Forum exhaustion

[VelvetDarkness]

Surely the older hands here have gone through this. You feel that you've debated BDSM from every possible angle and when poor newbies stick their heads over the parapet you just think 'this again? how many damn times have I answered this question or spoken about this subject?'

Well I'm there. I've hit the wall. So to avoid becoming a bitter, jaded, forum bitch I'm going to take a big step back and maybe just lurk for a bit. There'll be no need for search parties, I'll still be around... kinda. I'm not enjoying myself here so much and so I think I definitely need a break.

Still love you guys though.

 

[WriterDom]

The board was hopping right before the Atlanta get to together. One day would fill the Cafe. Now there are six days worth on the front page. About the only thing that holds my interest are the football threads and the fitness thread. I already miss Keroin. She was a breath of fresh air.

I hope you come back!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Yeah, I'm mostly just playing the football threads and a few others in the Café, finding little in the Talk forum to interest me enough to post. It's okay; I pop in a couple times a day, scan through the Café threads, post a couple here and a couple there, and go back to life. Don't be a stranger - pop in now and then and snark someone

And yes, Keroin is missed already, and you will be too. That's why you should pop in every so often just to smart off and give us a chuckle.

 

[graceanne]

When I get like that I start just doing fluff threads.

I get like that a lot these days. lol

 

[callinectes]

I would't say I suffer from forum fatigue, but I do find myself feeling disassociated from it. Gererally, I either don't have anything new or thought-provoking to add or I just don't feel strongly enough about a topic to bother responding. I also get really tired of the skirmishes that flare up anytime a topic is discussed in depth.


There are several posters who always make me think so I tend to follow their posts but I mostly lurk. Does that make me a creepy staker? LOL

 

[BiBunny]

I feel that way, too. I've felt like I don't fit in here anymore. But, masochist that I am, I still keep trying to have serious discussions. Not that I care about being the bitter forum bitch, though.

Take care of yourself, Velvet. And speak up again soon!

 

[DVS]

I've been this way for about nine months, now. Still post, but just don't seem to have the desire that I usually have. And my threads don't seem to interest anyone, so I wonder if I'm just hanging on for my own enjoyment.

Taking a break is OK for some, but I'll still come around and check out the threads. Maybe something will spark my interest and a new me will evolve from the ashes. Yes, I said ashes, not asses.

 

[Harmony_1985]

I think we all get like it sometimes when we're around the same opinions all teh time.

Take care honey, don't be a stranger

 

[YourCaptor]

When I get that I go looking for another place, and can never find one. It's a good thing we have. Just wish more new people would get in, I wonder if we keep them out.

 

[graceanne]

Yes, I said ashes, not asses.

LOL

I wonder if we keep them out.

http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h284/graceanne1978/istock_can-of-worms.jpg

 

[missginger2177]

I was thinking the same thing Gracie. Was about to say, but but I'm here. Of course I'm well aware that I'm nobody's favorite any way.

 

[graceanne]

I was thinking the same thing Gracie. Was about to say, but but I'm here. Of course I'm well aware that I'm nobody's favorite any way.

You haven't been here long enough to be anyone's 'favorite'. The fact that you're still here, and posting, means that chances are you're gonna start making friends and stuff. But we see so many new people who come and go, we're a bit slow to warm up to newbies. Just keep hanging around. Unless you've made some huge faux pas that I didn't see, you'll make friends.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm honestly not feeling "it" on any of my forums these days. Not the kink, professional, homeschooling or just friends forums, nope.

BTW, who else other than WD thinks it's all the Atlanta get Litogether's fault? I'd really like to know. It would help me access my own guilt level.

Thanks.

 

[rida]

Drop in from time to time!

I've been this way for about nine months, now. Still post, but just don't seem to have the desire that I usually have. And my threads don't seem to interest anyone, so I wonder if I'm just hanging on for my own enjoyment.

Taking a break is OK for some, but I'll still come around and check out the threads. Maybe something will spark my interest and a new me will evolve from the ashes. Yes, I said ashes, not asses.

A new chapter in your story perhaps?

Just saying .....

 

[intothewoods]

I have a question. When does one become an old hand?

 

[Homburg]

Velvet, I've been hitting the same wall lately. Been thinking about a break of sorts too.

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BTW, who else other than WD thinks it's all the Atlanta get Litogether's fault? I'd really like to know. It would help me access my own guilt level.

I don't even remotely understand this. A Litogether is at fault for less post traffic?

 

[graceanne]

I have a question. When does one become an old hand?

Depends on who you're talking to. I'm still 'new' to some of the regulars around here. LOL

 

[myinnerslut]

thats the way i am now. i still check Master's posts and my pm's, and occasionally pop out of hiding to address a specific topic, but otherwise am not posting.

 

[ultramarineblue]

You haven't been here long enough to be anyone's 'favorite'. The fact that you're still here, and posting, means that chances are you're gonna start making friends and stuff. But we see so many new people who come and go, we're a bit slow to warm up to newbies. Just keep hanging around. Unless you've made some huge faux pas that I didn't see, you'll make friends.

I would have to definitely agree with what she's saying. I still don't feel like I would be missed here if I disappeared. Sometimes I wonder if I've made a faux pas. I don't think so but like Gracie says, it just takes time. After all people don't want to invest a good bit of time getting to know someone, until they are more sure that person won't disappear without a trace.

 

[bruisedangel]

I gotta say, it'll be a shame if you disappear. I'll miss your posts! You've inspired some good discussions between me and mine!

 

[graceanne]

I would have to definitely agree with what she's saying. I still don't feel like I would be missed here if I disappeared. Sometimes I wonder if I've made a faux pas. I don't think so but like Gracie says, it just takes time. After all people don't want to invest a good bit of time getting to know someone, until they are more sure that person won't disappear without a trace.

As far as I know you haven't made an faux pas. And I'd miss you - you're fun. *hugs*

 

[Aquila1]

Well I'm very new here as well. And after only having very expensive satellite internet for the last five years, I am delirious with delight at the fact that I now have access to a cheap, reliable full-time internet connection. It's allowed me to be a participant, and I'm really enjoying having the opportunity, for the first time in years, to read the posts and contribute the odd thing myself.

Many of the arguments I read on here are identical to those I have had over the years with friends - It fascinates me that some of these issues are simultaneously global and intimately personal. I like reading the opinions of other people on here - I don't always agree or understand, but I have been challenged to examine a few issues and articulate my own opinion - and have been quite surprised at what that has turned up in the process.

I would hope that some of you do choose to keep posting - there's some wonderfully concise and erudite writers on here and I have thoroughly enjoyed reading your words. Thank you.

 

[YourCaptor]

Maybe Velvet is right, maybe we do know everything. When we say search the library, it's cause your answer is in the library.

I think what does it though, for me that is, is that lit is the only real BDSM news I get.

Sure with my buddies sometimes something comes up. Like the infamous lines I have spoken which they must quote endlessly. But beyond that, this is my BDSM right here.

We probably just need more exposure to others. That will bring out all kinds of new topics.

Diversify

 

[AbiNormyl]

I would have to definitely agree with what she's saying. I still don't feel like I would be missed here if I disappeared. Sometimes I wonder if I've made a faux pas. I don't think so but like Gracie says, it just takes time. After all people don't want to invest a good bit of time getting to know someone, until they are more sure that person won't disappear without a trace.

It is hard on the newbie also though because if they don't feel they contribute anything or it isn't going to matter and no one wants to make friends with them because they "might" leave what is the use in even trying?

Get to know me, help me make friends and then i might stick around but i am not going to put in 6 months worth of time into a board that is going to snub me simply because I am new (not that this is happening I am just making a point).

 

[HottieMama]

As someone who was gone for a long while, and recently came back I can say that much to my surprise, nothing much has changed regarding discussions. Hell, some of the threads I commented on 18 months ago are still active. LOL. What has changed is that it seems like a lot of the "regulars" that used to post all the time, no longer post anymore. Granted, I don't know if they left on their own, or did something "wrong" and got run out of here but their absence is noticeable. It makes one feel like an "old-head" and a "newbie" at the same time, which is rather strange for lack of a better word.

In general, I just don't have the interest to debate the "little things" in the lifestyle anymore. I just *don't* care that much about another person's relationship. I also don't care to sit down an analyze my own relationship within an inch of its' life. I like what I like, do what I do etc...fundamentally because it is what I wish to do. I don't feel a need to justify that anymore.