Girlfriend's Pussy on Lockdown

[BakkWoodz]

Well my girlfriend hasnt given me any pussy now for almost 2 months. Says she hasn't been in the mood. So ladies,my question is does every woman do this to her man? If so, how can you get mad at him if he ends up getting it somewhere else? I'm just curious.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

I might do this if I was so angry at my man that I was not in the mood. Be honest, is there a reason? Other wise, the issue is with her libido. I can tell you it is honest "to not want it."
If you have done no cheating, nothing wrong and you tell her you can not take having no affection, after about six months of trying, if you love her, you could try to seek your satisfaction elsewhere. Somehow, it seems you are looking for permission to cheat, tho.


QUOTE=BakkWoodz;94700369]Well my girlfriend hasnt given me any pussy now for almost 2 months. Says White every woman do this to her man? If so, how can you get mad at him if he ends up getting it somewhere else? I'm just curious.[/QUOTE]

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Also, you sound youngish. If you have no lingering issues between you two, you might just be incompatible. She just shut down, no reason you can honestly think of? Incompatible. Please do not lock yourself into a situation where you feel you have to cheat until you die. It is bad for your heart.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I've never understood men who think that if they can't get their dick wet, they aren't healthy or happy. And oh lord if their woman doesn't play with their favorite toy for a couple months, she must not fucking love him yeah?

Walking fucking glandular disorders. You want to justify cheating? At least have the balls to break up with her first.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Assume there is something wrong and seek to help her rather than seek to justify cheating, FFS. Or, if this is a deal-breaker, then break up with her.

If you actually love her or care about her, which I doubt from the tenor of your post, you should ask her how she’s doing and if there is anything you can do to help. For the love of whatever you consider holy, don’t phrase that about sex.

 

[KatieDoes]

I can’t begin to imagine why she isn’t absolutely clamoring for your dick. You seem like such a catch, and like you’d be amazing in bed.

 

[KatieDoes]

Katie, our AVs should hand out.

Seriously

In December 2021, he was 35 and married.

In January 2022 he is 33 and has a girlfriend that won’t fuck him.

Absolutely, definitely, for sure, the obvious problem here is women.

Bitches, am I right?

 

[BakkWoodz]

Never said I was gonna cheat. But I can see why men cheat is what I said. I have been with this girl 12 years. We have a 11 year old son together. Never have I cheated on her. But I'll just keep mouth shut being as I am not on the same level as all these relationship gurus on here. Yal seem to have it all figured out. I'm happy for ya.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

You did ask a question. What kind of answers did you expect?


answer

Never said I was gonna cheat. But I can see why men cheat is what I said. I have been with this girl 12 years. We have a 11 year old son together. Never have I cheated on her. But I'll just keep mouth shut being as I am not on the same level as all these relationship gurus on here. Yal seem to have it all figured out. I'm happy for ya.

 

[KatieDoes]

Never said I was gonna cheat. But I can see why men cheat is what I said. I have been with this girl 12 years. We have a 11 year old son together. Never have I cheated on her. But I'll just keep mouth shut being as I am not on the same level as all these relationship gurus on here. Yal seem to have it all figured out. I'm happy for ya.

You posted in august when your wife was away looking for someone to cheat with. If you haven’t cheated, it’s only due to a lack of opportunity.

Men and women cheat, and they all have their reasons. Your wife/girlfriend might be getting laid elsewhere and that’s why she’s not fucking you. Who knows?

However, we need not be ‘relationship gurus’ to be able to recognize a man that sees no value in women aside from a warm wet hole to stick your dick in. You don’t ‘love women’…. You barely even like us. That’s pretty unattractive. *

 

[fire_breeze]

Well my girlfriend hasnt given me any pussy now for almost 2 months. Says she hasn't been in the mood. So ladies,my question is does every woman do this to her man? If so, how can you get mad at him if he ends up getting it somewhere else? I'm just curious.

Never said I was gonna cheat. But I can see why men cheat is what I said. I have been with this girl 12 years. We have a 11 year old son together. Never have I cheated on her. But I'll just keep mouth shut being as I am not on the same level as all these relationship gurus on here. Yal seem to have it all figured out. I'm happy for ya.

Many people take a dim view on seeking sexual gratification elsewhere without their partner(s)'s okay. Furthermore, whilst one can assume that given that you only have 8 posts and therefore are somewhat unfamiliar with the various cultures on the boards, your thread is posted on the Personals, where the description is:
https://i.imgur.com/eidwYw8.png

Unless you really did not read the descriptions of the subfora on the home page or glossed over the the titles of the threads that populate this particular board (in which case, 20 seconds can tell you were in the wrong field if you wanted to start a genuine conversation), it would seem that you were looking for ways to either validate your opinions that after 2 months of no sex, it's okay to cheat or you were fishing for a playmate without your girlfriend's knowledge--which is the general, acceptable definition of cheating.

Then, you claim that this is not the case by saying:

Never said I was gonna cheat.

Never have I cheated on her.

However, when read in context with the rest of the post and in your original post, including the title of your thread, there is also an underlying theme of thinking about cheating, perhaps testing the waters. Let's analyse how so many responding would come this conclusion.

Whilst you do admit that you haven't cheated, nor will you, you do say, a number of times, that your partner not having sex with you could be grounds for having sex with someone else. This is seen in the following:

Well my girlfriend hasnt given me any pussy now for almost 2 months

So ladies,my question is does every woman do this to her man? If so, how can you get mad at him if he ends up getting it somewhere else?

But I can see why men cheat is what I said.

Read together, you are asking whether or not women don't have sex with their partner for a period of time, and if so how can they get angry if their partners seek sexual gratification elsewhere. This implies that in your opinion, it is not only okay to cheat but totally acceptable and reasonable.

It is only after your initial post, when other posters have pointed out that cheating is not okay, do you say that:

Never said I was gonna cheat.

I have been with this girl 12 years. We have a 11 year old son together. Never have I cheated on her.

This reads like a back-peddling, and yet you intersperse it with

But I can see why men cheat is what I said.

Sexist assumption aside (what? Only cismen have sexual needs?), you are agreeing that a lack of sexual activity--without knowing the cause of it--is a good reason to cheat, and that she has no right to be upset when she is cheated on, as demonstrated clearly with this:

If so, how can you get mad at him if he ends up getting it somewhere else?

Read that again: there is an inferred claim that a partner has no right to be upset when they are cheated on because they haven't had sex in 2 months without the cheater understanding why they were not having sex ("not in the mood" can mean everything from "I'm tired" to "I'm in such pain that I can barely walk").

Bottom line: talk to your girlfriend and see why you aren't having sex. Usually, what happens in the bedroom is a mirror of something going on outside of it, i.e., if things aren't well outside of the bedroom, it's not going to be well inside of it. Work on building your communication and your relationship with your girlfriend. And if she's just not interested for whatever reason, then have the discussion if you can get your rocks off elsewhere and how will that look. Cheating, for whatever reason, is shitty, even thinking about it because you somehow think she owes you sex. This is your partner for 12 years and the mother of your child. She deserves much better than having her trust violated.


Just my inflated 0.02$.

ETA: I didn't bother looking at your post history when I originally drafted my reply but I just did now. With threads that looks for, and I quote, "Filthy Mouthed Ladies [...]with a filthy mind and a filthy mouth who wants to roleplay or chat with a 34 year old man with blue eyes, tatoos (sic), and a full beard? A bad boy looking for a bad girl. I like explicit detail during roleplay and chat. You can name the roleplay and I'll fall in with ya" and "Male looking to chat with a MILF" and an invitation to host a "female who wants to party all night. I got thr (sic) place and goods", I'd gather that if you haven't cheated, you were planning to and you may wish to reevaluate your claim that you were "never gonna [cheat]". Just sayin'.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

I like this.

I've never understood men who think that if they can't get their dick wet, they aren't healthy or happy. And oh lord if their woman doesn't play with their favorite toy for a couple months, she must not fucking love him yeah?

Walking fucking glandular disorders. You want to justify cheating? At least have the balls to break up with her first.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

A Standing Ovation, I give to you.

Many people take a dim view on seeking sexual gratification elsewhere without their partner(s)'s okay. Furthermore, whilst one can assume that given that you only have 8 posts and therefore are somewhat unfamiliar with the various cultures on the boards, your thread is posted on the Personals, where the description is:
https://i.imgur.com/eidwYw8.png

Unless you really did not read the descriptions of the subfora on the home page or glossed over the the titles of the threads that populate this particular board (in which case, 20 seconds can tell you were in the wrong field if you wanted to start a genuine conversation), it would seem that you were looking for ways to either validate your opinions that after 2 months of no sex, it's okay to cheat or you were fishing for a playmate without your girlfriend's knowledge--which is the general, acceptable definition of cheating.

Then, you claim that this is not the case by saying:


However, when read in context with the rest of the post and in your original post, including the title of your thread, there is also an underlying theme of thinking about cheating, perhaps testing the waters. Let's analyse how so many responding would come this conclusion.

Whilst you do admit that you haven't cheated, nor will you, you do say, a number of times, that your partner not having sex with you could be grounds for having sex with someone else. This is seen in the following:



Read together, you are asking whether or not women don't have sex with their partner for a period of time, and if so how can they get angry if their partners seek sexual gratification elsewhere. This implies that in your opinion, it is not only okay to cheat but totally acceptable and reasonable.

It is only after your initial post, when other posters have pointed out that cheating is not okay, do you say that:


This reads like a back-peddling, and yet you intersperse it with


Sexist assumption aside (what? Only cismen have sexual needs?), you are agreeing that a lack of sexual activity--without knowing the cause of it--is a good reason to cheat, and that she has no right to be upset when she is cheated on, as demonstrated clearly with this:


Read that again: there is an inferred claim that a partner has no right to be upset when they are cheated on because they haven't had sex in 2 months without the cheater understanding why they were not having sex ("not in the mood" can mean everything from "I'm tired" to "I'm in such pain that I can barely walk").

Bottom line: talk to your girlfriend and see why you aren't having sex. Usually, what happens in the bedroom is a mirror of something going on outside of it, i.e., if things aren't well outside of the bedroom, it's not going to be well inside of it. Work on building your communication and your relationship with your girlfriend. And if she's just not interested for whatever reason, then have the discussion if you can get your rocks off elsewhere and how will that look. Cheating, for whatever reason, is shitty, even thinking about it because you somehow think she owes you sex. This is your partner for 12 years and the mother of your child. She deserves much better than having her trust violated.


Just my inflated 0.02$.

ETA: I didn't bother looking at your post history when I originally drafted my reply but I just did now. With threads that looks for, and I quote, "Filthy Mouthed Ladies [...]with a filthy mind and a filthy mouth who wants to roleplay or chat with a 34 year old man with blue eyes, tatoos (sic), and a full beard? A bad boy looking for a bad girl. I like explicit detail during roleplay and chat. You can name the roleplay and I'll fall in with ya" and "Male looking to chat with a MILF" and an invitation to host a "female who wants to party all night. I got thr (sic) place and goods", I'd gather that if you haven't cheated, you were planning to and you may wish to reevaluate your claim that you were "never gonna [cheat]". Just sayin'.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

So I wonder how many other posters in this thread got Private Messages from you about how they need Viagra for erectile dysfunction? You say your dick works perfectly, but honestly, how would you know?

Stay classy lil guy!

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Fara, You do get other woman. When my hubbie does not buy me a new dress or take me out to dinner, I always shut the legs, so to speak...Especially when I just want to be the cardboard definition of a shrew. Since relationships should be a war of the sexes, I ain't "giving up pussy" to my man untill I get my baubles. But after almost 8 whole weeks with out sex, I would expect him to find another woman or an apple pie to f***. I equal (expensive) apple pie. It makes sense, this guy has been looking to cheat for months or years, he is just winning the war.
QUOTE=Faralicious;94701533]We do. We all “do this” to our man. We “do this” usually for spite, or out of boredom, or plain old shrew mood. “How can I annoy my man? Oh, I won’t give the pussy. That will be fun. I have no needs or feelings. This is what women do.”
It’s not anything you’re doing. It’s all us. It’s women. We do this.

You’ve figured us out.

(How old are you? 33? 34? 35?
You’re all over the place. At least get your story straight.)[/QUOTE]

 

[KatieDoes]

I know this posting has been de-bunked on several levels by several users, and directing the question to "ladies" must be some part of his unique and personal formula for how he gets off. However, talk about a faulty premise - married people take a mutual vow "to have and to hold." That's the polite way of saying: 'Yes, there will be at least some sex.'

What vow regarding your access to her pussy did this single woman ever take before clergy or civil official, family including your parents and hers, and all others assembled? It's a false premise that anything is being withheld. No single/divorced/widowed woman owes any single/divorced/widowed man any access to anything at any time, unless she feels like it.

No married woman owes a man access to anything at anytime unless she feels like it, either.

 

[KatieDoes]

So I wonder how many other posters in this thread got Private Messages from you about how they need Viagra for erectile dysfunction? You say your dick works perfectly, but honestly, how would you know?

Stay classy lil guy!

Ha! How would he know?

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Oh lord, dude, you are serious? OP you are lucky to even have this girl.....grow up.

So I wonder how many other posters in this thread got Private Messages from you about how they need Viagra for erectile dysfunction? You say your dick works perfectly, but honestly, how would you know?

Stay classy lil guy!

 

[theeonanist]

You’ve figured us out.

(How old are you? 33? 34? 35?
You’re all over the place. At least get your story straight.)

We should open a book. My money is on less than half this age irl. He either has learned nothing about life in his 33? 34? 35? Years or he hasn’t had the chance yet.

Will Lit let me say that I think this guy hasn’t reached majority irl?

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Yeah, really stunted.

We should open a book. My money is on less than half this age irl. He either has learned nothing about life in his 33? 34? 35? Years or he hasn’t had the chance yet.

Will Lit let me say that I think this guy hasn’t reached majority irl?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Perhaps you don't understand marriage or vows. Just like the monogamy and exclusivity part of "forsaking all others," a married couple commits up front that there will be some sex ("to have and to hold" or words to that effect). Sure, the details and timing they have to work out by mutual agreement along the way, but consent is explicit, always in front of witnesses, and usually in front of a crowd of people, "for as long as we both shall live."

You say you got married without promising that there would be some sex? Then you didn't get married.

The premise of this question involved unmarried people who take no such vow of future conjugal union. Between married people, there's an explicit mutual promise. It's a matter of keeping one's promises or not making such promises in the first place, and nothing more.

The explicit consent given in front of witnesses during a marriage ceremony does not eliminate either person’s right to say no to sex at any time. People are not property.

 

[KatieDoes]

Perhaps you don't understand marriage or vows. Just like the monogamy and exclusivity part of "forsaking all others," a married couple commits up front that there will be some sex ("to have and to hold" or words to that effect). Sure, the details and timing they have to work out by mutual agreement along the way, but consent is explicit, always in front of witnesses, and usually in front of a crowd of people, "for as long as we both shall live."

You say you got married without promising that there would be some sex? Then you didn't get married.

The premise of this question involved unmarried people who take no such vow of future conjugal union. Between married people, there's an explicit mutual promise. It's a matter of keeping one's promises or not making such promises in the first place, and nothing more.

Absolutely no one is entitled to sex with another person, ever, under any circumstances. Marital rape is rape, and human beings have agency.

‘To have and to hold’ is not blanket consent to sex, period.

 

[theeonanist]

Just when I think my gender is beginning to understand

No means no. End of. Doesn’t matter if you’re married or not. No means no.

Here it is for the hard of understanding: the points are the same whether the couple is married or not

https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

As others have said, no to marital rape. Just no. From what I have read, this is historical and an old, probably religious custom. While perhaps being considered a reason for divorce, it is not a reason to rape.
Who could honestly promise sex to someone forty years down the road? Why would a good man or woman force their spouse or want to? The issue is one of human rights and stems from an age that was not "big" on that. Thank goodness things change.

Perhaps you don't understand marriage or vows. Just like the monogamy and exclusivity part of "forsaking all others," a married couple commits up front that there will be some sex ("to have and to hold" or words to that effect). Sure, the details and timing they have to work out by mutual agreement along the way, but consent is explicit, always in front of witnesses, and usually in front of a crowd of people, "for as long as we both shall live."

You say you got married without promising that there would be some sex? Then you didn't get married.

The premise of this question involved unmarried people who take no such vow of future conjugal union. Between married people, there's an explicit mutual promise. It's a matter of keeping one's promises or not making such promises in the first place, and nothing more.

 

[YourgirlfriendLaura]

Good word, "rapey." For sure....but I did find out I am not "really" married from this thread.....
I had to change my tax info etc. so that was a pain. But still interesting. /s/