Friendship

Lancecastor

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My best friend (35yrs+) called me tonite to ask a favour.

His separated spouse has a wedding to go to Saturday.

He has another wedding to go to and cannot attend Her gig.

His sep-spouse's squeeze...who she left my best friend for... just dumped her.

So she needs a date for the wedding & reception, a family affair of her natural father's family, who she really doesn't know.

He offered Me, then asked me.

I said "Yes, of course" for Him, though my personal view is that she Wronged Him, large.

So I will be the perfect companion. I will wax the bimmer, dress well and behave like She is a close personal friend, though I would prefer to roast her over a spit for what she did.

Q1: Do you have a Friend you would do the same for? Are your best friendships unconditional?

Q2: I suspect she'll Test Me. Confession: The Selfish, Libidinous Lance wouldn't mind roasting her over his spit. "Paging Dr. Freud."

Discuss.

Cheers & Thanks;

Lance
 
When they make the movie Im seeing John Cusack in the role of Lance
 
Lancecastor said:
My best friend (35yrs+) called me tonite to ask a favour.

His separated spouse has a wedding to go to Saturday.

He has another wedding to go to and cannot attend Her gig.

His sep-spouse's squeeze...who she left my best friend for... just dumped her.

So she needs a date for the wedding & reception, a family affair of her natural father's family, who she really doesn't know.

He offered Me, then asked me.

I said "Yes, of course" for Him, though my personal view is that she Wronged Him, large.

So I will be the perfect companion. I will wax the bimmer, dress well and behave like She is a close personal friend, though I would prefer to roast her over a spit for what she did.

Q1: Do you have a Friend you would do the same for? Are your best friendships unconditional?

Q2: I suspect she'll Test Me. Confession: The Selfish, Libidinous Lance wouldn't mind roasting her over his spit. "Paging Dr. Freud."

Discuss.

Cheers & Thanks;

Lance
 
Q1: Do you have a Friend you would do the same for? Are your best friendships unconditional?


I have very few friends, but the ones I have I love unconditionally.
I am sure there are things I will not do for them, but I cannot think of what they are this minute.


Q2: I suspect she'll Test Me. Confession: The Selfish, Libidinous Lance wouldn't mind roasting her over his spit. "Paging Dr. Freud."


You will do what you think is best at the time.

Eb
 
MzChrista said:
When they make the movie Im seeing John Cusack in the role of Lance

I could get behind that....no, not THAT way!....


More to the point.....who plays Her?

I want final edit. And the merch.

Lance
 
Lance, your posts always challenge me to push myself beyond my opinions and explain why I think the way I do (do you feel guilty *smiles*).

Explaining why I hold particular opinions is normal for me, but your questions often seem *easy* to answer on the surface but have much more depth to them, if one is willing to look beneath that surface.

As usual, your questions can be approached from two different (opposite) perspectives, and I can see them both clearly. The dilemma, for me, is to choose the one that more closely relays the message that I think is important.

But, on the other hand....naaa I think I will go to bed. (teasing....I look forward to putting in the brain power.....tomorrow).
 
MsWorthy said:
Lance, your posts always challenge me to push myself beyond my opinions and explain why I think the way I do (do you feel guilty *smiles*).

Explaining why I hold particular opinions is normal for me, but your questions often seem *easy* to answer on the surface but have much more depth to them, if one is willing to look beneath that surface.

As usual, your questions can be approached from two different (opposite) perspectives, and I can see them both clearly. The dilemma, for me, is to choose the one that more closely relays the message that I think is important.

But, on the other hand....naaa I think I will go to bed. (teasing....I look forward to putting in the brain power.....tomorrow).

How I will handle This real situation is an interesting proposition....and, as a hypothetical, it's the classic conflict between Friendship & KinkyForbiddenWantonPleasure, so it makes for a good discussion, I think.

G'nite;
Lance
 
re:friendship

I keep my friends very very close to me,almost as close as my lover so they indeed are very dear..
IN my life,my children are 1st,My Master is 2nd and my friends are next.. I would do almost anything to help out a friend,esp ones I consider very dear to me..
FRIENDSHIPis a treasured thing to me,not one to be taken lightly at all..if a friend needed a place to stay,$$$ if I had it,or the shirt off my back,no problem because I STRONGLY BELIEVE IN THE WORDS"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"..:rose:
 
I will bet,...

...my two cents he doesn't do ANYTHING sexual on this date.( He will make pointed inquiries later towards his friend), and depending on THOSE conversations he may or may not roast the woman on his *spit*.

(JMHO),...but it's MINE,...and I own it! :D
 
There is almost nothing I would not do for a friend, (sheeesh, these double negatives just keep cropping up in my text.) Let me rephrase: I would do almost anything for a friend. My friends are ethical and would never ask me to do anything that went against my ethics, such as lie for them. I would definately say that the love I have for my best friends is unconditional.
I am not surprised in the least that you agreed to do this "chore" for your best friend. (You are not smothering the kinder side of Lance very well *smiling*). I would not have expected any thing less of you.
Your friend and his wife are not divorced. In regards to your sexual interests, your ethics and your friendship, this raises some interesting twists for you to work through. Provided of course, that you wanted and could talk her into the back seat of your beemer or the hayloft or God knows where.
What you failed to provide was how your friend feels about his spouse. It would be helpful to know if he still loves her. Sounds to me as though he has some degree of affection for her or he would not be concerned that she would be unescorted to this gala. That being said, and KNOWING that you are a man of strong ethics and deep feelings for your friends, I would lay odds (and I know how since I live in Las Vegas) that you will not get her over your spit and that you will not make a serious attempt to do so. However, just to cover my bases, I also KNOW you are a man with a healty libido, so you may make a half-hearted attempt.
I am taking bets....... anyone interested? :heart:
 
side bets on Lance's libido

A Desert Rose said:
There is almost nothing I would not do for a friend, (sheeesh, these double negatives just keep cropping up in my text.) Let me rephrase: I would do almost anything for a friend. My friends are ethical and would never ask me to do anything that went against my ethics, such as lie for them. I would definately say that the love I have for my best friends is unconditional.
I am not surprised in the least that you agreed to do this "chore" for your best friend. (You are not smothering the kinder side of Lance very well *smiling*). I would not have expected any thing less of you.
Your friend and his wife are not divorced. In regards to your sexual interests, your ethics and your friendship, this raises some interesting twists for you to work through. Provided of course, that you wanted and could talk her into the back seat of your beemer or the hayloft or God knows where.
What you failed to provide was how your friend feels about his spouse. It would be helpful to know if he still loves her. Sounds to me as though he has some degree of affection for her or he would not be concerned that she would be unescorted to this gala. That being said, and KNOWING that you are a man of strong ethics and deep feelings for your friends, I would lay odds (and I know how since I live in Las Vegas) that you will not get her over your spit and that you will not make a serious attempt to do so. However, just to cover my bases, I also KNOW you are a man with a healty libido, so you may make a half-hearted attempt.
I am taking bets....... anyone interested? :heart:

think of if it were YOUR WIFE INSTEAD Lance ..hmmm? i bet being a typical male that the libido wins out lol
 
The one thing you said that I'd have to disagree with, ADR, is your comment that Lance might "halfheartedly" try to mack on his friend's wife. I could be wrong, but I doubt it, when I say that Lance will either go all-out or do nothing. Don't think he does anything halfway.

I'm intrigued to know how it went, however...which was it, all or nothing? *lays her bets on the "nothing" table*
 
Quint

Quint said:
The one thing you said that I'd have to disagree with, ADR, is your comment that Lance might "halfheartedly" try to mack on his friend's wife. I could be wrong, but I doubt it, when I say that Lance will either go all-out or do nothing. Don't think he does anything halfway.

I'm intrigued to know how it went, however...which was it, all or nothing? *lays her bets on the "nothing" table*

I agree with your assessment. The man has extraordinary control. I made my 2 cent bet earlier.
:rose: :D
 
Q1: Do you have a Friend you would do the same for? Are your best friendships unconditional?

I have 2 - while 1 is miles away, the other is my ex-g/f & roommate. And we've agreed, our friendship IS unconditional, much as the love we tried to share.

Pretty much, I would do anything either of them asked - simply because I know they would never ask anything of me that would hurt me, put me in a bad situation, and the like. Because I wouldn't do that to them.

If I didn't feel that way - and they did not - they would not be Best Friends. :j

Q2: I suspect she'll Test Me. Confession: The Selfish, Libidinous Lance wouldn't mind roasting her over his spit. "Paging Dr. Freud."

Too many unknowns to really offer an opinion, sorry. But in the most general of situations, I'd shy away, just on the basis my own personal lack of interest in short-term activities... but that's just me.
 
I should add

The reason I think I would win my 2 cent bet is because,...I *THINK* the woman was deceiptful in her relationship with her hubby, (Lance's friend).


I know I am gonna catch some heat on this post, because I have APPEARED to jump to am automatic conclusion, "It's the womans fault,...It's the womans fault!"

That is SIMPLY not the case though. I have REASON to *THINK* it WAS her fault.
QUOTE:
"His sep-spouse's squeeze...who she left my best friend for... just dumped her."

I *THINK* the woman tried to get her hubby to take her to the wedding, hubby declined, and due to her pleading, he offerred to ask Lance.

Lance,...being attracted to the woman in the first place,...cleaned the slate with his best friend, but,...the woman is wanting to get back in good graces with her hubby.

Lance will KNOW this also, and will be GUARDED in his initial approach, (=nothing). Gawd how I love DRAMA.

(Think there is a chance for me in television soap operas?) :D
 
Just a response.....

Quint: "The one thing you said that I'd have to disagree with, ADR, is your comment that Lance might "halfheartedly" try to mack on his friend's wife. I could be wrong, but I doubt it, when I say that Lance will either go all-out or do nothing. Don't think he does anything halfway."
---------I have to agree with you. I was wrong, but trying to cover all my bases. :heart:

The Wanderer: "Pretty much, I would do anything either of them asked - simply because I know they would never ask anything of me that would hurt me, put me in a bad situation, and the like. Because I wouldn't do that to them."
---------And I agree with this. A real friend would never ask one to committ an committ an act that goes against one's ethics, as I said before.:heart:

Art: "Gawd how I love DRAMA."
---------Yes, I am with you, Art.:heart:
 
Lance - I would do almost anything for my friends. My true friends know I would go to the ends of the earth to help them, no matter what they asked of me. The reason I say my true friends, is that a true friend wouldn't ask for something that would hurt me, our relationship, another person, or be something they know would cause me great guilt.

I understand the wanting to roast this woman, she's hurt your friend. I'd feel the same, but wouldn't be able to be trusted to not at least tell her off for hurting my friend. If you can pull that off then Lance you have my undying respect for being a much stronger person than I.

:)
dixi

ps.....we do want details ya know. ;)
 
dixicritter said:
Lance - I would do almost anything for my friends. My true friends know I would go to the ends of the earth to help them, no matter what they asked of me. The reason I say my true friends, is that a true friend wouldn't ask for something that would hurt me, our relationship, another person, or be something they know would cause me great guilt.


(I am going to keep trying to figure out this quote thing as I post my way to 100 and get my very OWN llitte picture. I still welcome any assistance, however.:heart: )

Dixie's statement again speaks to ETHICS. Seems we are all restating the very same thing here. Might be a topic for another thread-- "What does ETHICS mean to me?" :heart:
 
Holy shit and shove me in it.....

I think I am on to something here, regarding the quote thing! :heart:
 
I am only going to attempt to answer question 1.

I do not have many really good friends - I am very slow to trust, and even slower calling somebody a 'friend'.

That said, I would do anything asked of me by a friend, and indeed have in the past. I would hope they would do me the same honour.

I would say that my best friendships were unconditional, as not one of my friends would even dream of asking me to do something that I was incapable of doing.
 
Course I got friends I'd do and have done stuff for that required me to do things I didn't find fun or comfortable.

I wouldn't fuck her though. Nothing like getting your dipstick cleaned for dragging you into the middle of an end of marriage drama. It's not like there aren't 3 billion other estrogen bearing individuals on the planet so you don't have a choice in what to dip your wick into. Being a friend is great, but stay out of the ex-marriage.

Go to the wedding, schmooze, pick up a bride's maid (it's only the dress that hideous), and let everyone know that she's your "mercy" date.

What? No one said you had to be nice.
 
Re: Holy shit and shove me in it.....

A Desert Rose said:
I think I am on to something here, regarding the quote thing! :heart:

ADR,...I just bet 2 cents ya got it. NOW,...ya gatta figure out how to put that damned Avatar up.
Muahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ! :rose:

(sorry I can't help ya there) :rolleyes:

Oh,...and by the way,...Congrats on reaching 100 posts. Yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!
 
Unconditionally

Lance is my friend so whatever he does I will still be his friend.

He is one of the good guys.

Ebony
 
Re: Unconditionally

Ebonyfire said:
Lance is my friend so whatever he does I will still be his friend.

He is one of the good guys.

Ebony

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Good for you Ebony and lucky for Lance. It's nice to see kind words posted here. Lance certainly is able to provide a topic for thought provoking discourse. :heart:
 
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