Getting into Oral?

[Teddybear1626]

So my man just told me that i dont get into him eating me out like some of the other girls hes went down on before. I moan and play w/ his hair and my legs quiver and i enjoy it i really do hes the best at what he does but how do i make it so he knows that im really enjoying it? Ive tired to get louder but last time he was like "I do have neighbors" so I'm not sure what else to do Any suggestions?

 

[SweetErika]

I'll give you the first three options that come to mind:
1) Ditch the guy...he's dumb, immature, or insensitive (possibly all three) to compare you to previous encounters in that way, especially when it should be pretty obvious you're doing what's natural while respecting the neighbors.

2) Suggest the women before you were stroking his ego and/or faking it, and ask if he would prefer if you make a big production out of it as well.

3) Reassure him he's great and you're just responding naturally (the way MOST women do). It sounds like he's really insecure and needs lots of praise. Also, ask him SPECIFICALLY what he would like... if he can't verbalize it, then he can't expect you to do it, right?

 

[Masadoni]

If you plan on staying with the guy and dont want to fake then here are a few things to do without lying, and without hurting him.

1. Give him instructions. Tell him what you like. If he is licking your clit for too long tell him to suck it instead. Tell him that you like when he licks and sucks your lips as well as the clit. Make sure he focuses on the whole area down there, not just the clit.

2. Try new things. Try having him put his finger in your asshole while he eats you out. Have him toss your salad, or lick your asshole. Make him do things you have never done. That way he will think you are into it, and the new sensations will make sure that you really are into it.

3. Watch a porn and tell him you want him to do everything the stars are doing. Re-enact the scenes and get into.

4. Try role playing. Tell him to pretend you are the woman down the street he has a crush on. You can really get a man into it and that will get you into it with a little roleplay.

IF this doesnt convince him that you are into then i dont know what will. Maybe he is the one with the problem and he is just taking his insecurities out on you. Dont worry about it. I hope this helps.

 

[Quoll]

WTF.

If he thinks you are not into it tell him to lift his game.
Tell him your past lovers were so much more experienced.

Ok I guess that doesn`t help you, but I feel better.

Nah I got nothing, how fucking rude, who does he think he is.

No one should have to take that sort of shit.

Sorry, you shouldn`t have to prove anything to him, if you are enjoying what he does he should be happy with that, I think he just wants an ego boost.

Ok, I really think he should get his arse kicked.

 

[Bobmi357]

This guys attitude really takes the cake!

Here's what you do. Next time you plan on having sex with this idiot, take a whistle to bed. When he's going down on you and you start getting into it, blow on the whistle... HARD AND LOUD!

Or take two old metal pans and start banging them together.

When he asks what you're doing, tell him you're getting into it like he asked, but you felt the need for some props to help you.

Quite honestly I find him comments rude and immature. So what if his former girlfriends trashed the bed and bedroom midst orgasm. Thats was them, not you. To be frank, I agree, the best comment would be, "Well maybe I'll get into it when you start doing it right!".

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'm not sure I understand what he wants you to do. I find his statement offensive to a degree, but maybe he's not communicating well. I'm guessing he didn't intend to offend you and it's either his own insecurities that need soothing or he wants to make sure you really love what he's doing.

Do you come when he goes down on you? If so, then he needs to tell you what he means by 'get into it' because that's really vague and doesn't mean anything without a frame of reference. Did his other girlfriends talk dirty or tell him what to do when he was going down on them? Does he maybe expect you to touch your breasts while he's going down on you? Or to pull his head tighter into you?

There isn't that much you can do if you're lying down and he's between your legs besides being vocal and touching either yourself or his head. I suppose there's thrashing around and all that, but if that doesn't feel natural to you, then trying to do that is going to distract you from feeling his tongue and coming.

If you don't come, then I'd start with that and tell him what you'd like him to do for you to help you come.

Maybe he just hasn't been with enough women to understand that we are all unique in our vocal and physical responses to sex. We don't all sound like porn stars all the time, unless we're faking it. Some women actually need to feel relaxed and be quiet to concentrate on the sensations and won't come if they're supposed to put on a show.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

It makes me wonder what the other girls were doing? If you ask him that question will you come back on here and tell us?

 

[Guest]

You're certainly not doing anything wrong by being you and reacting the way you feel like reacting.

He isn't exactly to blame either.

I'm willing to bet that if you had him explain it to you he would tell you that at least one of the women he did this to had incredibly audible, enthusiastic and animated reactions to his oral skills and that's something that turned him on because it stroked his ego in a dramatic way. This is not to say that he has great oral skills, it could just say that she was really easy to give an orgasm to and the same effect could have been achieved with sandpaper.

I'm also willing to bet that it was in fact only one woman who reacted like that, but he's making it sound like they all did, or at least most of them to get you to become more enthusiastic during your orgasms.

If he tells you that he needs you to react in that sort of way then he does need to consider a different lover as do you.

If he truly has a brain in his head then he'll know that every woman is different from every other woman, and within their own bodies a woman can react differently to different things at almost any given time of the month, day or even by the hour.

He's not that sexually wise unless he knows, understands and accepts these truths.