girl's first orgasm

[eran27]

Hello all, I am a newbie and found that there were some topics on here that people were eager to help others out with. I was hoping some of you could do the same for this topic..

My GF and I love having sex together, sometimes it is very passionate, sometimes ravaging... well, it's good, I'll leave it at that. Anyway, I am her first lover, and today she brought up her concern of not having an orgasm yet. I know different women have different needs, and I am not going to claim to understand all these needs, I was hoping some of you ladies on here could help me/her out.

I love going down on her, and she likes it, and there have been times that I thought she was getting close to climax. I just can't seem to get her over that edge. When I use my hands on her, she says that is more like teasing to her. I want to try anything I can to help her because I love to please her!

Does she need to get a better idea of what she is looking for, as far as what to feel, or focus on relaxing...??? I really would like to be able to give her the pleasure of orgasm, so any input you may have would be awesome!

If there are other threads on here already talking about this, please let me know as I did not see the search option on the forum.

Thanks all!

 

[Eilan]

Welcome to Lit!

Does she masturbate? Sometimes it's difficult for a woman to communicate what she likes when she's not exactly sure of this herself.

Don't make orgasm the goal of every lovemaking session. Sometimes the journey's just as fun as the destination. And neither of you should allow the lack of an orgasm to affect your self-esteem. That's easier said than done sometimes, though.

Sometimes the search function is a bit touchy. I did an advanced search focusing only on the How-To Board and using "orgasm" as the keyword and came up with the following:

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I'm sure that not all of those threads will be relevant, but perhaps something there will help. And I'm sure that others will be along to contribute to this thread.

Good luck to both of you!

 

[Norajane]

I remember being in that situation way back when... my boyfriend dubbed it my Quest, and I'd give him periodic reports on my discoveries during masturbation, which he'd then try on me...good times.

In addition to the physical, start talking about what turns each of you on mentally, what you think is erotic or just plain hot.

Have fun with the exploration!