Girlfreind birthday present help

[Fly_On_Wall]

OKay..... birthday christmass blah blah blah they comeing up fast.

Never had a gf before dont' know what to do
but want advice on something

were both trying to save money so I said we should set a limit on what we spend on each other.

now that limit means I can get her a cheep b-day preasent and a cheep x-mas present and same with her for me.

thing is though My birthday 11 days before christmas her birthday 1 day before christmas.

if I combine my money I can get her something bigger and better as a b-day/x-mas presetn.
my delema is though, would that be a good Idea, I know i've had people combine presents before to get off not haveing to buy so much or casue they are cheep basterds.

so I really don't want to do this but I am unsure......

also... Can someone help me with Ideas of things I can get for her?
cause honestly I cna't think of anything (well I can one thing but that will bring me way over the limit we set.)

help!!

 

[phrodeau]

I'd bet that everybody in her life (unless she's from a non-christian family) has been getting her combined birthday/Christmas presents all along. The same is probably true for you, too.

Make this occasion extra-special by giving her separate birthday and Christmas gifts.

Lots of sales this time of year. Find the bargains.

 

[phrodeau]

Another thing... if anybody suggests you get her the baby Jesus vibrator, don't take them seriously.

 

[scrymettet]

use your imagination

Don't let you stop by the price. Some cheap things offered with a good timing works marvel.
You are an artist, make wonderful wrapping.

 

[red_rose]

While I agree with phrodeau, I think it's more important that you get a gift that means something. Quality over quantity, if you will.

If you find two smaller gifts that are perfect, go for it! But, if you find one that is just right...and maybe too much to do something in addition to, then just go with the one gift.

Think about what she likes, what she's interested in. That should help you think up something.

 

[red_rose]

Another thing... if anybody suggests you get her the baby Jesus vibrator, don't take them seriously.

Baby Jesus is the butt plug, silly.

 

[Spinaroonie]

DO NOT COMBINE GIFTS EVER


EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER











EVER!

 

[phrodeau]

Baby Jesus is the butt plug, silly.

Oh, yes.

Never mind.

 

[superlittlegirl]

And don't forget, girls love macaroni necklaces. They're real cheap!

Seriously, though, don't forget that handmade gifts are almost always appreciated, because they show lots of love. Maybe make something for her for one event and buy something for another?

Or maybe you could concoct an elaborate evening where you treat her like a princess. There could be a dinner you cooked and a bubblebath with candles followed by a massage with nice oils.

A gift doesn't always have to be a tangible object.

 

[peachykeen]

This is sort of an aside - I have a friend who was born on Christmas eve; rather than have her spend her whole life having her birthday overshadowed by Christmas, her parents started when she was very young having a bigger celebration on her 'half' birthday (June 24) so she would not feel ripped off. So maybe you and your chick might want to agree to just get a small trinket gift for the birthday thing now and spend more on Christmas, and then get eachother half-birthday gifts later in the year when the financial pressure isn't as great? Just an idea.

 

[red_rose]

And don't forget, girls love macaroni necklaces. They're real cheap!

Seriously, though, don't forget that handmade gifts are almost always appreciated, because they show lots of love. Maybe make something for her for one event and buy something for another?

I don't know if it's because I saw the post next to your name...or because I'm just a twisted individual...

...but I could have sworn that said, "...don't forget the handcuffs..."

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

lol I just thought of something

we set a limit of aprox 25 for birthday and 25 for christmass...

well american Money is worth more then Canadian money
so technicly I can spend 80$ haha if I do that then I can get her what I was thinking of and what she would like.

she likes books but I don't think that would be good to get cause she's gote probly 2,000 around the house. so I don't know what she has or not lol.

she don't collect things as far as I know


I think i'll get her a videogame

ah hell I hate gift shopeing.

 

[KillerMuffin]

For her birthday buy her a single rose, hand-deliver it, and give her something free like an all over body massage or be her "slave", "butler", "maid" whatever for a day. You could, in all actuality, get out some nice linens (clean sheets will do in a pinch), candles, and cook her a really nice dinner. Serve her like she's a princess, and wear your best suit for it. That kind of thing. "Do" something rather than "give" something. Cheap and it's better anyway.

For Christmas, buy her something that lasts longer, but not necessarily huge. Get her a CD that she wants, buy her a small necklace that doesn't turn her neck green. Buy her a day at the day spa.

Combining the two dates into one present is tacky and you shouldn't do it. You celebrate her birthday because you're glad she was born. You celebrate Christmas for somethine less personal. Keep them separate. Always keep them separate.

 

[superlittlegirl]

I like your style, KM.

For her birthday buy her a single rose, hand-deliver it, and give her something free like an all over body massage or be her "slave", "butler", "maid" whatever for a day. You could, in all actuality, get out some nice linens (clean sheets will do in a pinch), candles, and cook her a really nice dinner. Serve her like she's a princess, and wear your best suit for it. That kind of thing. "Do" something rather than "give" something. Cheap and it's better anyway.

For Christmas, buy her something that lasts longer, but not necessarily huge. Get her a CD that she wants, buy her a small necklace that doesn't turn her neck green. Buy her a day at the day spa.

Combining the two dates into one present is tacky and you shouldn't do it. You celebrate her birthday because you're glad she was born. You celebrate Christmas for somethine less personal. Keep them separate. Always keep them separate.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

thanks killermuffin and superlittlegirl.....

I'll try your idea if I can. (flying out to her house and she lives with her mom right now....... so setting things up may be a tad hard, but damnit i'll try )

 

[ridddder]

One thing that is a nice gift if you don't have alot of money is a coupon book. You make coupons for things like, I'll make dinner tonight, or a romantic interlude, or back massage, a bed time story, etc. Use your imagination be creative, and I think any gift from the heart is always worth more than something you just buy. I try to do that when I buy someone a card. I just don't buy a card for what it says, but for how it makes me feel. I can always write inside what I really mean, cause I can write from the heart. Touching someone is more about what they mean to you, and if you actually listen to them, and show them that knowing them is the best gift any man could ever need. My personal favorite is getting her something that she never had, like if she always wanted a puppy but never got one, get her a cuddly stuffed puppy dog. Or that gold locket she never got. That way it appeals to her heart, it shows that you care, and more importantly it shows that you listen to her. You listen, and things that are important to her, are important to you.

I hope this helps, I know I do alot of sweet things, but I usually find the women who like to be man handled, or fancy jewelry. Who think that kisses mean diamonds, and what you feel inside = you owe me money. I am sick of that drivel....so I am doing this xmas alone...try something different I say.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

If she was born the day before Christmas, that means she is a witch.

She may not know that, though. Ask her if any creepy stuff has ever happened to her. If so ...

shop here

 

[KillerMuffin]

Ah. Well then.

Write her a letter. This is how you do it.

First, write it in your word processor so you can use the spelling and grammar checkers. Don't make it longer than two typed pages of 12 point type. Then, once you've got it proofread, write it out by hand on nice paper. You can pick up individual sheets with matching envelopes at most copy centers or office supply stores.

Paragraph 1: Tell her why you were glad she was born. Make a list of reasons. Don't just say "Because I love you." Come up with at least 5-10 different things.

Paragraph 2:-6-/11: Take one of those reasons and explain why you think this is so great about her. e.g. You have a kind heart. I love the way you always hug children, you always feed stray cats, and how you always give so generously. I love the way you think of others and how deeply compassionate you are. You make me feel proud to be a part of you. I think just being with you makes me a better man. Yada yada. Remember, tell the truth, be sincere, be yourself, and don't try to be Romeo.

Paragraph last: Tell her why you love her so much again.

Sign your name and mail it to coincide with her birthday. You can get her mom in on it by sending her the letter and enough cash to guy buy her the rose and ask mom to leave the rose and letter on her pillow.


You should also send Mom a thank you card. For having her!

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

wow muffie your full of ideas.

i'm comeing to you at valintiens

 

[Ice Princess]

I don't know how techno-savvy you are or what kind of equipment you have, but I sometimes make CDs for my boyfriend. Pictures of me, videos, sound files where I talk to him, or read him a story, little letters or stories I write for him, songs we both like, or just songs I want him to hear. I sometimes find and download freeware, maybe computer games, that I think he might like.

I've also done the same sort of thing the old-fashioned way. I bought one of those blank books from a bookstore, something with a cover you know she'll like. Then I wrote in it. I drew in it. I even pasted little newspaper clippings or pics from magazines or whatever in it. Dried flowers pasted in. Recipes. I think I even pasted in an email message or two that he had sent me and then added how special it had made me feel. The silly, the serious, whatever pops into your head -- just make it a book all for her.

 

[amelia]

If she was born the day before Christmas, that means she is a witch.

hey, that's what people always say about me and i was born on halloween!

 

[The Heretic]

I have several criteria I usually go by when I buy gifts for people:

1) I try to get them something that they would not get for themselves. I don't mean get them something they don't want, but rather something they would feel guilty buying for themselves because it would be a splurge or extravagent item. My parents (the cheapskates that they are) used to get us kids practical gifts for birthdays and XMas - like socks and school clothes - and that has totally turned me off such gift giving. But you get the idea.

2) I try to get them something that will last or that they will remember. That doesn't always coincide with #1, but often it does. For women, especially sentimental women, something as simple as a small inexpensive piece of jewelery works - but for some women it is really hard to choose such items.

3) Something special and unexpected. I once got a gold fish for a girlfriend and she loved it.

 

[BgMma]

how about a tattoo?

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

how about a tattoo?

she wants one but the docter told her nope, and refuses to sign the proper papers for her to get one.

 

[BgMma]

she wants one but the docter told her nope, and refuses to sign the proper papers for her to get one.

Hmm, well, how about a Henna tattoo? Painless and non-permanent. They are beautiful when finished and last for a few weeks