G/f looking for hard-ons....

[ShandyLeer]

....my s/o, whilst not sold on swinging/swapping, often fantasises about being watched by strangers and getting them hard. So hard they have to unzip and jerk off in front of her on hr say so.

There might be one or more strangers, maybe a m/f couple, but her thing isn't touching or being touched - it's being the centre of attention, and wantoness.

I wonder how realistic it is to indulge her fantasy, which she's willing to experiment with in reality, whilst ensuring there's no expectation of physical contact, unless she expressly wants that ?

Have already discussed a suitable post covid meet with an un-named lit' poster and his like minded other half, but more generally how do people manage the expectations of those you might hook up with in a hotel bar or whatever so that everyone is safe and happy ?

 

[HoldYouDown]

Have you tried this with an online partner? My gf and I do this - a guy watches online and jerks.

Otherwise, for real life, you might want to use an app like Tinder, then meet the guy in a public place and get to know him and establish the ground rules.

I think the most important thing is that 1) it's about what she wants and 2) you are in charge. Any deviation and he gets tossed.

Or you can go to a swinger club!

 

[nkycatsfan]

....my s/o, whilst not sold on swinging/swapping, often fantasises about being watched by strangers and getting them hard. So hard they have to unzip and jerk off in front of her on hr say so.

There might be one or more strangers, maybe a m/f couple, but her thing isn't touching or being touched - it's being the centre of attention, and wantoness.

I wonder how realistic it is to indulge her fantasy, which she's willing to experiment with in reality, whilst ensuring there's no expectation of physical contact, unless she expressly wants that ?

Have already discussed a suitable post covid meet with an un-named lit' poster and his like minded other half, but more generally how do people manage the expectations of those you might hook up with in a hotel bar or whatever so that everyone is safe and happy ?

My wife was like this...where it was more about feeling like she turned others on, etc. (it quickly turned into those others being hands on and then swinging)

 

[ShandyLeer]

My wife was like this...where it was more about feeling like she turned others on, etc. (it quickly turned into those others being hands on and then swinging)

Interesting. How long did it take to go from her first venture before she was fully involved in swinging ? I'm curious since I imagine things might take the same course with my g/f, a toe in the water before diving in......

 

[nkycatsfan]

Interesting. How long did it take to go from her first venture before she was fully involved in swinging ? I'm curious since I imagine things might take the same course with my g/f, a toe in the water before diving in......

It all happened relatively quickly. It started as her flashing a couple of friends. Then, one night, another couple was playing a game with us and she and the other wife lost a bet and ended up making out in front of the other husband and I for a number of minutes. It turned her and the other girl on from knowing how hard it made the two of us husbands that we all went to our respective rooms on the trip and banged it out hard immediately after. From there, we had a group of friends over, with her and another girl being the only females with a total of four males hanging out and she suggested a drinking game. She divulged during the game that she had recently made out with another girl and that it definitely turned her on knowing that it turned me and the other husband on...so someone eventually dared her and the other girl to make out, but with an added twist - topless. So they did, and every guy in the room had a bulge going.

All of that happened in like a 3-4 month span...then a month or so later, she let a guy motorboat her (she has nice, big breasts...I've posted a few times on here) and as drinks flowed, told him he could do it again if she got to see the reaction. So he pulled it out after getting to get his face in there again and she watched him jerk off (a little even got on her). Then about a month or so later, we had another guy over and he suggested a drinking game while we were watching basketball and she suggested the one we'd played that has dares...and, well, after a lot of teasing, he eventually dared her to give him a lap dance....while he was in boxers. She agreed and gave the hottest lap dance ever, letting him suck on the breasts and play with them, then asked me to kiss her, so I did. When his cock flipped out of the boxers while she was grinding and flipped up to hit her in the ass, she reached back and grabbed it, then asked me if we could all go to the bedroom....from there it was history. She lost interest in LOOKING for threesomes after a bad experience with another girl where the girl became obsessed with her, but in the right circumstances now, she'll still let someone add in to the fun.