Girlie Doctor

[Ambrosious]

OK- Ya'll know about my troubles concieving. Now for the moment I have not been looking forward to. My wife visits the Girlie Doctor and wants me to come too.

Oh hell. Every other woman I've been with went to "that" alone. My problem is that I don't know how I'm supposed to act. Do I brink snacks? Extra lighting? Maybe cheer the Doctor on. Plus, it's a female Dr. and she'll be touching my wife "there". Should I act nonchalant? Or excited?

Help me out here guys. My sarcasm is covering for nervousness. I just know I'm going to do the wrong thing.

 

[Cheyenne]

Sit next to your wife near her head and hold her hand if she wants you too. Do NOT get your face right in the thick of things to see exactly what the doc is doing. And be quiet unless spoken to. You're out of your element in this one, just be there for moral support if she wants you there.

 

[forgetunome]

Yep...

What she said! Just show your quiet support! Good luck!

 

[Bobtoad777]

sounds like a smart plan

 

[Weird Harold]

What they said, plus:

Do NOT bring your Walkman (tm) or Watchman (tm) to stay abreast of the big game.

Seriously, stay interested, and try not to let too much of your nervousness show through. She is looking for a pillar of support, not a nervous wreck to baby.

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

I haven't done any work with fertility specialists, but the she probably just wants to talk to the two of you together. I'm sure you don't need to be there for the pelvic. If you are there during the exam, I totally agree with Cheyenne. I wouldn't advise trying to operate the speculum or anything. Try not to make her feel like she's a spectacle. Be supportive but unobtrusive. Your wife may be just as uncomfortable with you there as you are. I'd try to act comfortable even if you really aren't for her sake. It doesn't take long. It'll be over before you know it.

 

[Cheri]

Yeah, what they said.

And if you tell her to scoot to the end of the table, she should leap from the table and pummel you to death!

 

[Juliangel]

Yep what Cheyenne said. My last pregnancey was high risk, 5 months of bedrest, preterm labor and lots of bleeding. My honey went to the doctor with me for every visit and every ultra sound (7 in all). He sat by my head, held my hand and rubbed my hair.

It made such a big difference in my stress levels. Remember to tell her you love her often and flowers are always nice.

 

[ANiceGuy]

I know what yer going thru. Just re-r-re-lax.

My first wife decided she really wanted to get pregnant. She had been pregnant once but her first husband had abused her and she lost his baby. My wife was a loved the suds way too much and was popping pills (I didn't know that at the time.) so I really didn't want to have a child unless she got help but...

To make a long story short we went to the fertility doctor and were told to abstain from sex for three days before I took a sperm count. We lasted one day! My wife hopped on my innocent pole that was just sitting (well standing really) there minding it's own business. Even then I had a slightly higher than normal count. We never did tell the doctor we had cheated. After some more tests we found out she had "scar tissue" in her tubes from the abuse of her first husband. She never did get pregnant by me. Several years after I divoirced her she had a child. When the child was three years old the father was granted custody.

All of my experience with the doctors was positive. They go thru this several times a day even if it is new to us. Unless you get a doctor on her or his first day she/he will be used to your situation and will put you at ease quickly!

 

[Never]

Bring a camcorder so 18 years from now you can embarrass your teenager with a fabulous home movie entitled "The Wonder Years."
Make sure to also include close ups of your kid 'arriving' into this world, the joy of diaper changing.. You know, all the good stuff.

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Gettin' by with a little help from my friends..

 

[Weird Harold]

Bring a camcorder so 18 years from now you can embarrass your teenager ...

I know you don't usually intend to be cruel, but you really should read a thread before you post.

BTW, Welcome back.