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zman1415

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I had this over in the Fetish/Sexuality central, but figured it might get a better response over here.

Ok so I'm 25 with a girlfriend who isn't exactly experimental, but she's also not prude. My two main fantasies (although I have many) is A) a 4-some, and B) both of us but especially me being pushed (forced may not be the right word, not looking for bondage/total submission) to stretch the boundaries (sharing my girlfriend, and on the extreme end male/male, cleaning up, etc). I don't know how we'd start getting into situations like that (especially with another couple or another guy), but one of the thoughts was a game to set rules and "force" everyone to get a little booze in them and try some things they might not have done if not for the game itself.

The problem with truth or dare type games is it's on the person making up the dares to suggest things, which can get awkward if the boundaries get pushed to fast and if the majority don't want to push the boundaries, the game never goes anywhere. I've heard that there are some fairly intense sex games out there (I'm interested in those, too, so I wouldn't mind someone suggesting those either), which would get to hot and heavy a little to quickly. Does anyone have any ideas on games they've created themselves or games they've found that allow some little-by-little pushing of the boundaries, and might have an additional level for if things do go well at the start?
 
Ok so I'm 25 with a girlfriend who isn't exactly experimental, but she's also not prude. My two main fantasies (although I have many) is A) a 4-some, and B) both of us but especially me being pushed (forced may not be the right word, not looking for bondage/total submission) to stretch the boundaries (sharing my girlfriend, and on the extreme end male/male, cleaning up, etc). I don't know how we'd start getting into situations like that (especially with another couple or another guy),
Have you heard of swinging? Either way, it's a very simple way to find other people and couples who are interested in NSA sex with couples. From what I've heard, male bisexuality is often a no-no in the lifestyle (thus, you probably won't find a lot of guys who are receptive to M/M activity at a swinger's club/party), but there are certainly always exceptions. A site like SwingLifestyle would allow you to be up front about your boundaries and interests.

D/s would be another route to check into. Fetlife is one of the main kinky social networking sites, but there are also free personals like CollarMe, groups, munches, and clubs. Almost everywhere has some sort of BDSM scene within a reasonable distance. You definitely don't have to be into bondage, S&M or total submission to participate - it's totally acceptable to "bottom" for just one scene, negotiate, have soft and hard limits, etc. Hell, there are even "service tops" who basically cater to their bottom's interests! For instance, perhaps you and your gf would be interested in trying a scene with a dominant male or couple that pushes--but also absolutely respects--your boundaries. If you don't enjoy the particular person/people or dynamic, no biggie!

My point is that "BDSM" is incredibly diverse and NOT the stereotypical whips and chains at all. Being open to activities that fall under the BDSM (or, more specifically, D/s and/or power play) umbrella could allow you far richer experiences than if you just stuck to people/groups that focused on sex. Therefore, you'd be wise to take a look at it, go to some munches (social meetings without play, usually held in restaurants) and simply talk to a bunch of people about the possibilities. Folks in the community are generally incredibly open and generous with their time and knowledge. And like many other things, networking is important - you might not meet anyone you're interested in at a munch or party, but people you talk to probably know others who might be a great match for you.
but one of the thoughts was a game to set rules and "force" everyone to get a little booze in them and try some things they might not have done if not for the game itself.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a drink or two, but generally, if you can't do something totally sober, you shouldn't be doing it with the help of alcohol or drugs. Cloudy judgment is NOT something you want to have when you're doing stuff that could have serious consequences, like STIs, pregnancy, harming your relationship, being assaulted, violating boundaries, etc.

I've heard that there are some fairly intense sex games out there (I'm interested in those, too, so I wouldn't mind someone suggesting those either), which would get to hot and heavy a little to quickly. Does anyone have any ideas on games they've created themselves or games they've found that allow some little-by-little pushing of the boundaries, and might have an additional level for if things do go well at the start?
We've had a ton of game threads here, so I'll refer you to some of those, at least to start. Click me.
 
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