Girls, how do you handle guys online?

[EuroGalSal]

i'm a new gal and i'm curious about cybering. what do the guys expect? surely girls don't stay chatting until guys are 'satisfied' yet it seems kind of unfair to leave them 'high and dry'. maybe i'm just being dumb?
Sal

 

[EuroGalSal]

replies

thanx for the private messages so far, will get back to all later

 

[EuroGalSal]

all guys

all guys so far when what i really wanted was to hear from girls who have cybered

 

[Russ1982]

how about you? what do you do, or do you not do that kinda thing and just want to know about it?

 

[DirtyKitten]

I think you should ask your potential cyber partners for what you want. It is fantasy after all, do it how you want to do it. You'll have no trouble finding someone who will do it your way. Trust me.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

I always keep a meat cleaver handy personally. And after I get off... just dump them. There are plenty more guys on Lit

 

[EuroGalSal]

thanx all

thanx all, good ideas
Sal

 

[LuSiD]

whats the meat cleaver for? <_<

 

[EuroGalSal]

still here

i'm still listening and getting very affected by all the suggestions
Sal

 

[EuroGalSal]

interested

ok i'm now interested in cyber but have any girls out there ever came online?
i'm ok about chatting with girls too btw
Sal

 

[NaughtyKelly]

I dislike a lot of PMs I get as they usually consist of "i want sex". Talking dirty can always get me horny but I always have to care about the person to some degree.

 

[poppy1963]

Sometimes, if I see someone with a quick wit and good sense of humor, I'll do a bit of "soft porn" roleplaying on the board...usually you can get a feel (pun/no pun intended) for if you want to take things further in private OR public if you like to do that. Most people in The Playground are looking to "play" to various levels. But I find it a great place to have occasional adventures and have made some potentially good friends! I've not been here that long really.

 

[happyparadox]

ok i'm now interested in cyber but have any girls out there ever came online?
i'm ok about chatting with girls too btw
Sal

If your interested then pick someone you think is interesting. If they're not what you thought then move on gracefully if that is your way. You needn't worry about the guy/gal, everything will sort out.

It's all fantasy. You're both going to your own world where no one else goes. No disease, no evil killers, no judgment or embarrassment, only what you want. Use words that turn you on, do things you do in fantasy, get kinky, whatever. If the person does judge or cause you embarrassment jettison that one and look for what you want.

When you close the session and leave your perfect world you can go back to work with none the wiser to your secret interests.

If someone wants to get into something you can't enjoy just tell them. Either they will adjust or they will move on. If they get pushy tell them to go fuck themselves with a wood rasp.

 

[EuroGalSal]

more thanx

thanx gals for the words of wisdom, especially Kitten & Poppy.
don't worry though, i have more savvy than it seems.
Sal

 

[Russ1982]

I'm guessing you've been flooded with pm's asking you to cyber from guys now huh?

 

[poppy1963]

thanx gals for the words of wisdom, especially Kitten & Poppy.
don't worry though, i have more savvy than it seems.
Sal

LOL...you are welcome...and actually...I had a sense you probably do have more savvy. But just in case that sense was amiss...

 

[EuroGalSal]

still unsure

guys, i'm still not sure about cybering so don't expect a reply just yet.
girls, thanx for the sincere PMs
Sal.

 

[hbgsteelersfan]

guys, i'm still not sure about cybering so don't expect a reply just yet.
girls, thanx for the sincere PMs
Sal.

If I end up cybering with a girl...I usually end up turning on my webcam and playing for them on camera.

Yes, girls cum while playing online. Or they are just lying. Usually after they cum I will cum for them on cam.

 

[RawHumor]

I dislike a lot of PMs I get as they usually consist of "i want sex". Talking dirty can always get me horny but I always have to care about the person to some degree.

Some guys seem to lack any sense of tact whatsoever. Those are the guys that you have to wonder if they've ever been with a woman IRL, and if so, how that's gone for them.

 

[DirtyKitten]

I had a conversation with someone the other day about this. And his comment was that alot of people here just cast a net out in PM's, as in, send out as many random PM's (most of the time saying nearly the same thing in all of them) as they can just to see who will bite. These are the ones that usually say no more than...

Wanna cam?

Hot, horny guy/gal here, do you have Yahoo??

Things of that nature. Those are the kind that I just delete. I don't want to be part of the group in the cast net.

 

[lynx2u]

re

Hello,
In real life I never want casual sex. I want to make love to a woman not simply have sex. Making love is such a beautiful experience for both people that it is hard to understand why anyone would not want to make love. That doesn't mean it can't be hard and fast or even just a quickie. It's the feelings between the two people that make it special.
You don't need the love of the ages in order to make love but you do need feelings for the other person or at least I do. The same goes for an online relationship. I have been priviledged over the last 8-10 years to have had such relationships with 4 ladies. They were and are still friends even though we are no longer lovers. I made them promise me that if they ever found someone in real life they would tell me and they did. It was a wonderful experience and has helped me cope with a wife who has lost any sex drive she had.
If I may offer a suggestion then it would be to find someone that you like and enjoy; someone that you can have some feelings for and would enjoy making love to. Then you have the makings of a wonderful online relationship and one that will satisfy you on many levels. As I mentioned, these ladies were my lovers and are still my friends even though they have physical relationships in real life.
I hope this helps and you are lucky enough to find someone who will reciprocate this concept of a cyber relationship with you. It can be very helpful as well as scratching that itch if that is all you need. Good luck.

Lynx

 

[Butterflybaby04]

i'm a new gal and i'm curious about cybering. what do the guys expect? surely girls don't stay chatting until guys are 'satisfied' yet it seems kind of unfair to leave them 'high and dry'. maybe i'm just being dumb?
Sal

Most are interested in talking about themselves. There are some who are just up for a chat, which is nice somtimes when you're bored. But You lead the role of play if that's how you want it. not interested or they don't get the hint, put them on ignore And don't feel as though you have to respond to every pm you get. There will be many, but like I said there are only 1 or 2 worth talking too. Good luck.

 

[EuroGalSal]

still more thanx

thanx for the well thought out replies and posts (you know who you are)
personally i think it's the interplay with an imagination of the opposite sex (or not) that's appealing, nothing more, nothing less.
Sal

 

[MarkSand]

Experience

My, um, modest experience in this area suggests that it's easier for many people to achieve a kind of instant intimacy, that is, a willingness to confide their innermost desires and fantasies, under the cloak of anonymity the intermet affords, and that's it's also very possible to develop the real affection and trust that make for great sex. Never settle. Establish a rapport with someone who intrigues you, makes you laugh, makes you think, just as you would seek out good chemistry in real life, and your cyber won't ever be disappointing.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

Look sweets there are three kinds of guys on-line in the personals:

1) Lurkers These guys use the "shot gun" method sending unwanted and insulting PMs for sex. Usually those start with, "I saw your post on the boards. Wanna fuck?"

2) Mr. Smooth These guys ask you a reasonable question. You respond with a reasonable (non-sexual) answer. After 2 or three pms it's, "Do you have a cam? Do you wanna watch me jerk off?"

3) The Few Decent There are a few decent guys out there who understand that NO means NO and are not offended. A few have become quite good on-line friends.

Listen up, girl. The Lit Personals are just like everywhere else in real life. You meet a bunch of people. In the mix there are one or two you might be attracted too. Would you jump for a romp in real life after 5 minutes? I doubt it. So why would you do it on-line?

Get to know the few you are attracted too. Know them well and then let nature rule. But keep in the back of your mind. None of this is really real. I've seen a lot of women go down in flames over the 6 years I've been on-line.

And this is one of the few reasonable posts I'll ever make in the Personals.

JJ :kss: