Bandit58]

Well I know if it was me I'd like to know why.....I mean it's hard enough ending a relationship without beating yourself up thinking "What did I do?" And just ignoring her, just all of a sudden no contact.....seems very cruel and unnecessary.....

I'm so sorry shy.....*Big Hug*

 

[Desdemona]

OMG.... that about made me pee my pants!!!!

Definately some words to live by. LOL

It isn't original to me, but I agree, they are words to live by. Glad you liked it dolly.

Having been abandoned this way once several years ago, I agree with Bandit, it is cruel and unneccesary (not to mention a fucking cowardly way to end a relationship). If he would do this, he isn't worth the tears and the pain.

 

[A Desert Rose]

It isn't original to me, but I agree, they are words to live by. Glad you liked it dolly.

Having been abandoned this way once several years ago, I agree with Bandit, it is cruel and unneccesary (not to mention a fucking cowardly way to end a relationship). If he would do this, he isn't worth the tears and the pain.

Oh, absolutely. I already shared my feelings with her privately.
Some questions in life are never answered, as you know all too well.

So, curl up with a bag of Reese's and watch A Fish Called Wanda.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

If he would do this, he isn't worth the tears and the pain.

True, perhaps, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. Pity we can't selectively enforce the Italian crimes of passion statutes. Nothing like a little chlorine in the gene pool to keep it clean.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

i'm sorry hun. i know what you're going thru, i've been there and it's not fun. can i ask (and its none of my business and you dont have to say-im just curious) how long it's been since you heard from him?

Going into hibernation for a while.

Master and I have finished our relationship.
Happened very quickly, no arguement, no explanation nothing, he has simply stopped speaking to me.
It still feels raw and painful.
Have been torturing myself wondering if I pushed too much too soon in the relationship.
Anyway upshot is that I keep thinking of the things we explored together and simply feel dirty and sordid, not cared for and loved.

I know you will all say variations of 'time will help etc' and I am sure that is true.
But right now I need to be alone and work through this in my mind.
It doesn't help that every room in the house has items he bought me or memories of him.

I am still at the stage of wondering if it is illness that has prevented him from contacting me not a wish to end the relationship. I know its highly unlikely but maybe just maybe....

Anyway I will be away until my head clears, take care and have fun

shy

 

[Vixandra]

*hugs*
Haven't been there but I've helped others who have been before.

Short of spouting Cliche's or mailing you choclate, not much I can do other then offer a shoulder to cry on.

Oh & more *huggles*

 

[shy slave]

Thank you to everyone who has taken the trouble to pm me and supported me through the thread.
I know it was the end of the world when he stopped talking to me, but for a moment it felt like it!

Desdemona I love your idea!!! I am out there looking so Doms be afraid...be very afraid lol

 

[Bandit58]

Thank you to everyone who has taken the trouble to pm me and supported me through the thread.
I know it was the end of the world when he stopped talking to me, but for a moment it felt like it!

Desdemona I love your idea!!! I am out there looking so Doms be afraid...be very afraid lol

{{{{{{{shy}}}}}}}} Glad to see you back

 

[jdmct]

back

Welcome back girl!!

 

[shy slave]

Thank youi both, am trying to get back to normal (whatever that is) starting with shopping with dolf!!
Its a good a place as any to start lol

I can bitch & cry about him and she will let me!

 

[babiesmiles]

True, perhaps, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. Pity we can't selectively enforce the Italian crimes of passion statutes. Nothing like a little chlorine in the gene pool to keep it clean.

Good thought and I mainly agree , but sorry to disappoint you Italian crime code unfortunately abolished the "crime of passion" years ago !

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And shy slave even if i dont know you , I wish you all the best and to go through your pain with the awareness to be in the right and that the behaviour of your partner has nothing to do with who are you, dont let ( and I talk for experience ) a man undermine your self esteem ! Men ( usually ) dont deserve it !
hugs

 

[Bandit58]

Thank youi both, am trying to get back to normal (whatever that is) starting with shopping with dolf!!
Its a good a place as any to start lol

I can bitch & cry about him and she will let me!

I highly recommend retail therapy and a good friend's shoulder to help you through rough times, been there done that It really helps!

 

[Desdemona]

Thank you to everyone who has taken the trouble to pm me and supported me through the thread.
I know it was the end of the world when he stopped talking to me, but for a moment it felt like it!

Desdemona I love your idea!!! I am out there looking so Doms be afraid...be very afraid lol

Obviously you're a strong woman. You'll be fine and better than before. It's amazing what comes our way once we become open to new opportunities.

 

[graceanne]

Chocolate! I recomend lots and lots of chocolate. And a game of pin the tale on the ass.

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

And don't forget darlin'... flaunt your shit 'n make heads turn... Nothing has helped me get over the hurt of a broken heart then tossing on my favorite boots 'n holding my chin high.. 'n knowing I can turn heads. His lose... Your gain.. And lots of chocolate.. yep yep.. Much agreement there...

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Truth to it too.

and prolly the best thing I've ever heard said.

True beauty lies not in a clean unmarred heart but in one thats scared and bent, rent and torn. For it shows the courage to go on and the deeds of the past. 'r some jive like that.. heard it long ago 'n it's stuck with me.. 'n it's helped me at times I wasn't sure I would survive.

Heal well and be proud.