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prettygrneyes
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Sorry to hear about your mother passing away Toni ,please know you and your family are in my prayer's..God Bless You and your's...
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Talked with toni yesterday and she is doing as well as can be expected--considering that she just lost a parent. She wanted me to convey to all the Litsters that she appreciates all the warm thoughts and prayers and she will come back as soon as she can to thank each and every one of you.
Now back to our regularly scheduled sex talk
AA
Now back to our regularly scheduled sex talk
AAalwaysawake said:Talked with toni yesterday and she is doing as well as can be expected--considering that she just lost a parent. She wanted me to convey to all the Litsters that she appreciates all the warm thoughts and prayers and she will come back as soon as she can to thank each and every one of you.
Now back to our regularly scheduled sex talk
AA..thank you very much for the update mate...appreciated. I am sure that we are all happy that she is coping through it all. I do know from personal experience, it is a tough time. I lost my Mother at the tender age of 61..it hurts, still does.
Toni? We all love ya kid.
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NP Ukin...haven't heard from her today (and don't expect to for a few days), but her mom's body is being donated to science--so the funeral proceedings will be quite different. Tough times for her and her son--lots of good wishes and prayers from me. AA
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I am sorry about your mom. I've lost mine and it's soul wrenching loss.
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I just wanted to drop in and let everyone know how much I really appreciate all the kindness, thoughts and prayers on behalf of my family. It really helps to know that so very many people care and took the time to let me know. As AA said my mom always wanted to donate her body to science so maybe they can find a cure for some diseases that so often take our loved ones. And if there is any way she could help with that she wanted to do so. My dad was always against it, but when the time came decided that that is what she wanted and if that is what we, the kids, wanted to do he was ok with it, he would not insist on us burying her. The University of Texas Southwest Medical school said that they would be honored to have her. They have a program called the Willed Body Programs, I believe that is the name. They will be teaching new 1st yr medical students about anatomy and they will be doing some experimentations on her. Then she will be creamated and the remains will be in a Niche at the Cemetary near us so we can go visit her. So since she donated her body we had a memorial service for her yesterday. It was very beautiful and Mom would have loved it. My mom influenced alot of people in alot of different ways. She especially loved working and doing things for kids. And if there was anyone who had a need my mom was there to lend a hand whether it was a friend, family member or a complete stranger. Well,I really don't think Mom ever met a stranger and if she did..they weren't
for long. My two brothers and my oldest nephew spoke. My big brother spoke on behalf of the siblings, my younger brother spoke about his rebellious times and how he tried to avoid mom and didn't want to love her, but how she never turned her back on him and never stopped loving him unconditionally. Their relationship had been mended and they became close and he actually enjoyed spending time with her. He is the one who found her and had to let all of us know. He looks big and tough, but he really isn't. My nephew spoke on behalf of the grandchildren and the affect that mom had on them. They all three did a really great job and I did a really great job of not losing it until the last song that they sang after the talks. We had a teen that has a beautiful voice sing "My Heart Will Go On"
she did the most beautiful job! And I lost it! and when I lost it I think just about everyone else did, too!!! Then yesterday afternoon we were able to go view her body. We did not know what she would look like,because they can't embomb her, but when we got there we were very fortunate that she looked better than some after being made up. She just looked like she was sleeping and very much at peace. When we walked out of the building we looked and my brother said how appropriate that we saw her there and we looked and a block away was the Tele. Co that she worked at for 29 yrs!!! She was in the shadow of it.
As alot of you know, I am a single parent and my mom was a friend to me but most of all I do not know what I would have done without her. Daniel and I lived with her until I bought my house, so he was about 4. But right after we moved to my house I went to work for USPS and had to work nights. My mom kept him 5 days a week while I worked. She was like a second mom to him and she helped me, help him with homework. And so many things that I cannot even begin to tell you. Daniel and I are both going to miss her very much. But like so many people have told us she is in heaven looking down watching over us and smiling down on us. And her heart will go on.
I am sorry that this is so long, but I just felt like I had to let you know how I felt and again thank each and everyone one of you very,very much. On behalf of all my family thank you.
We are still having to take care of things so that my Dad will be ok, he has never paid bills, etc....Mom did that. And so now Dad is having to learn to cope on his own, with some help from us, of course. He will continue to keep Daniel at night for me. I think it will be good for both of them. So other than a couple of breakdowns I still have not had a chance to cry, but I know that sometime soon I will. And I am just afraid that once the tears begin to fall that I will not be able to stop crying. Please continue to remember my family in your thoughts and prayers. I love you all. 
for long. My two brothers and my oldest nephew spoke. My big brother spoke on behalf of the siblings, my younger brother spoke about his rebellious times and how he tried to avoid mom and didn't want to love her, but how she never turned her back on him and never stopped loving him unconditionally. Their relationship had been mended and they became close and he actually enjoyed spending time with her. He is the one who found her and had to let all of us know. He looks big and tough, but he really isn't. My nephew spoke on behalf of the grandchildren and the affect that mom had on them. They all three did a really great job and I did a really great job of not losing it until the last song that they sang after the talks. We had a teen that has a beautiful voice sing "My Heart Will Go On"
she did the most beautiful job! And I lost it! and when I lost it I think just about everyone else did, too!!! Then yesterday afternoon we were able to go view her body. We did not know what she would look like,because they can't embomb her, but when we got there we were very fortunate that she looked better than some after being made up. She just looked like she was sleeping and very much at peace. When we walked out of the building we looked and my brother said how appropriate that we saw her there and we looked and a block away was the Tele. Co that she worked at for 29 yrs!!! She was in the shadow of it.
As alot of you know, I am a single parent and my mom was a friend to me but most of all I do not know what I would have done without her. Daniel and I lived with her until I bought my house, so he was about 4. But right after we moved to my house I went to work for USPS and had to work nights. My mom kept him 5 days a week while I worked. She was like a second mom to him and she helped me, help him with homework. And so many things that I cannot even begin to tell you. Daniel and I are both going to miss her very much. But like so many people have told us she is in heaven looking down watching over us and smiling down on us. And her heart will go on.
I am sorry that this is so long, but I just felt like I had to let you know how I felt and again thank each and everyone one of you very,very much. On behalf of all my family thank you.
We are still having to take care of things so that my Dad will be ok, he has never paid bills, etc....Mom did that. And so now Dad is having to learn to cope on his own, with some help from us, of course. He will continue to keep Daniel at night for me. I think it will be good for both of them. So other than a couple of breakdowns I still have not had a chance to cry, but I know that sometime soon I will. And I am just afraid that once the tears begin to fall that I will not be able to stop crying. Please continue to remember my family in your thoughts and prayers. I love you all.
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(((((((((((((((Toni)))))))))))))
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Angel9476 said:I know we've never met toni, but your mom sounds like such a wonderful, loving and giving person...In Life, and In Death. I only wish I had know her, and had someone in my life like her. All my love to you and yours.
Thank you so much. She was a very wonderful, loving,caring person and everyone loved her. Sometimes I thought that she loved us too much and that she smothered me and didn't want her to care so much! lol. However because she was so loving and caring and giving she often got hurt because she opened her heart up to everyone! But now I know that she is in Heaven looking down on us and that she will always be with me. These past few days I have not been able to remember anything. But I tried to put into words how she was to me. She taught me to be strong and independent but then was like a mom with a toddler you want them to walk but you are there to grab them when they start to fall down. I was like the tight rope walker that said see I can do this!! But Mom was the safety net that was always there in case I fell and she never let me fall and get hurt. I will miss her very much.
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alwaysawake said:(((((((((((((((Toni)))))))))))))
(((((((((((((((((((AA)))))))))))) Thank you so much.
(((((((((((((((((All my lit friends)))))))))))))))
Well after reading this thread I realize I have some very special friends here at Lit and if it were not for ya'll, my family, r/l friends and most of all my son, Daniel who has been my pillar of strength, I do not believe I could have made it through these past few days. Again thank you all. Some tears are actually starting to fall, but I know the real gusher is still to come. I am tired and have to get up early to get Daniel to school so I am retiring for the night. Again thank you very much! Take care. I hope to be back soon!
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Anytime toni...get some rest, give yourself time to deal with the pain, and know that we will all be here to support you...anytime; any place! Hugs and kisses--AAtonitits said:(((((((((((((((((((AA)))))))))))) Thank you so much.
(((((((((((((((((All my lit friends)))))))))))))))
Well after reading this thread I realize I have some very special friends here at Lit and if it were not for ya'll, my family, r/l friends and most of all my son, Daniel who has been my pillar of strength, I do not believe I could have made it through these past few days. Again thank you all. Some tears are actually starting to fall, but I know the real gusher is still to come. I am tired and have to get up early to get Daniel to school so I am retiring for the night. Again thank you very much! Take care. I hope to be back soon!
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{{{{{{Toni}}}}}}
My joy comes from the number of people she touched. My wish is that everyone could meet at least one person like your mom at least once in their life.
She lives on.....
My joy comes from the number of people she touched. My wish is that everyone could meet at least one person like your mom at least once in their life.
She lives on.....
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Jewelz said:((((((((((((((Toni))))))))))))))) your post was most beautiful and tears are flowing. thank you for sharing her heart with us. I wish you all the best and may your darkest hour have already passed.
Thank you so much. I do believe that the darkest times are over. Monday the skies were overcast and that afternoon when we stepped outside after being able to view her body, the sun came out. Right now we are still kind of numb, but at the same time we are so happy that she is not in pain anymore and that she is in Heaven waiting for us, looking after us. My mom told me once, I believe it is when I was going through my divorce, she looked at me and she said you may think that you are weak, but you are not, you will get through this because you are a survivor and I have remembered that all these years and when things get tough I remember them and learning in Church many years ago that God will not give us more than we can handle. I am not saying that it will be easy, but we will survive and like I told Daniel last night... There are going to be many times that there are events, moments, etc...that we remember her and what she would think about those times and right now it will hurt, but soon we will have those thoughts and we will not have the pain, just the memories and feel the joy that she would feel. And that we just have to do our very best because that is what she would want us to do and she was very proud of us.
Again I am sorry I have not had a chance to thank each and everyone of you individually. I will, when I get the chance, but for right now I will just thank each of you publicly on this thread and tell you from the bottom of my heart that I am truly in your debt for all your kindness, thoughts and prayers on our behalf. I love you all very much, even the ones of you that I do not know very well.
Toni..Individual thanks are not needed..this will suffice.
I started this Thread purely to let you know that we, your old and new friends send you our condolences, love and kisses. We don't require individual thank you's...your words above are far more important to us.
Love you Toni..and just like AA said, we are here for you...use us.
I started this Thread purely to let you know that we, your old and new friends send you our condolences, love and kisses. We don't require individual thank you's...your words above are far more important to us.
Love you Toni..and just like AA said, we are here for you...use us.
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Thanks Again
Again I just want to take the time to thank each and every one of you for your kindness, thoughts and prayers. I am going back to work tonight and Daniel has been back to school. We are picking up the pieces and getting on with our lives. That is what she would want us to do. My dad is doing well. We pretty much have all the business aspects taken care of now. We have not gone through any of her things at this time. I think we are going to schedule a weekend in about 3-4 weeks to sit down together and do that. None of us are really ready to do that at this time.
I told Dad that if it bothers him to see her clothes, etc...to just put them in her room and shut the door and don't go in there.
As I stated before I will always be indebted to all of you for the thoughts, prayers and kindness shown to us during this time. Ya'll take care now. See ya around.
Ukin said:Toni..Individual thanks are not needed..this will suffice.
I started this Thread purely to let you know that we, your old and new friends send you our condolences, love and kisses. We don't require individual thank you's...your words above are far more important to us.
Love you Toni..and just like AA said, we are here for you...use us.
Again I just want to take the time to thank each and every one of you for your kindness, thoughts and prayers. I am going back to work tonight and Daniel has been back to school. We are picking up the pieces and getting on with our lives. That is what she would want us to do. My dad is doing well. We pretty much have all the business aspects taken care of now. We have not gone through any of her things at this time. I think we are going to schedule a weekend in about 3-4 weeks to sit down together and do that. None of us are really ready to do that at this time.
I told Dad that if it bothers him to see her clothes, etc...to just put them in her room and shut the door and don't go in there.
As I stated before I will always be indebted to all of you for the thoughts, prayers and kindness shown to us during this time. Ya'll take care now. See ya around.
