Getting a 4Some going / positions advice

[21arcadia]

Hi there. Long time lurker - first time poster here. We are chatting to another couple on a swingers board and are hoping to experience our first 4some experience and was hoping for some practical advice. We are making arrangements to meet up for dinner soon.

How does one get things going / break the ice on the night?

Girls are bi/bi-curious, guys are straight. What positions work well? I can imagine a guy's mouth on each breast and another mouth down below.

Appreciate any assistance/advise.

 

[lynn-23]

21, my husband and I have not done anything like this, but it is a fantasy. I can't wait to hear how things go for you. I am sure you guys have talked a lot about it and are ready. But I'm sure you must be nervous! lol. Have you set any limits on what can happen or rules, etc? Curious how couples approach this, esp the first time.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Before you get into bed, make sure that all four of you are on the same page. The best way to do that is to make it clear that the first meeting will be just to get acquainted. Find out if you are attracted to her, she is attracted to you, your wife to him, and him to your wife. Our first meeting with another couple was a disaster because only three of those attractions were in place, but we went back to their room and played anyway. Since that night we have established a "no play on the first date" policy that has eliminated those awkward situations. For it to work, however, you have to let the other couple know that dinner is just dinner, and if everything works out you will make a play date for another time. Talk about your interests. Talk about experiences and expectations. Talk about what you like to do, what you are open to trying, and what is off limits. Talk about safe sex.

After you have met each other and you and your wife have had an opportunity to talk about whether you want to take the next step, then contact the other couple and see if they are interested in getting together for some fun time. Make a date for them to come to your house or the two of you to go to theirs, or if homes are not practical, make arrangements at a hotel/motel. Serve some drinks and light snacks. If it's a hotel meeting, stop first at a nearby bar/lounge for a few drinks. A little alcohol helps to calm the nerves. But don't get carried away. Drunk is not sexy.

Now comes the hard part--getting to the bedroom. If two or more of you are very gregarious, then just making an invitation to get undressed and go to the other room will do. For beginners, that isn't always the case. If you have a pool handy or a hot tub, a quick splash is an opportunity to get naked and get closer together before the main event. (Nothing beats a hot tub). Card games or adult board games can also be a means to get the clothes off. A pool table is helpful, as well. Or, the men can offer to give the women massages. Start with your own partner, then switch. The women can massage each other. If the ladies brought lingerie, they can put on a little fashion show and the men can take pics. The idea is to gradually move toward full nudity and touching each other.

Now, if everyone is comfortable and you have some exhibitionists in your group, then it is much easier. But otherwise, take it slow. Usually it is the women who are more inhibited, so take your time with them and make sure they are comfortable. Let the heat build. Set aside several hours so no one has to feel rushed.

As far as positions, combinations, etc...that's entirely up to the four of you. Pay attention when discussing preferences, and find out what she likes. My wife loves to have both of her nipples sucked, but another wife in our group gets nothing out of breast play. Each situation is different. Just let it flow and see where the passion takes you.

Good luck.

 

[lynn-23]

That sounds like good advice sof. I am sure that for a couple doing for the first time there are a lot of nerves.

 

[21arcadia]

Thanks for all the advice. Our initial add expressed a preference for some heavy petting between/across couples but culminating with a soft swing in the same room with our own partners.

Nervous - you bet, but since embarking down this path we have been going at each other like bunnies. All the discussions with likeminded couples, sharing photos, discussing preferences etc has made us both hot.

The initial dinner will be only that - dinner at a neutral venue with no playing on the night - to see that everybody clicks and is on the same page and happy to take it to the next step.

There have also been many many discussions with the mrs about what we want to try, what we don't want etc. Our initial thoughts about a soft swing seem to be heading out the window - we are now happy to do a full swap as long as we have safe sex, and there is a spark between all parties.

We have a great relationship and have been together for over 20 years with 3 kids. Until last week I had no idea mrs was bi-curious. Now, the thought of having 2 men sucking her nipples and their missus going down on her has her (and me) highly aroused - exciting times.

Please keep the advise coming - much appreciated.

 

[COCK_STAR]

If you need advice on how to fuck, you are probably going to disappoint the other broad. Have confidence, and always end with a facial.

 

[goofygus42]

Thanks for all the advice. Our initial add expressed a preference for some heavy petting between/across couples but culminating with a soft swing in the same room with our own partners.

A soft swing might be a good idea at this point. Another suggestion is agree that there will be no intercourse, but lots of oral. That can be a lot of fun.