Gay/BI One night stand, or affair?

[Hitchiker69]

As for M/M sex, I've only ever had one night stands with strangers, and I've never seen them again. This seems the best way to avoid complications, and having to make explanations or excuses. Also, that means nobody else will ever know what the 2 of us did that night. And I can hide remorse or shame, if I feel any. Plus there's no emotion or attachment to it, it's just sex and satisfaction, nothing more.

I've fantasized about cousins or co-workers who I suspect are gay, or my wife's gay friends, but I never acted on it. Too close, and I'm afraid a gay affair with someone I know would never remain a secret.

What's your experience?

 

[1960curious]

I have only been with 4 guys. 3 were blow and go, never seen them again. The other one was a 4 year affair with a good friend, it only ended because he move 1500 miles away!

 

[klippert]

college was 90% one night stands or cursing the trails. until I meet someone that showed and told me where to go for safer connections. This was the late 80's and early 90's. throughout college I was never in a "long-term" with another guy. I went straightish until my first marriage ended. I plied my knowledge at the sex toy shops and porn shop. Then I meet a married guy whos wife was into his Bisexuality. that was the longest M/M I ever had.
Jump ahead to the present day. I reconnected with guy I meet in late 2019... he's in the same situation...loving but sexless marriage. we have really good thing, though we don't meet much because real life gets in the way. There is very little sneaking around, we have so much in common. Hunting, fishing, we both like to and out of necessity have work on cars..truck and equipment. so we have some good excuses to get together...add in we have some of the same kinks

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

For me, it's been casual sex with other men. I have a few regulars, men who are also in sexless marriages. It's not a relationship, no emotional complications, just horny men who trust each other and help each other satisfy the urges.
I've had only one affair and it broke my heart. My Lit story,, Alex and Me, is presented as fiction, but it is 100% autobiography. Ever since then (that over 20 years ago), I've guarded my heart and kept everything casual, even with my regular sex buddies.

 

[Sunnyade]

I've had both. I prefer a connection with a partner. I've had a regular FWB for 6 years.

 

[easyoff]

I've had a few affairs with guys that were good friends and one that lasted a few years with a gay couple.

 

[Nicklie]

college was 90% one night stands or cursing the trails. until I meet someone that showed and told me where to go for safer connections. This was the late 80's and early 90's. throughout college I was never in a "long-term" with another guy. I went straightish until my first marriage ended. I plied my knowledge at the sex toy shops and porn shop. Then I meet a married guy whos wife was into his Bisexuality. that was the longest M/M I ever had.
Jump ahead to the present day. I reconnected with guy I meet in late 2019... he's in the same situation...loving but sexless marriage. we have really good thing, though we don't meet much because real life gets in the way. There is very little sneaking around, we have so much in common. Hunting, fishing, we both like to and out of necessity have work on cars..truck and equipment. so we have some good excuses to get together...add in we have some of the same links

I always had that kinda relationship so in with most of my friends! Trust and understanding plus it's one of my kinky things is giving blow jobs to my horny straight friends. I've had some very long relationships with most of them!

 

[ffltstone1]

Where did you connect with the guy.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I had a gay "relationship" with an older friend years ago. It was all sexual on my part, not romantic. Read my story on Lit: https://www.literotica.com/s/tribute-to-a-cocksucker

Since then only "one encounter stands"
https://www.literotica.com/s/my-trips-to-the-store