G Spot ?

[Petetheman]

I cannot get my wife to G spot orgasm. I have followed all the techniques AND even got a tulip G spot stimulator and still nothing. I want to give her the ultimate orgasm as described by so many. What am I doing wrong?

 

[nakdsub]

Kind of hard to figure out what you're doing wrong...

Can't your partner guide you? I was usually pretty good at it, but I had a GF who was like that as well. It took some practice, but with her help, we finally got it down.

 

[Carnevil9]

Make sure she's good and stimulated first. In my experience, the G-spot doesn't become evident until after plenty of clitoral or otherwise stimulation. Then it begins to swell, and is difficult to miss.

Good luck!

 

[nakdsub]

Yes, she does have to be stimulated first...

also, gently press on her stomach and make sure you arch your fingers, you want to reach the wall inside of her.
If you're involved in intercourse you can sometimes reach hit it with your penis if you have her knees up to her chest.
A little baby oil on the fingers helps as well.
Good luck, if you can get proficient at it, she'll love you for ever.

 

[Eilan]

In addition to what everyone else said, focus on the journey instead of the destination. Don't make G-spot orgasms the goal of every encounter, and make sure you're not (unintentionally) putting pressure on her to have an orgasm this way. Good luck.

 

[Mr.G]

Keep Trying

But as mentioned don't focus on that only and especially not if she is feeling like she has to perform and is failing.

There are a number of reasons why she may not feel anything. Many women need to be in control (control freaks normally) and refuse to relinquish control of their orgasm. Some women have physical conditions where there has been damage to the nerve trunk and that particular type of stimulation just does nothing or causes pain.

Does she orgasm from other stimulation? You didn't mention that. If she does, then from my experience and feedback you need to be slow, UNfocused and try this now and then when she is really horny. Try different positions. If she doesn't respond in the first few minutes then go on to other stuff and try again later or another time.

Probably the best way to FEEEEL her becoming aroused via Gspot stimulation is while performing oral on her. As her excitement grows you can get a little rougher with he rGSpot but DO NOT flip her over and just pound the G like I describe in the first pages. That works great for a woman who is responding almost immediately (1st 2 to 3 minutes of specific G stimulation) but NOT on a woman who is scared, fighting the feeling or overcoming other feelings which could turn her off. What is going on in her head is probably what is not allowing this to happen. There are some women - no idea the % - that simply do not respond to this. Some women can cum from having their nipples sucked on and played with. Some can't. Some women SQUIRT. Some do not and other do sometimes and not others.

ALL women are different. AS the previous poster suggested. Enjoy the journey and don't focus on the destination.

 

[subwannabe]

Good advice so far. I just want to ad that everyone is different. Some women don't have clitoral orgasms. It is very possible that maybe she just can't have a g-spot orgasm. In fact (I don't personally believe this) I have seen some articles recently where some experts are trying to claim that there really isn't such a thing as a g-spot. I'm not trying to say give up because I think you should keep on trying but as most everyone else has said, concentrate on the journey, not just the destination. If it happens great. If it doesn't you shouldn't feel like either one of you did something wrong.

 

[Juliewife]

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I remember sex ed classes and being told the gentle tug in the labia minora as the penis went in and out stimulated the clitoris and caused orgasm. Maybe for some women, but almost never for me. Lots of things were fantastic the night I lost my virginity, but a climax was not one of them. We quickly found out I needed his pelvis against my clitoris in order to climax. Maybe that was left over from a lot of dry humping, but I don't think so. Next time was WAY better.

We found out telling each other what feels good was the best way to have sex. Listen to what she tells you.

 

[CWatson]

I want to give her the ultimate orgasm as described by so many. What am I doing wrong?

Performance anxiety, maybe?

Every woman is different, and every sexual relationship is different. There's no rule in the Book of Rules Somewhere that says, "A man must know where his lover's G-spot is." First off, that leaves gay men out in the cold. Second, medical science is still up in the air as to what the G-spot is and whether it actually exists. Your wife may not have one. Third, not everybody likes the same things. My first lover is into anal, and (seeing as how she was my first lover) I was eager to experiment. But when the time came, she wanted me to go at her like a battering ram. I found this gloriously unsexy. I may like anal, but not that way.

Take a deep breath and relax. It's good to want to please your lover, and to want to experiment, but it's not a sin if things don't work out the way you wanted them to.

 

[SweetErika]

Good advice so far. I just want to ad that everyone is different. Some women don't have clitoral orgasms. It is very possible that maybe she just can't have a g-spot orgasm. In fact (I don't personally believe this) I have seen some articles recently where some experts are trying to claim that there really isn't such a thing as a g-spot. I'm not trying to say give up because I think you should keep on trying but as most everyone else has said, concentrate on the journey, not just the destination. If it happens great. If it doesn't you shouldn't feel like either one of you did something wrong.

Seconded.

Peter, have you asked your wife if she's found her g-spot, or any spot inside her vagina that is particularly receptive to stimulation? Has she tried using the g-spot vibe on herself when she's utterly horny, relaxed and masturbating on her own? Have you both tried exploring the entire front wall of her vagina (vs. just where the gspot is 'supposed' to be)?

Her g-spot may not be a source of pleasure for her, or maybe it is and you just haven't found it (or the type of stimulation that works for her) yet. Hell, maybe she's like me and CAN have g-spot orgasms, but everything has to be just right and even then, they're still not as fantastic as orgasms that result from clit stimulation. Like others have said, we're all different.

But just reading the description in your post makes me feel anxious, so I can only imagine how anxious and pressured your wife might feel. If I were you, I'd ask myself why this conquest was so important to me and back off completely. Don't worry about finding particular spots; just focus on exploring and finding whatever spots work for your wife, regardless of where they are on her body or in her brain! Encourage her to explore on her own and let you know if she finds anything at all that she really enjoys, whether or not it has anything to do with vaginal or g-spot stimulation, because you're only interested in learning and multiplying her pleasure. You might even tell her that you've been overly focused on her g-spot, you're sorry if she felt any stress because of that, and you're changing your ways (if any/all of that is true). Relaxation, exploration of the WHOLE person (body, mind and spirit), and good communication are typically critical to enjoyable experiences with a partner, so make those things your goals.

Good luck and feel free to let us know if you have further questions and how everything goes for you two.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It took 2 years with my current partner for it to happen for me. First time too!

The times we tried to concentrate on doing it, it never happened. I'd get close, but the sheer difference, the strangeness of the sensations would spook me. Then one time, we were concentrating on an attempt at fisting, and then all of a sudden, it happened.

It's one of those things, the more you try, the further away you get, I think.

And is your wife entirely comfortable with her body, the various sensations of sex? I know it might seem like an odd question, but I know from experience that there can be some lingering hang ups a person might not even know exists.

 

[Petetheman]

thanks all

All good suggestions. I will take into consideration. One note...several replies indicated that i was pressuring my wife which is not the case at all. After readins sooo much about the g spot and how great the orgasm is i wanted her to experience it. I get off more getting her off. In any case she has no issues with clitoral stimulatin and always climaxes this way. From what i read here/ now it may not be for her and may not be acheivable. Thanks again.

 

[NippleMuncher]

From what i read here/ now it may not be for her and may not be acheivable. Thanks again.

But that is no reason to give up. Betcha she's enjoying the journey, even if the destination never seems to come (no pun intended ).

 

[sweetsex85]

I cannot get my wife to G spot orgasm. I have followed all the techniques AND even got a tulip G spot stimulator and still nothing. I want to give her the ultimate orgasm as described by so many. What am I doing wrong?

I am not sure but i thought that according to theory when you stimulates G-spot she will release heavy amount of liquid like pee but in practically i dint see it, when i was fingering my girlfriend suddenly she overlapped her leg and stopped me and when i asked about reason she told me she came off but liquid dint come out...

 

[ImiGirrst]

Toys don't do it for me at all and I'd only had my partners find it maybe a total of 10 times EVER. But a good dick finds it all the time.

Once I have a clitoral orgasm, it's like my g-spot is turned on. My orgasms just keep going after I'm penetrated.

 

[Mr.G]

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I am not sure but i thought that according to theory when you stimulates G-spot she will release heavy amount of liquid like pee but in practically i dint see it, when i was fingering my girlfriend suddenly she overlapped her leg and stopped me and when i asked about reason she told me she came off but liquid dint come out...

A few years ago "SQUIRTING" videos became popular. BUMMER!! A few stars who are best known for the final squirting scenes (more like fire hose practice) have revealed in interviews that they are "fluffed" for up to SIX HOURS before a squirting climax. How many couples turn each other on for 6 or 8 HOURS and then go for a climax? My guess is not a lot. These are PROFESSIONALS. DO try this at home but don't expect the same results after poking her for 4 or 5 MINUTES.

The other complete fallacy that comes out of these squirting vids is that women who do not squirt are MISSING HALF their pleasure or that NOT squirting is a ailure even though she has orgasmed for three straight HOURS!!!. Nonsense.

Many women can orgasm until the cows cum home with G and A spot orgasms and NEVER squirt. There are techniques for making it happen - or not - with a woman but it doesn't work all the time and it certainly doesn't happen universally with ALL women.

You can read and follow "techniques" until you're blue in the face but if your woman isn't turned on by what you're doing then that it's not going to work. If she is nervous of losing control with you it's not going to work. If she "thinks" she's actually going to urinate, it's not going to happen. If she doesn't trust you completely or feels this is a POWER move by you , it's not going to happen. With some women it may be surgery, lack of muscle tone, recent child birth, simple exhaustion, mental stress.

I've received many PMs from those reading my TRY THIS thread. Other than the much expected, "OK I got her squirting. It's a HUGE MESS. Now how do I stop her from squirting?" the next most frequent note I get is, " She said she came 20 or 30 times but she didn't squirt. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?"

There are women who spend a lifetime with a partner and NEVER orgasm even once during sex. A partner, using the technique makes their partner cum dozens of times and they consider it a failure if their woman doesn't soak the bed and flood the basement. ASK the woman, married for 40 years and has never cum once what you're doing WRONG and you're liable to get a high heel rammed into your ear so hard you wake up speaking french!!

 

[sweetsex85]

A few years ago "SQUIRTING" videos became popular. BUMMER!! A few stars who are best known for the final squirting scenes (more like fire hose practice) have revealed in interviews that they are "fluffed" for up to SIX HOURS before a squirting climax. How many couples turn each other on for 6 or 8 HOURS and then go for a climax? My guess is not a lot. These are PROFESSIONALS. DO try this at home but don't expect the same results after poking her for 4 or 5 MINUTES.

The other complete fallacy that comes out of these squirting vids is that women who do not squirt are MISSING HALF their pleasure or that NOT squirting is a ailure even though she has orgasmed for three straight HOURS!!!. Nonsense.

Many women can orgasm until the cows cum home with G and A spot orgasms and NEVER squirt. There are techniques for making it happen - or not - with a woman but it doesn't work all the time and it certainly doesn't happen universally with ALL women.

You can read and follow "techniques" until you're blue in the face but if your woman isn't turned on by what you're doing then that it's not going to work. If she is nervous of losing control with you it's not going to work. If she "thinks" she's actually going to urinate, it's not going to happen. If she doesn't trust you completely or feels this is a POWER move by you , it's not going to happen. With some women it may be surgery, lack of muscle tone, recent child birth, simple exhaustion, mental stress.

I've received many PMs from those reading my TRY THIS thread. Other than the much expected, "OK I got her squirting. It's a HUGE MESS. Now how do I stop her from squirting?" the next most frequent note I get is, " She said she came 20 or 30 times but she didn't squirt. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?"

There are women who spend a lifetime with a partner and NEVER orgasm even once during sex. A partner, using the technique makes their partner cum dozens of times and they consider it a failure if their woman doesn't soak the bed and flood the basement. ASK the woman, married for 40 years and has never cum once what you're doing WRONG and you're liable to get a high heel rammed into your ear so hard you wake up speaking french!!

Thanks for your contribution in finding G-spot..

 

[Cattypuss]

As to squirting...

I will NOT squirt AT ALL if I'm even close to not being hydrated (e.g. I never squirt in the mornings when I wake up because I've been all night without a drink).

At the other end of the spectrum, I will do MONSTER squirting (really HUGE volumes) if I've been drinking a lot of water or tea and am well hydrated.

A lot of people keep themselves pretty much constantly dehydrated through not habitually drinking enough - and I suspect that this is why so few (even g-spot savvy) women squirt.

Squirting is not the be-all and end-all and for me it does not always coincide with an orgasm. But squirting is, in and of itself, for me, a very blissful-feeling thing.

Edited to add: for the avoidance of doubt, when I say "well-hydrated" I mean that there is a lot of water in the bloodstream. Not that there is a full bladder.

 

[PhoebeP]

Search for a thread called: Try this & report back.

 

[subwannabe]

G-Spot: Science Can't Find It After 60 Years, Study Says


http://news.yahoo.com/g-spot-science-cant-60-years-study-says-155202501.html

 

[PhoebeP]

I've felt it. Do the search.

 

[OrelP]

G Spot is a myth....

 

[Cattypuss]

G Spot is a myth....

LOL that's like saying Tasmania doesn't exist just cos you've never been there.

 

[PaulBlart]

My wife has also never gotten off this way. She does find G spot stimulation, well, stimulating. But, for her, I think it's about patience. When I just stimulate her G spot, she gets aroused and when she's aroused she wants clitoral stimulation (LIKE, NOW!), so we never get far enough with the G to see where it goes. Orgasms aren't the be all and end all. Just enjoy the pleasure you give each other and relax.

 

[OrelP]

LOL that's like saying Tasmania doesn't exist just cos you've never been there.

Okay.. but even if Tasmania does exist... it's like, who CARES?! I've got better things to do than go looking around for this Tasmania you speak of