Friends.

[Black_Bird]

I've been thinking about my friends a lot lately and what makes someone your friend. Is it the ability for you to enjoy their company? Perhaps it's knowing that they will be there for you unconditionally and being there for them? Perhaps a friend is no more then someone whom you have gotten so used to that you can't imagine your life without them.

What is a friend to you?
How do you think people become friends?
Why do you think people become friends?
What is the difference between friends on line and IRL?

 

[lisalove]

I have a few friends that I've known since we were 13.

Most of my friends are 10 or so years older than me and I'm not really sure why...I guess I'm so mature & sophisticated (ha).

I tend to be drawn to people who are funny, like to talk alot and are semi-intellectual.

 

[Moridin187]

Another good thread BB

What is a friend to you? Someone I can trust completely, someone I can talk to about anything, someone who will always be there when i need them and who I will do the same for. Someone I can talk to for hours and chill with without saying a word, being completely comfortable.
How do you think people become friends? They see something in eachother that interests them, or reminds them of themselves(same thing really) and so they talk to that person, talk more and more, and a basis of trust, common interest, and affability is built, eventually maturing into a friendship
Why do you think people become friends? see the beginning of my last answer
What is the difference between friends on line and IRL? Only difference is you can't really hug the online ones.

 

[Orlanth]

What is a friend to you?
Someone who I trust with everything, accepts me for who and how I am, someone who doesn't judge me on looks, someone I enjoy to be around, someone enjoys to be around me, someone I can set and talk to for hours and hours with out getting board (for me as well as him/her)
How do you think people become friends?
Just being around each other and being honest and both enjoy each other’s company.
Why do you think people become friends?
Good question. I think it has something to do with the desire of wanting to be with some one and to be accepted. Companionship.
What is the difference between friends on line and IRL?
For me, there is not much if any difference. Some of my good friends are online. I got a friend in Canada and I'm in Australia, we have been great friends for years. I first met someone here at Lit and became friends, months latter we are friends’ offline (we live close to each other). Though, it is harder to form a true friendship online then it is in real life.

That's for me anyways.

 

[Black_Bird]

To me, a friend is someone who does not judge me whom I can trust. The moment they think they must judge who I am and my life, they damage our friendship. The moment that they become untrust worthy - the lose my friendship.

I think friendship is something that builds over time... it must be tested time and again by small minute problems. It is built by the gradual reliance on between the myself and the other to help eachother through our problems.

Friendship begins first and formost with familiarity... If you see something in a person you see in yourself, you are more likely to become friends with that person. If you are around that person enough, you will build somekind of a friendship with them.

I actually think it's easier to become friends on line then it is irl... it's harder for two people to physically be there for eachother as much as on line.

But it's also easier to lose friends on line.

 

[Tyrael]

Hmm, friends eh? Well, to me a friend is someone you don't have to suppress your feelings around. Sure, friends can be trusted with more things than others but not everything.

I think people become friends through common interests. Getting together to go shoot pool, go fishing, whatever. And you just become more and more comfortable around them. I don't think there is a point where they stop being aquaintances and start being friends....it builds slowly.

I think people become friends because we humans are social animals. It depresses the hell out of us to be alone all the time. I'd go absolutely crazy if I knew that I would never have contact with another human in my life.

The difference with friends online and in real life is when that someone on AIm or ICQ or whatever starts bugging you you can just close the program and later get back on and say you had a power outage or something. You really don't have to stick around through any of the thick times that you and your real life friends have. Not that I do that...I've seen other people do it. If online or real life people get on my nerves I usually tell em.

 

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[Black_Bird]

Hello Beaky

Long time, no see.

Yeah - I haven't been on the boards much this past week... I might end up just visiting during the weekends.

That's what I like about *my* friends... they're still friends after a while has passed. A friend is someone you can pick up with as if you just left off, even if it's been a while.