get my woman to give a proper BJ...

[bisexplicit]

Both questions are valid.

She doesn't like giving BJs because of it's taste, and I could use some tips from women on how they have given awesome BJs in order to coach my fiancee.

Okay, so the swallowing your cum thing may or may not change; but really, don't force the issue.
As for just the taste - not the semen - take a shower first. (Sounds silly, but trust me. )
For tips, I'm sure we'd be happy to give you some (and I can give some and I'm sure other girls, can too). But, I think whats more important is how you're going to bring up the subject. The same way that you may not like your sexual performance evaluated and critiqued (we all have such sensitive egos when it comes to that), she may be offended.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Oh, now I feel bad that you feel bad! hehe. On my part, I'm just going to see it all as one big miscommunication. And, I can see that as an "excuse," but not a valid one. I'm glad you understand that difference.
I do differ on the opinion that oral sex is more intimate than intercourse, however differing opinions are not a bad thing.
While it may suck (no pun intended) for this guy to not have his BJs finished, it is just another differing of opinion between the two of them. I mean, imagine this thread was about golden showers or something. He loves it; she doesn't. I can't imagine anyone would say "Oh, she really needs to do that to make him happy." In her head, maybe swallowing is just as bad as that. *shrugs*
Anyway, don't worry, I say things that are misinterpreted all the time. I hope you have a nice day. (And sorry about threatening to slap you...)

And now I feel bad that you feel bad that I feel bad. It's one of those days, alright!

I agree, not a valid excuse at all, I won't disagree there. As for intimate, I'll give you two reaosn why. First, on a slightly commical level from a guy's perspective, you are putting your dick into someplace filled with sharp teeth, so there's a modicum of trust involved. Of course, that could be left over trama from the first BJ I ever got in college and the susequent trouble I had stopping the bleeding. Secondly, you are performing an act on your lover that is strictly for their pleasure, not for conception or anything else. You are taking your lover into your mouth, you are litterally tasting the essence of your lover. Does that not just scream of trust and intimacy? It does to me. I also believe that if there is an emotional connection and the reciever is willing to completely turn control over to the giver, there is a power in the giving of pleasure to your lover while you recieve no DIRECT pleasure from performing the act.

The problem is that intimacy can often be ruined by the reciever going on a power trip. Your Golden Shower comment does hit home though. If you force or even coerce someone into doing something they do not want to do, it destroys the intimacy.

As I read through my post though, I guess I was trying to play Devil's Advocate because I understand preacherboy's frustration, even if it did sound a little shallow. I guess I have my shallow moments too. And I do totally understand the ladies taking exception to this thread's title. Does being able to cum in a woman's mouth the criteria that makes it a proper blow job? What is a proper blowjob? That might be a harsh way to put it, because I don't think that is a good analogy. To me a proper blow job is any one that doesn't end with me needing gauss or stiches.

To preacherboy, I'm glad you're not totally hung up on this and are looking for a way to discuss this without hurting your fiance. As for you buddy, well he's an idiot, IMO.

To bisexplicit, sorry again, and don't worry, I probably deserved the slap, as I reread how I worded my post.

 

[silverwhisper]

dude: have you actually cum from oral sex before? don't laugh: there are men who don't.

ed

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

Some women just don't swallow. Have you tried talking to her and telling her you will not cum in her mouth, but either on her or anywhere else? And if you promise to do this, actually do it, or else she will NEVER trust you again...
Another suggestion, try a 69, she may be more turned on to make you cum if she is cumming...If you can get her doing this sometimes, eventually the time may come when she will just let you lay there and enjoy it, but seems to me you will have to work up to that...

 

[TBKahuna123]

But, I think whats more important is how you're going to bring up the subject. The same way that you may not like your sexual performance evaluated and critiqued (we all have such sensitive egos when it comes to that), she may be offended.

Oooo yeah, very important! When I brought this up to my wife I was really just trying to find out if something was wrong and she got really upset about it, thinking I was questioning her, etc. It was pretty ugly there for a few seconds, but then she told me why and it all made sense, and she didn't have to be selfconscious anymore and we talked about it calmly. The important thing is if this does happen to you, just hang on and ride it out and let her vent and calmly explain to her that you aren't saying she isn't doing something right, you are just exploring things. The worst thing you can do though is get defensive and start shouting back. Trust me, voice of experience talking here.

 

[YellowStraw80]

*****

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

I've been with my fiancee for over 7 years...While i enjoy our sex, I would like her to give me a BJ and finish it. She complains that it tastes bad. Does anyone have suggestions about how to make cum taste better, or to get her to lessen this inhibition?

My best friend told me that I have to "Release the hounds!!" when I cum into her mouth. In over 7 years, I haven't had the chance yet. Then again, I don't know if I would remember to do that if she was giving a BJ correctly.

Thanks!!

Really curious here..if she IS your fiancee, why the heck are you looking for a Mrs. Robinson here:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=345049

You know there are some days I am just so glad I am a lesbian!

 

[mistymoon]

boy did this subject get heated

I see a lot of things being said on this thread. Some of it got pretty emotional as well.

The whole issue about men leaving because a women doesn't give orally is just an excuse. but anyway...

I have a couple of thoughts that I would like to contribute....you should go and taste yourself and see what you taste like. Your body fluid just might be STRONG.... one thing you could do if you have it in your mind that you would like for your honey to swollow and the taste not be as strong is to masterbate beforehand. This way the volume of semen isn't as large and the taste isn't as strong. This way the majority of fluid is seminal fluid.

there was also a bit about having jaw pain which is very common with Bj's....use those hands ladies in conjuntion with your mouth so that you don't have to do so much work with your mouth. When your man is about to cum just take your mouth off and jerk him off. or take the ejaculate in your mouth and have a towel near by and descretely spit. men usually close their eyes when they are enjoying an orgasm and you could easily have spit without him ever knowing

the whole thing with sex and humans is comunication...if communication is bad then the rest of it goes down the tubes and you drift apart...

 

[DarkMuse]

Really curious here..if she IS your fiancee, why the heck are you looking for a Mrs. Robinson here:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=345049

You know there are some days I am just so glad I am a lesbian!

Bless your heart, ariel....LOL.

Obviously, he can't love her tooooo much, if he wants another woman.

He could have at least used a different handle...LOL.



Edited to add: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=292720
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=292111
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=292265

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

Thanks darkmuse, glad that somebody gets that! You know, I PM with a few here and there and have chatted with many, but nothing gets me more irked than a guy or gal who wants you to give and give with little reciprocation, or somebody who is not honest about his intentions. I mean if you are a cheat, at least be honest about it...

 

[TBKahuna123]

** SIGH **

Poor guy can't catch a break here, can he? Sorry preacherboy, you're on your own now. Time for me to cut my losses and slink back to the G-Spot thread.

 

[DarkMuse]

Thanks darkmuse, glad that somebody gets that! You know, I PM with a few here and there and have chatted with many, but nothing gets me more irked than a guy or gal who wants you to give and give with little reciprocation, or somebody who is not honest about his intentions. I mean if you are a cheat, at least be honest about it...

It's not as if his personals and his answers to them are merely chat/story oriented...he wants to meet with women...LOL.

(see the added links above)

*whine* my fiancee won't swallow----oooo--look who's over there!

 

[Erotic-Kiss]

It's all about diet. What you eat/drink directly reflects on how your cum tastes. Stay away from alcohol, spinach and a lot of processed foods for a while. Focus on health.

I'm serious. I've seen (tasted) this work.

 

[DarkMuse]

** SIGH **

Poor guy can't catch a break here, can he? Sorry preacherboy, you're on your own now. Time for me to cut my losses and slink back to the G-Spot thread.

LOL

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

OK had to laugh here, "Seeking female dom for online lessons...
I'm a 25 year old, with very little experience and who loves being told what to do." Hmm... seven years with a gal and little experience?? Thanks for the links dark muse...

 

[bisexplicit]

** SIGH **

Poor guy can't catch a break here, can he? Sorry preacherboy, you're on your own now. Time for me to cut my losses and slink back to the G-Spot thread.

Good idea. I give up on this guy, too - if hes over at the personals section AND has a fiancee.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Looks like he found his doms. Ariel and Dark Muse are certainly giving him a whipping.

Boy I suddenly feel like i got off light with the little slap bisexplicit gave me

 

[bisexplicit]

Looks like he found his doms. You and Dark Muse are certainly giving him a whipping.

Boy I suddenly feel like i got off light with the little slap bisexplicit gave me

*giggles* But, I didn't /really/ slap you!

 

[TBKahuna123]

*giggles* But, I didn't /really/ slap you!

Nah, but I probably deserved it.

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

Looks like he found his doms. Ariel and Dark Muse are certainly giving him a whipping.

Boy I suddenly feel like i got off light with the little slap bisexplicit gave me

LMAO! Here ya go TB http://clicksmilies.com/s0105/aktion/action-smiley-039.gif
or this http://clicksmilies.com/s0105/aktion/action-smiley-073.gif

 

[SweetErika]

I didn't read the other posts, so excuse me if this is a repeat of advice.

If you want her to swallow and she doesn't want to, you are out of luck, bud.

But, if you simply want to cum in her mouth (and I think this is what you want), and don't mind if she spits it out, your luck should be better.

Just tell her how much better it would feel for you if you could be brought to orgasm in her mouth.

Say it like this: "Imagine every time I gave you oral sex, I were to stop when you were about to orgasm, and start manually stimulating your clit until you came."

Essentially, that is what it boils down to. Hopefully, she is reasonable enough to understand.

No matter how reasonable someone is, that's a poor way to approach it. I wouldn't react well, and I'm sure most women wouldn't either. A genuine compliment followed by, 'Would you be willing to try...?' or 'It might be fun to experiment with...' is far more likely to end in something constructive, whereas your suggestion would probably hurt and make me defensive.

Preacherboy, for all I know you and your fiancee could have agreed it's okay for you to look for other women, so I won't judge on your other posts. If you haven't though, you've got some serious problems that WILL destroy your relationship. Instead of spending time looking for info on improving her oral skills and other women, perhaps you should take a close look at your relationship, whether or not you should make promises you may not be able to keep, communicating, fixing yourself, and focusing on making your relationship better. Love her, respect her, and really ask yourself if you're treating her the way you want to be treated.

 

[TBKahuna123]

LMAO! Here ya go TB http://clicksmilies.com/s0105/aktion/action-smiley-039.gif
or this http://clicksmilies.com/s0105/aktion/action-smiley-073.gif

ROFLMAO! Nice!

Sorry I know I shouldn't laugh at someone else's pain, but I can't help it. Too funny!

 

[DarkMuse]

hehehe

me? a domme?

LOL

gotta tell the boy that one (since I'm the one that likes to be held down and spanked...LOL).

 

[silverwhisper]

darkmuse: i've always felt that deep inside every sub, there's a dom waiting to get out. :>

ed

 

[SueJ]

darkmuse: i've always felt that deep inside every sub, there's a dom waiting to get out. :>

ed

ROFLOL, Ed! You may have something there, cause my Husband won't let me get anywhere NEAR the handle end of the flogger! Even I have not a clue what would happen. <giggles>