Going down on a girl

[Karmic]

I love going down on a girl, love to dote on her, I'm more than willing to do anything, but I'm afriad I'm not totaly sure I know what I'm doing when it comes to giving a girl oral, some help please? pleaseeeeee?

 

[cymbidia]

Okay. Take the link to some pics of female anatomy. (http://www.halcyon.com/elf/altsex/vulva.html) You need to know clearly what it is you're touching and how it all goes together, don't you?

Think of a woman's clit as a tiny, unbelievably sensitive penis. Like you guys, some of us like our clits handled in a firm manner and some of us like a far more gentle touch. You'll have to do some initial experimentation with every new partner because we're all different in that regard.

In general, discounting special situations, a smooth, even, continuous touch on our clit, either using your tongue and lips to rub in a circular motion or pushing against and away, is preferable to intermittent bursts of touch. Many of us like something fucking into us while getting oral sex but that's a judgement call and another thing you'll have to test by experimentation.

Don't attack us like we're a Big Mac and you're starving. It scares us. Be smooth. Go down easy, go down slow. Take some sightseeing time on the trip from kissing our mouth to kissing our clit. There's lots of territory in between those places, and it all isn't just our breasts, either.

Your mouth may get tired of providing stimulation before our clit gets tired of getting it. In that case, slide back up our body and kiss us while you use your fingers or a vibrator on our clit. (The G-2 Mini Massager found at the Stockroom is the best vibrator in the world, for my money {http://www.stockroom.com/a491.htm.}. They used to come in a lovely shade of blushing pink but i haven't seen one of those in years.)

I applaud you for trying to learn more about oral sex in an attempt to be a better, more considerate, more accomplished lover.

[Edited by cymbidia on 04-02-2001 at 07:32 AM]

 

[WoodyViagra]

Cymbidia--

Wanted to post a thank you from someone who also needs advice--Have never had the luxury of performing oral sex on a woman and I'm very intrigued and fascinated about the process to say the least--

Do you think most women would be 'patient' with a partner new at this or do women just expect men to have a clue?

Any other insight you may be able to offer would really be appreciated.

 

[Karmic]

I think most guys have no idea but wont admit it, I think there also the worst lovers

 

[Cheyenne]

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=25221

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=13744

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=14656

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=13841

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=11675

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=11618

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=11542

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=11534

And if you read all of those threads, and the links they show to other information, you'll be an expert in no time! Good luck!

 

[cymbidia]

Do you think most women would be 'patient' with a partner new at this or do women just expect men to have a clue?

As in all sexual matters, honesty is of premier importance. If you tell a woman right upfront that you have limited experience giving oral sex, but you'd very much like to learn, i think she'd be disarmed by your honesty, flattered by your interest in trying it with her, and excited by the opportunity to teach you this skill.

A caveat: if she, too, is inexperienced or has issues about oral sex, your honesty might put her off in a major way.

Most women do not expect men to automatically know everything. Girls (and boys) that are inexperienced might feel this way for awhile, but most women who've lived a little know that every one of us is just doing the best the we can.

 

[ericred50]

Nothing gives more pleasure than bringing my lover to an atomic climax, starting my kissing her lips and working my way down to here breasts, one at a time in my mouth just licking and flicking my tongue over the nipples. Then down to the belly button while my hands caress her nipples between my finger and thumbs. Down to the top of her pussy, soft loving kisses all the way from the top to the base as she opens her legs wide. My tongue touches her arse hole, and then fully out it licks all the way back to her clit, opening her petals with my thumbs, to release her love button. Taking her clit in my lips and rolling my tongue over the top as my lips press up and down, flicking my tongue back and forth over the end of her clit, slowly at first then faster. At the same time sucking, and putting two fingers inside her wet pussy, I start to finger fuck. Not letting her clit out of my mouth, my fingers go in and out as my tongue flicks back and forth. I will not stop until she tells me, as she reaches several climaxes one after the other. Pure pleasure. I have been to all the web sites many times, I have studied what they say and put the words in to practise. I only want to please I ask for nothing in return.

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

The only advice I can give that has not been said is this:

When you are down there and you start doing something she really likes, and it starts to get her off, DO NOT CHANGE PACE. Don't speed up, or slow down or go harder or softer or anything. Just keep doing EXACTLY what you were doing that is bringing her off.

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