Friend who just got divorced

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So I have this friend who just got divorced and went back into the dating scene after many many years of being married. So one day him and I were talking and he had a question on his mind. His question went like this. Why is it that every girl that I date both my age and younger no longer choose to have any hair down there. Including just keeping a landing strip.

He has confessed to me that he's been really making up for lost time for a bad marriage that was pretty much sex less. So now he's found the Internet and a whole bunch of dating sites and is going out with women half his age. But since he's been out of the dating pool for such a long time he just really can't get over how women choose to completely shave that hair down there. He has encountered not women that shave but women that shave or wax everything!

So basically he asked me why and when did this happen? And why has it become such fad to not keep absolutely any hair down there. He states emphatically that he misses bush so much. He also says that the same women expect the guys not to have any facial hair or any other body hair. He wants to know what the hell this all started. Especially that when watching TV he sees all these men with long beards. He himself keeps a modest beard and a mustache and has found women that don't like when he goes down on them because it's very rough. Women he thinks no longer want to be kissed by men.

So I figured I'd post is for all to read and I could get back some opinions and some more information to give back to him.

Personally I agreed with him. I personally like some hair and if I had someone who chose to keep all the hair to be honest I wouldn't really mind. Although it would be very interesting on the beach though I guess since we do go to the beach often it would have to be trimmed so it would not show.
 
I like when girls have no hair there. It just looks so clean and pretty, and you can see the pussy clearly. Some women have so much hair there that you cannot give her oral sex without eating some of it, and it's not the best, nor the most sexy experience. Whereas a shaved girl is a pleasure to go down on.

A shaved crotch is also easier to keep clean, for woman herself. At least thats how it is for me (I'm a man) when I shave the armpits and public hair - washing becomes a breeze.

As for why - my theory is - evolution. Humans tend to become less and less hairy with generations, so maybe unconsciously the lack of hair is now associated with better, more developed genetics.
The other theory is that lack of public hair suggests young age (maybe).
And, again, it just may be that for most men it's more pleasurable and easy to handle a shaved girl than a bush.

Now, About beard. A few suggestions:
1) Not everyone are up for kissing a man with a huge beard. It gets in the way.
2) Beard hides the face.
3) Short beard is often hard to the touch. I remember my grandfather had a beard and whenever he hugged me or kissed me it was like touching a coarse paper. I didn't like it, I imagine girls may not like that effect as well.
 
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I never got that memo either. I'm not so sure it is true. It might just be that the ones he has come in contact with were like that. Personally, I kind of like the thought of no hair. It's just one step closer to totally nude with nothing to hide.
 
It started as a fad, something new and intriguing. Some folks love it, some don't. It is a grooming choice, just as shaving legs or underarms is. Some folks do, some don't. Personally, I prefer a woman to be shaved, however, well trimmed is fine too. A wild bush is not appealing to me in the slightest, as mentioned, a mouth full of hair is less than pleasant.
 
So I have this friend who just got divorced and went back into the dating scene after many many years of being married. So one day him and I were talking and he had a question on his mind. His question went like this. Why is it that every girl that I date both my age and younger no longer choose to have any hair down there. Including just keeping a landing strip.

He has confessed to me that he's been really making up for lost time for a bad marriage that was pretty much sex less. So now he's found the Internet and a whole bunch of dating sites and is going out with women half his age. But since he's been out of the dating pool for such a long time he just really can't get over how women choose to completely shave that hair down there. He has encountered not women that shave but women that shave or wax everything!

So basically he asked me why and when did this happen? And why has it become such fad to not keep absolutely any hair down there. He states emphatically that he misses bush so much. He also says that the same women expect the guys not to have any facial hair or any other body hair. He wants to know what the hell this all started. Especially that when watching TV he sees all these men with long beards. He himself keeps a modest beard and a mustache and has found women that don't like when he goes down on them because it's very rough. Women he thinks no longer want to be kissed by men.

So I figured I'd post is for all to read and I could get back some opinions and some more information to give back to him.

Personally I agreed with him. I personally like some hair and if I had someone who chose to keep all the hair to be honest I wouldn't really mind. Although it would be very interesting on the beach though I guess since we do go to the beach often it would have to be trimmed so it would not show.

My friend reckons that kissing a man with a mustache and beard on his lips is like getting your face and lips stabbed with tiny little needles - she says it's different from kissing a man with a beard on the cheek, you don't get the needles effect.

I imagine that to some women, being bare down there has acquired the same 'hygienic' stamp that no leg hair/no armpit hair has among other women. Maybe the conditioning of having generations growing up removing hair (sleeveless fashions, and shorter skirts came in.. in the 1920s?) has made it easier for this generation to adapt to bare pusses. I think that your friend can blame Sex in the City and porn for the trend - and it is easier and more hygienic to be completely bare than it would be to be continually shaping and reshaping a patch or strip. It could be that the wildly bearded men are rebelling against a social pressure to be hairless, and they might be hogging all the bushy ladies.
 
Fashion trends change and develop over time. It only makes sense that personal maintenance would change as well. Personally for me it is preferable to be shaved due to cleanliness and because, as a freelance model, most photographers prefer nothing down there when doing a nude shoot.
 
Back ground

I forgot to mention that he's European. He came here when he was in his teens. Perhaps that has something to do with his tastes. Right now he is dating a girl that has his age and refuses to be anything but completely bare. He has asked her if she would like to let it go but she has no intention to. But he says the sex is so good that he doesn't really care one way or another right now.
 
I forgot to mention that he's European. He came here when he was in his teens. Perhaps that has something to do with his tastes. Right now he is dating a girl that has his age and refuses to be anything but completely bare. He has asked her if she would like to let it go but she has no intention to. But he says the sex is so good that he doesn't really care one way or another right now.

That's how you women folk turn us men folk to the dark side, you seduce us with amazing sex until you are able to bend us to your whim! Evil devil vagina magic!!!


;):D
 
:p
 
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I think that as internet porn developed the fad grew. You notice that a LOT of porn girls are shaved and so i think many girls/women began to think that was the norm. The reality, at least where i am located, is that its not as prevalent as many believe. I think the pendelum is starting to swing away from it a bit now.
 
Porn definitely played it's part in PUBLICISING the shaved approach. But let's face it - they do it because most of the viewers like it that way. The aim of any porn is to film something that will be most attractive and best-looking for the majority of people, so they keep buying porn. If most people liked wild bushes - porn would not bother to shave 95% of models against the whishes of people.
"Hairy" is actually a fetish now. Yes, as with any fetish, some people really love it. And that's fine. But the fact that hairy porn is such a minority shows that most men like shaved pussies. It just wasn't as mandatory until Porn popularized it. And women like to be liked, they do whatever it takes to be the best they can, and if something can be improved by shaving or waxing - why not?
At the same time, I'm sure if you tell your girlfriend that you'd like her to keep hair down there, she'd do so. Although, as I said before, it's easier in many ways without hair, so she may refuse - if she finds it better without hair herself.
 
change

for many years I had a moustache and shaved my armpits and all of my pubic hair. my wife has very less body hair and liked it when I shaved her pussy totally bare.and I liked it too, especially for oral service. Two years ago she asked if she could shave my moustache. not because of scratching, she wanted me in a new appearence. So I let her shave me. on the other hand she said it would be nice if I let my pubic hair grow. so we did both,but I still shave my penis and balls. my wife now likes it to run her fingers through the hair in my armpits and above my penis. and I like it too. and her pussy hair is so less and smooth, that it doesn't bother. In the public spas that we visit often, I see more and more people with pubic hair, who have shaved before. It seems indeed that the fad changes at least here in Germany
 
Honestly I go with the preference of the person I am with. If they prefer smooth than smooth it is. If they prefer hair than hair it is. I don't really care either way. But I don't shave - wax is the way to go. Shaving hurts if you cut yourself and way too much upkeep!

But I agree with the above poster that stated the porn industry really did set the standard, especially with the advent of online availability.
 
People who boink a lot know bush burns cock skin. And pussy feels wonderful with the hair gone.
 
Honestly I go with the preference of the person I am with. If they prefer smooth than smooth it is. If they prefer hair than hair it is. I don't really care either way. But I don't shave - wax is the way to go. Shaving hurts if you cut yourself and way too much upkeep!

But I agree with the above poster that stated the porn industry really did set the standard, especially with the advent of online availability.

Exactly what she said. There is no accounting for taste, and the hair/no-hair discussion is in that realm of aesthetic appeal which is very personal.

I don't think bare is more hygienic -- with all of us showering every day, we are going too far in the other direction. We are washing off all our beneficial microbes too.
 
I personally have never been with a woman who was bald down there. On the other hand, I haven't boinked anyone but the wife for 15 years, so the trend passed me by.

I've spoken with women who say they feel sexier without hair, and others who've said that they "earned" their hair and have no wish to look like a thirteen-year-old. I do think that shaved looks sexier in some respects, but looks aren't everything. I'd like to experience a bald pussy before I die, just to see if I like it better. But I suspect that in the end, it won't make that much of a difference.
 
I do Brazilians so completely hairless for me. It feels cleanser and more sensual in my opinion
 
If the guy wants to pay for the weekly waxing...I'll do it.
$50 a week.
Otherwise, I'd rather use my money for a vacation to Hawaii in February...
Quick math 52 weeks x $50 is a sum of $2,600 a year. For a nude pussy.
And no, I wouldn't accept a DIY job...:eek:

Or, right now there are some excellent flight deals to Paris or Florence.
Less than six hundred dollars return airfare from Canada....nope, still keeping the cash and using it for travel...:cattail:

My current list is India, London, Paris, Rome, Pompeii, Thailand, Japan, Russia.

Or I could sit on a nude pussy all day and look at pictures....
 
So I have this friend who just got divorced and went back into the dating scene after many many years of being married. So one day him and I were talking and he had a question on his mind. His question went like this. Why is it that every girl that I date both my age and younger no longer choose to have any hair down there. Including just keeping a landing strip.

He has confessed to me that he's been really making up for lost time for a bad marriage that was pretty much sex less. So now he's found the Internet and a whole bunch of dating sites and is going out with women half his age. But since he's been out of the dating pool for such a long time he just really can't get over how women choose to completely shave that hair down there. He has encountered not women that shave but women that shave or wax everything!

So basically he asked me why and when did this happen? And why has it become such fad to not keep absolutely any hair down there. He states emphatically that he misses bush so much. He also says that the same women expect the guys not to have any facial hair or any other body hair. He wants to know what the hell this all started. Especially that when watching TV he sees all these men with long beards. He himself keeps a modest beard and a mustache and has found women that don't like when he goes down on them because it's very rough. Women he thinks no longer want to be kissed by men.

So I figured I'd post is for all to read and I could get back some opinions and some more information to give back to him.

Personally I agreed with him. I personally like some hair and if I had someone who chose to keep all the hair to be honest I wouldn't really mind. Although it would be very interesting on the beach though I guess since we do go to the beach often it would have to be trimmed so it would not show.

Grow a bush out for the old guy and help him relive some memory
 
It is fashion. Once it has been fashion for long enough, it will be too main stream, and the trend setters will start growing bushes again.


Full beards on young men have been very rare since the seventies around here, but lately they have started appearing again. Big fat fisherman's beards!
:eek:





I read Sir Sydney Smith's book "Mostly Murder" about the birth of forensic science some time ago.
One of the things I noticed was, that when he talked about murder victims in Egypt: If the body of a woman had pubic hair, she was probably a prostitute.
It was the norm to shave, and therefore the prostitutes kept the bush for the extra kink.
:rolleyes:


The bush shall return!

(But some well placed trimming sure makes oral a lot more pleasant IMHO)
 
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In other words:
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Or rather: Keep calm, and the bushes will grow.
 
To shave or not to shave

For me it is a personal issue. If a woman, or guy, wants to shave or trim their pubic area it is their choice and no one should put pressure on them to do so. I suspect, like many things these days there is a degree of peer (trends) pressure particularly around fashion statements. Personally I really have no preference. I enjoy social nudity and I would estimate that 50% of women go fully shaven and the other 50% are either natural or have trimmed in someway. Probably the same for males.

As for sex it really makes no difference.
 
If a woman, or guy, wants to shave or trim their pubic area it is their choice and no one should put pressure on them to do so.
But you can ask them to. Personally (being a guy) I can shave up to whatever my girlfriend wants. It's just so irrelevant for me - how my own public hair looks, that the decision is for my girlfriend to make - whatever she likes I will do.

But at the same time I have a preference for a fully shaved (or waxed) pussy. If she doesnt want it - I will understand, although I doubt I can live with a wild bush on her. Luckily, I never met much resistance there.
 
Personally

I like so.e her on me on her and on him. Facial is a turn on. For her even under armpits its sexy. It holds sent and I must be a castaway from a long gone by generation because I like hair. I dont care how much there is. It's all sexy.

Women and men I meet always seem to have some and its easy to talk them into letting it grow just a little more.

Leg hair, ugg turn off.
 
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