get my woman to give a proper BJ...

[DarkMuse]

LOL!

hmmmm...what a digression!

 

[Eilan]

Really curious here..if she IS your fiancee, why the heck are you looking for a Mrs. Robinson here:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=345049

Ooh. . . someone else who looks at thread starters' other posts. I like to see people do their homework.

 

[Wet Lady Ariel]

Ooh. . . someone else who looks at thread starters' other posts. I like to see people do their homework.

Thank you! You know I crack up sometimes at PM's I get from guys who have not read my profile. Not that I mind guys PMing me, but I only appreciate the ones who know I am into gals...

 

[Tonofnoise]

dude you may have to suffer

My last girlfriend somewhat liked the taste of cum in her mouth and I agree it felt good. Since I liked the taste of her. However my current girlfriend we've tried but she can't stand the taste what so ever. So we kept with the porn steps to making love. You get things started with oral sex and than find another hole. By the time your ready to cum its not in her mouth and lets be honest as long as you get to cum all men are happy. The biggiest thing should be making sure she cums and not where you cum.

Thats my story and I'm sticking to it.

 

[Quoll]

Wow three pages in a little over 24 hrs, I knew by the tone of the initial post that this was going to ruffle some feathers, as it should, but how did I let this one slip by. Damn thing will probably be up to four pages by the time I get back.

 

[h_i_s]

You are what you eat. If she complains that it's sour tasting or bitter for her try adjusting your diet. Cut back on salt, onion, garlic etc. Add lots of sweet foods, like fruit juices (esp. pineapple juice) .... and stay clear of dark leafy greens like kale, spinache, broccoli, asparagus etc ect. Many times the wrong choices of foods can make cum taste bitter.

i for one can't relate .. i love it when my Husband asks me to 'put my mouth to good use'. Swallowing is no issue for me, it's not my favorite taste but it's certainly not all that bad either. But ... when it's something you truely enjoy doing .. that's easier to say.

The only time i've not enjoyed giving a man oral, is when they just lay there the whole time ...... and it takes FOREVER to get them off. The mouth and jaw and tongue get tired after a while .... as well as the neck.

And as others have offered, i will say it too: C-O-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E !!!!
Try interacting, gripping her hair at the back of the nape .. guiding her the way you like.... if she's willing & likes it that way. Talk to her. Tell her how beautiful she looks with your cock in her mouth. Tell her how good it feels ... offer some feedback. Either talking dirty, or even just a bit of moaning to let her know you are still alive can be helpful too. And/Or, lay on your back with her at your side facing your feet while she does oral on you, and the position will give your fingers access to her pink bits so she won't feel left out of the action.

It may not work for everyone .... but it certainly works for me.

 

[sexy_dancer]

whats the big prob

I love to give my husband bj's. Sometimes I would rather do that than have sex because it's such a turn on for me. Anyway I don't understand why she would say that it tastes gross, but if she's afraid of the taste of cum then there are ways to make sure that your cum isn't bitter. But you could also work up to her tasting your cum by, cumming on her face and asking her to lick some off and keep going until she's no longer afraid to suck you until you cum. No worries you just need to work at it a little. Thats my advice...sorry if it doesnt help or if you don't like it.

 

[SweetErika]

I love to give my husband bj's. Sometimes I would rather do that than have sex because it's such a turn on for me. Anyway I don't understand why she would say that it tastes gross, but if she's afraid of the taste of cum then there are ways to make sure that your cum isn't bitter. But you could also work up to her tasting your cum by, cumming on her face and asking her to lick some off and keep going until she's no longer afraid to suck you until you cum. No worries you just need to work at it a little. Thats my advice...sorry if it doesnt help or if you knot like it.

SD, I respect your opinion, but would not UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES suggest asking to cum on her face. As discussed in the facials thread, some people find this extremely disrespectful or degrading. So unless you've discussed and agreed facials are arousing for both of you in the first place, "Hey baby, if you won't give me a blowjob or let me cum in your mouth, can I spurt all over your face so you can sample me?" is a really bad way to go.

I'm still not clear on whether it's the semen or the genitals she's objecting to, but if you're a man and you don't already, washing all of the nooks and crannies well and shaving can make oral much more enjoyable. Maybe experimenting with lickable food or flavored lubes (though I find most of those vile) could be an incentive too. Just make sure you wash thoroughly before intercourse if you've used something that contains sugar (even whipped cream).

 

[Geezerguy]

By the time your ready to cum its not in her mouth and lets be honest as long as you get to cum all men are happy. The biggiest thing should be making sure she cums and not where you cum.

Thats my story and I'm sticking to it.

I liked this, I really did. The defining moment of becoming a man rather than being a boy was taking on the motto of "lick her to bits, spurt later" for me ... LOL. But joking aside - I was probably 28 years old before I reached the point of realisation that the better time my sweetheart has then the better time I am going to have.

Oh and someone else in this thread mentioned intimacy. And suggested that oral sex was not as intimate as intercourse ... just to be a little contentious I just don't understand that. For me giving my darling oral sex is about as intimate as it can get.

 

[cmarlowe01]

Watch porn with her. THat should help.

 

[chris9]

If one of the reason you want oral sex is to lay back and don't do the work, don't worry about her orgasm, just be selfish (not really bad if done occasionally), maybe you can hand her some massage oil and take you there by a good massage of your private parts. If she doesn't like giving oral, it's just her decision.
To say something like 'I do this for you all the time, so do it for me, too' just won't work. People are different. And while I would never expect my bf to go down on me if he doesn't like it (he does, and is just great at it), I expect the same respect for my own preferences. So if I thought giving oral and/or swallowing/taking his cum in my mouth was gross, I wouldn't do it and he would have to live with it. Then we would have to find some compromise so no one would feel left out or treated unfairly. (COMMUNICATION)
As for the suggestion to try soixante-neuf: For me, that just doesn't work. I can either concentrate on giving or on receiving, but not on both, it just confuses me, turns me off and makes me do a fairly bad job...

 

[Delurker]

I'm not a woman, but...

Both questions are valid.

She doesn't like giving BJs because of it's taste, and I could use some tips from women on how they have given awesome BJs in order to coach my fiancee.

The only thing I can say is, you know what you like when she is giving you a BJ. Let her know when she does something you like, that way she will continue/ repeat the good feeling stuff, and when she dose something you dont like let her know(in a loving way), also.

Just my $.02

 

[Mad_Rhetoric]

Guys, just be lucky you get anything at ALL.

My wife is the world's biggest tease but she is all talk and no action.
(Therapist didn't work, my wife seems to like to follow advice she agrees with.)

There are guys (like me) that aren't about to cheat, but are soooo sexually neglected.

She has lost all intrest in the penis, and getting eaten seems to be the only way for us to do anything intimate other than her teasing and not following through.
I don't think things like this happen in mid to late 20's do they?



So guys, things can always be worse.
My situation has me extremely depressed because her intrest for anything but getting eaten out leaves me high and dry daily.
I'm at rock bottom, me getting a bj, swallowing or not, would be a big improvement.

I would give my right ball for the things you guys do on a daily basis. Be glad.

 

[ahhhhhhello]

I hope you read this one! I had (doing great now) a hard time with bj's. I had violent/rape issues when I was under 10 years old. Still I always thought my partners will never be the object of my pain. When I married my husband (He LOVES bj's) I thought, OK we are going away for 2 weeks, he deals with lots of stuff from me. Every day for 2 weeks, when it was clear to me he wanted anything, any thing, I gave it. Poor guy had so many nights of nothing from me before the wedding. I now can say, coming up on our 8th wedding anniversary, I love his cum. Tables do turn though, now I don't get enough and ended up here, wink*. Give her instructions and time. But don't settle for less than you want. I knew my husband deserved more and gave it to him... now I need to teach him that my demonds are gone and I need more. Time it's a good thing

 

[pupper]

My wife used to not be into bj's either,I was really into performing oral on her though before me she had ever been gone down on,I read and researched everything I could on cunnilingus,so much so that I taught her to squirt.I think the main goal in everyones relationship should be pleasuring their partner without expectations from their lover.If you practice this you will find that your lover will reciprocate.My wife had a bad gag reflex,she would get a little tipsy and swallow my cock until she got used to it,she would tell me not to cum in her mouth,then one day she begged for me to cum in her mouth.I then had difficulty cumming in her mouth because I was so conditioned not too.She worked at it,including giving me prostate massages with oral until I started cumming hard in her mouth,I still have to warn her that it is coming,but to some extent she senses when I'm coming.It all boils down to pleasuring your partner,if you pleasure them they will pleasure you(but don't expect it,it will come naturally,just put your all into loving and pleasuring your partner.

 

[ahhhhhhello]

Said soooo much better than me. This is why it was easy for me to give to my husband...because he never expected anything. Also, I did the tipsy...ok I'll try that. He never pushed anything though.

 

[Ashleey]

From a woman's perspective, I don't get it... I mean, it doesn't taste that bad! I have to admit, the first couple of times I did it, I was completely surprised by it, and the taste was a bit overwhelming, but once I knew what to expect, it wasn't earth-shatteringly bad! I actually have more of a problem with giving a BJ that lasts for any amount of time - my jaw and tongue get sore! But I have no problem with helping my FB get to the edge and then sucking him into my mouth as he comes.

the taste actually depends on the guy....my ex-husbands cum actually burned my throat....most guys i've tasted, I liked just fine, but sometimes it is really difficult depending on their diet.

 

[leanoir]

Even more suggestions...

Sounds like there could be more to it than her just not liking the taste. A lot of people have made some good suggestions (changing your diet, etc.) but the bottom line is, if she loves you, she wants to please you. I was never particularly fond of giving blow jobs (and I'm still not) but I love my boyfriend. If that's what he wants, that's what he gets. I know that it's reciprocal though.

I guess what I'm really trying to say is, if it's something that she really doesn't like doing, then the only way to get her to do it is to make sure that she trusts that you love her and will do whatever it takes to please her too. Make a concession. Say you'll do something you've been a little iffy about before, or fulfill one of her fantasies. Maybe she'll equate the two and it won't be so bad.

 

[bmw1080]

If taste is the issue then you need to have a decent shower, and not just once! also, be aware that what you eat flavours your sperm.

BUT, I suspect it is more your arrogance of "what I want", very self-centered. what about your partner? Yeah, did you forget about her? Perhaps if you provided great oral for HER, she may be more willing?

Think about it.