Girls Help

[highriser]

Ok me and my girl just started having sex a few months ago and she told me that my foreplay sucks so I need you guys to give me a few tips. please.

 

[RandomInk]

what do you usually do for foreplay, maybe if you can come back and wow her it might help. Tell us, what's your foreplay routine before the sex?

Hey, at least she didn't say the sex was bad

 

[highriser]

the foreplay is really us just kissing then she goes down on me. But i am not nearly experienced as her. so can you tell me what you like i foreplay so i can get better. thanks

 

[sweetnpetite]

the foreplay is really us just kissing then she goes down on me. But i am not nearly experienced as her. so can you tell me what you like i foreplay so i can get better. thanks

yea, that kind of forplay sucks, lol.

have her pretend that your not going to get any. She can act like ok, you can do this, but you can't do THAT. So then, you do whatever you can to get her so hot that she can't resist any more.

kiss her neck
lick her ear
tickle her
mix soft and rough touch
rub her shoulders
touch her face (that drives me wild personaly)
in fact what I like is when you brush the hair from my cheek, carress right next to my jaw with your thumb, and lean in for a soft kiss, that intensifies.

mix up the kisses, slow, long fast, licking her lips, sucking on her toung, whatever

touch her breasts step by step, through her shirt, under the shirt but over the bra, under the bra, get the bra off while keeping the shirt on, take the shirt off, touch, suck lick, ect ect

touch, tease the inside of her thigh. Women are not like men, don't just go strait for thte clit.

tease the heck out of her. Make her beg- thats good forplay.

 

[Tranquility]

yea, that kind of forplay sucks, lol.

have her pretend that your not going to get any. She can act like ok, you can do this, but you can't do THAT. So then, you do whatever you can to get her so hot that she can't resist any more.

kiss her neck
lick her ear
tickle her
mix soft and rough touch
rub her shoulders
touch her face (that drives me wild personaly)
in fact what I like is when you brush the hair from my cheek, carress right next to my jaw with your thumb, and lean in for a soft kiss, that intensifies.

mix up the kisses, slow, long fast, licking her lips, sucking on her toung, whatever

touch her breasts step by step, through her shirt, under the shirt but over the bra, under the bra, get the bra off while keeping the shirt on, take the shirt off, touch, suck lick, ect ect

touch, tease the inside of her thigh. Women are not like men, don't just go strait for thte clit.

tease the heck out of her. Make her beg- thats good forplay.

That aboout covers it but also might wanna try running your fingers through her hair,I personally love that. If she has long hair even brushing it can be a form of foreplay

 

[James G 5]

That aboout covers it but also might wanna try running your fingers through her hair,I personally love that. If she has long hair even brushing it can be a form of foreplay

That's the OTHER reason there're 2 wooden hairbrushes in my toybag

 

[SexyGiggles]

Ok me and my girl just started having sex a few months ago and she told me that my foreplay sucks so I need you guys to give me a few tips. please.

Have you asked her what she would like you to do?

 

[SuperShyGuy]

Have you asked her what she would like you to do?

While I'm no expert in women I can offer this. I've actually met women who get this real attitude about being asked what they want, sort of the "if you don't know I'm not going to tell you" routine. Personally I think it's beyond assenine but nonetheless some women are like this. It's not always easy to get a woman to tell you what she wants.

My best advice is just to experiment with some of the stuff already posted here, it's good stuff. Just pay attention, find what she is enjoying and what she isn't. Expand on the stuff she enjoys, dump the stuff she didn't like. She'll be begging for more in no time.

 

[SuperShyGuy]

One other thing. Get good at massage. No person in their right mind will turn down a good massage and it can be very erotic if done properly.

 

[shescurious]

Don't forget that she has and entire body not just puss and tits.

A couple of other sensitive spots you may not think of are the armpits, behind the knees, and the area just below the buttocks.

Take your time and make it all about her...believe me after that she will be telling her girlfriends all about you..

Good Luck
Shescurious

 

[vettemech]

Man, I sure hope she didn't actually come out and say "Your foreplay sucks!"
Talk about a real mood killer.
One of my pet peeves with a lot of women is they just expect us to just figure it out. Get her talking, have her offer suggestions on what makes her happy. She can give subtle inputs during foreplay to guide you (a moan here....a nudge to another location there, ect.) One thing I learned a long time ago is every woman is different, what gets one woman happy doesn't always work on another.
And yes, as was pointed out, many man are guilty of jumping from "Lips, Breast, Crotch", to penetration in under 60 secs" and think that is foreplay. Foreplay can last from 5 minutes, to hours depending on the mood.

 

[shescurious]

Hours if I am lucky...which I am not...lol

 

[Valcorie]

I agree...

You said for foreplay you usaly kiss, ect... then she goes down on you? Why don't you try kissing and the ideas everyone else mentioned then going down an her??? when she is close, or after she came...tehn go for sex.

Here is another sugestion. My Fi did this once and I still beg for it. He turned off the lights (it works realy well for this) and slowly removed my clothes. He wouldn't let me help. Then he had me sit on his lap facing him. (no sex yet) he slowly kissed me, and my throught, and lightly touched my back, neck , chest, anywhere and every where he could reach. The key was slow and light finger tip touching, light kisses or licks. Keep in mind the sensations are all about her. Find out where she wants you to touch her. You may have to use the guess and check method. keep trying untill she realy gets into it. This should last at least 5 minutes. Tehn you can have sex. Just keep it about the same slow pace. I garantee she will be begging for more.

I hope this helps!
Valcorie

 

[lilpriss]

You're going to have to find out what drives HER wild. All these suggestions are great.

Here's more,

You say you haven't had a whole lot of experience... so you probably haven't been acquainted with all that many naked women. Get to know her body as if it's the most important thing in the world. And as you are touching, looking at, learning her body, ask her if she likes it, if there's anything to make it feel better. Make her pleasure your #1 goal. You may find that her arousal fuels yours... if it doesn't, you aren't ready to be in a sexual relationship

That said, foreplay is all about starting in the mind. The brain is your biggest sex organ... why do you think these stories turn us on so? It's nothing physical at all actually, just images in our heads which sometimes will lead to "physical" if you care to take matters into your own hands.

Making her feel special is a huge thing. Girls want to feel special and loved... cherished, if you will. To be honest... Her giving you a BJ everytime you have sex as "foreplay" is probably making her feel used. I certainly would.

Think about things that turn you on and incorporate them... for example, I had a boyfriend who was turned on by control, as am I, and he would incorporate that into foreplay, like holding my wrists, making me lie perfectly still (if I moved it would be even longer before I got what was coming to me) or covering my eyes, while his hands, lips and whatever else worked their magic. Sometimes he'd get me so worked up that I'd beg him to take me any way he wanted... One sure way (to tease) is to hold back from her clit (or nipples) until she's moving towards you or takes your hand and puts it where she wants it.

The thing is you need to get to know what she likes, and the only way to do that is to take your time, ask questions and be open to anything. The last thing a girl wants to hear is some asshole standing in judgement of her quirks/ likes/ kinks.

As someone already said massage is a great way to get someone in the mood. The touch factor alone in simply recieving a massage is enough to get most people going.

And if all this sounds like too much work just keep in mind what comes around goes around.

Good luck and have fun.

Hey James... what's the first hairbrush for???

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

I'm one of THOSE women.....

While I'm no expert in women I can offer this. I've actually met women who get this real attitude about being asked what they want, sort of the "if you don't know I'm not going to tell you" routine. Personally I think it's beyond assenine but nonetheless some women are like this. It's not always easy to get a woman to tell you what she wants.

She'll be begging

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Sorry Supershy, lol, but had to do that
First of all, I AM one of those women who will tell you in a heartbeat what I like. Lol, I'll most likely tell you as soon as I decide that I want to fuck you. I don't have time for a man to "find" out what I like and don't like. Just as I don't wish to waste valuable time trying to find out what turns a man on. Lets get all the information out in the open so that we can apply it immediately!


-kym- Let's talk about sex baby, let's talk about you and me!

 

[Mstrskey]

Touch and Patience....

these are things I have always stressed to men in my life when trying to de-mystify women and sex for them.

First and foremost is touch. You will need to spend as great deal of time touching her. Do it w/o expectation of reciprocation. Touch her as if it is a most wonderful learning experience. Don't just push the hair away from her face, but rather allow your finger tips to commit the slight curve in her cheekbone to memory. Learn the soft angle of her chin to her neck and the the delicate valley of skin between her neck and her shoulders. Watch her as you touch her, see how her lips part, her cheeks flush, her eyes glaze. Keep your touch light, barely graze the skin at first and then intensify you touch gradually as you learn to gague her responses. Does she breath more deeply when your fingers find her lips, then perhaps the next pass over them increase the pressure, even tug on the soft skin of each lip a bit. Learn the fluuter of her eyelashes, kiss her eyes, her chin, her whole face. There is more to arouse there then her lips.

Touch her through her clothes, and undress her!! I cannot stress how big a turn on this is for so many women. Take your time and look at her as your fingers work carefully at each button. Then allow a single finger to trace over the newly exposed skin before slipping her blouse off her shoulders with deliberate slowness. Kneel in front of her and slip her pants off her legs, kiss her exposed belly and if your doing things right catch the unique scent of her sex calling to you from just below.
Feel the weight of her breasts in your hand. Note their shape and slope, one will probably be heavier and more sensetive then the other. Kiss the whole breast and not just the nipple. The underside of a womans breasts can be very erogenous zones. Carress her body, make love to it with your hands and make every inch of her feel sensual and sexy.
Once you have her naked move her hands to undress you, help guide her hands in the way you like to be touched and TAKE YOUR TIME! The tease is well worth the results!

Patience next....no matter if you want to pin her down and fuck her raw wait until she's ready as well. You will probably find that in your slow and sensual exploration of her body you will become much more aroused then with a little perfunctory grab and squeeze and that the sex will be even better for BOTH of you.

 

[Noor]

One other thing. Get good at massage. No person in their right mind will turn down a good massage and it can be very erotic if done properly.

I agree with this. My first love once said I only slept with him because I was too damn lazy to give him a massage back, he was wrong, I was too turned on.

 

[Another Shy One]

foreplay is like a slow dance.

 

[SuperShyGuy]

these are things I have always stressed to men in my life when trying to de-mystify women and sex for them.

First and foremost is touch. You will need to spend as great deal of time touching her. Do it w/o expectation of reciprocation. Touch her as if it is a most wonderful learning experience. Don't just push the hair away from her face, but rather allow your finger tips to commit the slight curve in her cheekbone to memory. Learn the soft angle of her chin to her neck and the the delicate valley of skin between her neck and her shoulders. Watch her as you touch her, see how her lips part, her cheeks flush, her eyes glaze. Keep your touch light, barely graze the skin at first and then intensify you touch gradually as you learn to gague her responses. Does she breath more deeply when your fingers find her lips, then perhaps the next pass over them increase the pressure, even tug on the soft skin of each lip a bit. Learn the fluuter of her eyelashes, kiss her eyes, her chin, her whole face. There is more to arouse there then her lips.

Touch her through her clothes, and undress her!! I cannot stress how big a turn on this is for so many women. Take your time and look at her as your fingers work carefully at each button. Then allow a single finger to trace over the newly exposed skin before slipping her blouse off her shoulders with deliberate slowness. Kneel in front of her and slip her pants off her legs, kiss her exposed belly and if your doing things right catch the unique scent of her sex calling to you from just below.
Feel the weight of her breasts in your hand. Note their shape and slope, one will probably be heavier and more sensetive then the other. Kiss the whole breast and not just the nipple. The underside of a womans breasts can be very erogenous zones. Carress her body, make love to it with your hands and make every inch of her feel sensual and sexy.
Once you have her naked move her hands to undress you, help guide her hands in the way you like to be touched and TAKE YOUR TIME! The tease is well worth the results!

Patience next....no matter if you want to pin her down and fuck her raw wait until she's ready as well. You will probably find that in your slow and sensual exploration of her body you will become much more aroused then with a little perfunctory grab and squeeze and that the sex will be even better for BOTH of you.

Um... Damn! I'm set for the night!

 

[Mstrskey]

<<<giggle>>>>

....glad I could help sugar!

 

[Zmey]

lick her ear

careful with that... I got slapped for doing that ones...

Mstrskey nailed definition of foreplay ... I usually treat a woman like wild, exotic cat... Be gentle but explore. Ones you figure out how she "works" you pretty much got full control. It's a wonderful feeling to have her sing under your touch.

 

[sweetnpetite]

That aboout covers it but also might wanna try running your fingers through her hair,I personally love that. If she has long hair even brushing it can be a form of foreplay

how did I forget that one?

 

[sweetnpetite]

Re: Touch and Patience....

these are things I have always stressed to men in my life when trying to de-mystify women and sex for them.

First and foremost is touch. You will need to spend as great deal of time touching her. Do it w/o expectation of reciprocation. Touch her as if it is a most wonderful learning experience. Don't just push the hair away from her face, but rather allow your finger tips to commit the slight curve in her cheekbone to memory. Learn the soft angle of her chin to her neck and the the delicate valley of skin between her neck and her shoulders. Watch her as you touch her, see how her lips part, her cheeks flush, her eyes glaze. Keep your touch light, barely graze the skin at first and then intensify you touch gradually as you learn to gague her responses. Does she breath more deeply when your fingers find her lips, then perhaps the next pass over them increase the pressure, even tug on the soft skin of each lip a bit. Learn the fluuter of her eyelashes, kiss her eyes, her chin, her whole face. There is more to arouse there then her lips.

Touch her through her clothes, and undress her!! I cannot stress how big a turn on this is for so many women. Take your time and look at her as your fingers work carefully at each button. Then allow a single finger to trace over the newly exposed skin before slipping her blouse off her shoulders with deliberate slowness. Kneel in front of her and slip her pants off her legs, kiss her exposed belly and if your doing things right catch the unique scent of her sex calling to you from just below.
Feel the weight of her breasts in your hand. Note their shape and slope, one will probably be heavier and more sensetive then the other. Kiss the whole breast and not just the nipple. The underside of a womans breasts can be very erogenous zones. Carress her body, make love to it with your hands and make every inch of her feel sensual and sexy.
Once you have her naked move her hands to undress you, help guide her hands in the way you like to be touched and TAKE YOUR TIME! The tease is well worth the results!

Patience next....no matter if you want to pin her down and fuck her raw wait until she's ready as well. You will probably find that in your slow and sensual exploration of her body you will become much more aroused then with a little perfunctory grab and squeeze and that the sex will be even better for BOTH of you.

um, hello- do you have some stories I can read?

 

[Mstrskey]

Re: Re: Touch and Patience....

um, hello- do you have some stories I can read?

The Interview parts 1 and 2 in the Erotic Couplings section. Part one is in my opinion much much better then part 2. Trying to overcome writers block and write another.