Goal Support Thread

[Svenskaflicka]

I have a weight problem. I go to the Weight Watchers. Our very good, and very funny, teacher told us to set up several small goals for ourselves, instead of one big one. It's much easier to loose 3 kilos 10 times, than it is to loose 30 kilos one time.
She told us to use the group, our friends, and our family, as a support group.
It's a funny idea, to imagine the whole group standing there cheering and waving banners as you're choosing an apple over a cookie, or as you're talking a long walk to town instead of taking the bus.

It got me thinking, that we could all use a support group for our every day life, to reach our goals. We have a support thread for NaNo, to spur each other to go on writing in spite of aching hands and blurry eyesight.

I propose we make this The Support Thread, for ALL your goals and strives in life. Tell everyone what you hope to achieve, and we'll cheer you on!

Getting a driver's license? You can do it!

Re-painting the kitchen? May I join in the fun, too? In spirit, atleast?

What's YOUR goal?

 

[Guest]

My goal is the same as yours. TO LOSE THIS FREAKING WEIGHT!! There, I feel much better now, lol.

I am working very hard on exercising, drinking more water, and not eating at night.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I like to go out dancing, Crimson. It's so fun that it doesn't feel like exercising!

Swimming is also nice. You are weightless in the water, and you don't get sweaty.

I lost 25 kilos once, but unfortunately gained it back when I dropped out of WW.

But if I can do it, so can you!

 

[Guest]

I have four kids, so any exercising I do has to be something I can do at home.

I have lost 12 pounds so far. Only 90 more to go, lol.

 

[reohoko]

My goal? hmmm, get PAID for at least half the work I do a day... I have it all figured out that if I got paid for half the working hours I do (at under min wage - $5.00/hour), I would be a millenaire in no time.... not counting taxes taken out and all.

Sooooo... which of these things do you think has the most potiential for me talking someone into paying me for? and who do I go to?

Household chores - for a family of 6

two children's extra work so they don't flunk 1st and 2nd grade (no, I don't know why this is happening, but for some reason they have issues with english).

odds and ends, outside, clubs, events, and other interesting childhood ventures

4 websites (why oh why do I even waste my time on them?)

Writing - Erotica and fantasy

college

and babysitting

and a daughter who is just sure that her job is to be my shadow all day long (I showed her that I had a nice shadow.. it works just fine... I told her she should find her own shadow- she yelled at me and explained that she is just "helping me" - WITH????)

Kinda think of it... I like that most of my kids can't read yet... maybe I will stop the extra school work LOL

can I get a support group for overworked and underappreciated people?
did you know that everyone thinks that stay home moms eat bon bons and watch soaps every day?
I can't remember the last time I watched anything that wasn't on cartoon network or discovery channel. It's sad... I am completely pathetic.
What is a bon bon?

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Judging from my friend M, chasing a kid around the house to prevent him from accidentally killing himself with a table cloth, is exercise enough...

 

[reohoko]

cool!!! I have 4 kids too.

I think technically I am supposed to lose 50 lbs, but when do I have time to exercise? and does running around the house all day count? it's two stories and a full basement. Besides my tummy, I am happy with how I look, so no biggie.

technically I have a business too.... vendor's license and all....NOT that I have time to do anything with it....hmmm, maybe if I could find a way to bottle up minutes.. I bet they would sell real nice.

*giggle

 

[Svenskaflicka]

According to the BMI-index, I actually have reached my ideal weight allready.

I just need to grow an extra 50 centimeters...

 

[reohoko]

Svenskaflicka, hehehe.... ok I just noticed that note on the bottom of your post. If we can't shorten it to "Sven", what do you prefer... or should we leave it to the "hey you" department?

I kinda think "Ska" would be cute...
Just being silly.

HUGS HUGS HUGS

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Those who have a problem with Svenska or Flicka, usually shorten it to SF.

 

[reohoko]

I kinda think, weight is all a matter of opinion.

I race my oldest son and his friend all the time during the summer... I am 21 years older, a smoker and technically 50lbs overweight and a girl (which means a lot at that "I hate girls" age)... I always win the race down the block. I can also do a lot of the normal workout things they can't (stretches, push ups, sit ups, etc). You should see the two of them trying to work out to become stronger and better than me. It is WAY too funny.

If you exercise, walking is the only one really worth it. My sister lost a TON of weight with the walking machine thing she got. If I got one it would be turned in to a way to lose toes and fingers in no time.... OUCHIE!!!

 

[reohoko]

Those who have a problem with Svenska or Flicka, usually shorten it to SF.

I like Flicka
that is sorta risque (however it is spelled) and really cool

I have to run, my IE is trying to crash again. It is reminding me that I have to reformat before the weekend so that I can load in the programs I need for college LOL.

I might not be back until the weekend.. I have to see if my computer dies when I try to fix it . If it does, the war between me and hubby over his computer begins.

Have fun all!!!! HUGS HUGS HUGS

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

Reohoko,
I'd love to join your group, although, I haven't had much time for lit lately. I'm a stay at home mother of 2, and 8 and 11 year old. I know how stressful and hectic every day can be and how wonderful it would be to have someone to offer to just listen. Between cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, homework, activities outside of school and the other million things that come up in a day who has time for exercise. Also, it seems that whenever someone else needs help it's me they come to, because, "I don't have a job, I have all day". For the most part I have no problem trying to help out when I can, however, where is the help when I need it. Or just someone to listen to me when I need an ear to bend. We have recently found out that my husband has a serious illness, it's going to cost over a thousand dollars a month for his treatment( our portion to pay after insurance). My grandfather is recovering from a triple bypass and had serious complications following surgery which kept him in the hospital for 3 weeks. My dad is scheduled to have a bypass and valve replacement next week on top of everything else. If I try to talk to anyone about it they act like I'm whinning and want to change the subject. Why don't people offer me the same ear when I need it?
I just keep telling myself, "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger". Wouldn't it be nice to have a place to go where someone will listen and offer support on a daily basis?

Wicked

 

[Guest]

My BMI is well, bad, lol.

Three of my four kids are toddlers (I have twins), so I stay busy with them (I'm a SAHM too).

The exercise I do is walking with some steps and arm movements thrown in. I do it in the morning before the kids get up.

 

[Dirty Slut]

In my humble opinion...

Since most of the posts here so far have been from women, let me say that I applaud you all just for living. I don't want to start a battle of the sexes thread, however I do think that woman are confronted with more daily problems than one man will have to deal with in six months to a year at a place that pays them cash for what we do for next to nothing.

Svenskaflicka: If your Holloween Witch AV is a real picture of you then you needn't worry so much about your weight as you are a lovely, and enchanting woman the way you are. Losing weight becomes a problem only when we are concerned about losing it for health reasons, and not cosmetics. So know this, you are a highly respected individual, and in control of your own life.


reohoko: If a mother got paid what she was worth women would have owned the world long ago. However, just a thought, but you can make a few phone calls around town to find out how much they pay dishwashers, laundry workers, maids, nanny's, etc., and write up a bill for your other half to sweat over the next time he brings up bon bons, and soap operas, and such. You might also check out what projectionists at the local theater get paid by the hour for showing movies.


Wicked-N-Erotic: You have my heartfelt sympathy, and understanding. Raising a family in the midst of caos, and dire emergency is daring and saintly enough to have you cannonized, and given an honorary degree in phisics, and psyciatry both. So to those who have taken, and not given back could be charged for your services.

CrimsonMaiden: Keep chasing those kids around, and you'll soon be ready to submit a photo resume to the top paying modeling agency in Paris.


DS

 

[MathGirl]

I have a weight problem.

Dear Svenska and others who want to lose weight,

There is a drug called "Xenical" which is a relatively harmless and very effective adjunct to dieting. It's available with a prescription here, and is probably sold outside the US under a different name.

For dietary fats to be absorbed into the bloodstream, they must be broken down to fatty acids. Fact of life. Enzymes called "lipases" in the intestine do that. Without lipases, fat is not absorbed. Xenical is a lipase inhibitor. A capsule taken with food blocks the action of about 30% of intestinal lipase, so 30% of the fat isn't absorbed. If it isn't absorbed, it can't contribute calories. If you eliminate a third of your dietary fat calories, you will lose weight. When combined with diet and exercise, Xenical greatly enhances the weight loss.

Xenical is not absorbed into the bloodstream, so there are no side effects like sedation or cardiovascular problems. It's essentially nontoxic, but fat soluble vitamin absorption is inhibited. There is a downside, though. Since fat is not absorbed, it stays in the intestine and passes on through. Think about that for a moment, and you will have a vision of a grease slick in the toilet bowl. All the side effects are related to extra fat content in the intestine. Sometimes there is gas, too. The literature lists "flatus with discharge," and I don't think that needs discussion. Pappering of the trollies is not unheard of.

I have several friends who have used the stuff, and my mother has prescribed it for dozens of patients. Most side effects are for a limited duration and can be minimized by eating less fat. That's good, because eating less fat and not absorbing a third of what is eaten enhances weight loss. Everyone who takes it agrees that passing of flatus should not be attempted unless a simultaneous bee emm is anticipated. Since it virtually eliminates sport and recreational farting, Xenical is obviously not for everyone.

Pharmacologically,
MG

 

[Quasimodem]

. . . "Xenical". . . downside . . stays in the intestine and passes on through. Think about. . . a grease slick in the toilet bowl. . . Sometimes there is gas, too. The literature lists "flatus with discharge"... passing of flatus should not be attempted unless a simultaneous bee emm is anticipated. . .

You don't need IBM to calculate that MathGirl will pervert any discussion of BMI-Indices into a comment about a BM.

 

[raphy]

I have only two right now.

1) To make a living being creative. (Writing or music, really)
2) To live in the US (or Canada) whilst doing 1

 

[reohoko]

"I don't have a job, I have all day".

Wicked

Yep, I get that one all the time. It's how come I am making my sister her sofa covers, why I do most of the odds and ends things I do. Luckily, there isn't anyone real close to us sick right now. My hubby had a pulminary anerism a year ago, the doctor wants him to have an operation for weight lose. He is the only income and I am not ready for him to be out of work that long.

My house barely stays clean with me here, and won't stay clean with him home. We tried that before, (I worked two jobs back then)one day when I came home from work I had this horrible desire to burn the house down; broke over half the dishes cause they were dirty, and quit my job on the spot. Was a tough day.


I can relate, if you ever need anyone to talk to, I am always around. I am even on Yahoo IM - Reohoko (I have the other IMs too but I really am dumping them today and reformating my computer tomorrow and not putting them back in except yahoo).

Oh, my mother in law found out how hard it is to be me. I went on strike for a week in a half once. Refused to even cook. She thought she would be helpful, was trying to keep the place picked up and stuff. LOL she raised only one child. She was in utter shock when she realized how much of a mess 4 children between the ages of 8 and 2 made (they are now 10 - 4). She is the only one that understands these days. My hubby is never a problem, he really doesn't care if the house is a mess, as long as his clothes are clean and there is food he is usually happy. (and I stay up past bedtime to spend time with him after his afternoon turn shifts )

I think, if we could just get an extra 5 hours a day things would be easier. OH, and don't you love the working parents who complain that their house is a mess when NO ONE is in it for over 10 hours every day. That one is my favorite. I have one friend, they leave literally a half an hour after they get up in the morning, she gets them home between 5-7 for dinner and baths and straight into bed. I can't imagine more than the weekends those kids even half time to mess the house up. The last time I visited them it didn't look messy at all, not compared to what kids home all day do to a house. LOL

Ugh, gotta run.. have fun all

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I know this is horrible, but after reading about garderobes and footlong turds and sheep-fucking, I'm a little nervous for trusting MG's medicine suggestions. How do I know it's not a laxative?

Svenskaflicka
Suspicious

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Wicked-N-Erotic: That's a classic! I don't know how many times I've heard of people like that, using stay at home mothers, and not giving back anything in return.
*hugs*
Have you tried using The Rules against them?

Normally, those ridiculus old-fashioned dogmas only make me laugh, but there IS one that actually works. If you edit it a bit. A lot. M told me about this a long time ago:

If your boyfriend doesn't call as often as you'd like, and isn't as attentive to you as you'd like, arrange for something for you to do alone, without him, something that will mean that you're not home when he does call, like going to the movies, or going out for a walk, or something taking a long hot bath. When he does call you, tell him that you're very busy right now, would it be allright if YOU called HIM back, in, say, 10 minutes? Call back in no earlier than 20 minutes.
Since you're just enjoying you-time, and not cheating on him, he will have no real reason to be jealous, but at the same time, he will learn the lesson: you're a busy girl, if he wants to talk to you, he has to work hard.
Guys need to be whipped now and then.

Translated to your situation, whenever someone comes over needing help, you put the phone off the hook before you open the door, and when they enter, you ask them kindly to wait while you finish your conversation with your friend so-and-so. Let them wait a looooooooooooooooooooong time...

Or, when they arrive, tell them what a pity, you were JUST going out shopping/picking up something/doing an important errand, could they POSSIBLY come back later? And perhaps call first, to make sure it's not an inconveniance for you?

Whip, whip...

 

[Guest]

I definitely know about the mess that kids make. Mine are 2, 3, 3,and 6. Most of the time, my house looks like a toy store exploded.

 

[Guest]

 

[OldnotDead]

Some random thoughts after reading the thread, not in any particular order of importance . . .

Reohoko, get those children that are having trouble with reading tested in school. TELL the teacher you are doing too much of the homework yourself just to keep them afloat. If there is a specific problem the school system has to help you make a plan that solves it, and provide the necessary additional instruction. Get some of the responsibility off your shoulders.

Svenska, it's NOT a diarettic, but if you eat a lot of fat can seem like one.

Wicked, it's an amazing contradiction of behavior out there. People want to hear that you are having problems, because (I believe) it makes them feel somewhat better about their own. But at the same time, they don't want to really listen about your problems and be a sympathetic friend, especially when the problems are overwhelming. One of my relatives that has had five serious bouts with cancer tells everyone, "I'm fine". She says it ends the discussion because no one dares argue with her, and she has long ago realized that most people don't really want to hear all the gory details. Hopefully you will find one or two close friends with whom you can talk. And check out with a knowledgeable social aid worker disability benefits that are available to you. Each state is different, but once a breadwinner is on disability, there are diferrent programs that kick in.

Best wishes to all of you in reaching your goals, from a work at home dad that is VERY grateful to have a stay at home mom riding herd on everything else.

 

[MathGirl]

Originally posted by Svenskaflicka I know this is horrible, but after reading about garderobes and footlong turds and sheep-fucking, I'm a little nervous for trusting MG's medicine suggestions. How do I know it's not a laxative?

Dear Svenska,
Correction: The turds are FOUR feet long.
Sternly,
MG