For Those Who Sometimes Like to Play Off board...

[Spence99]

I'm not in a position to do this again right now, but I met one man from Lit in person. I am glad I did that...it was kinda the perfect situation for me at the time and worked well for a while. It was a bit scary though...lol. But yanno...most people are cool. He was not Jeffrey Dahmer in the end.

That must have been intense. Very, very intense. I'm sure you went through a wide range of emotions as you life led up to that moment. The meeting. I mean once it happens, there's no going back right?

 

[**Emmie**]

That's true. Put people together and stuff is bound to happen regardless of original intent.

It's the reason I was always concerned about married people. Hell, I don't want to hurt anyone, or be hurt. Things happen.

 

[Spence99]

I agree it can be scary. My current SO and I met on a dating phone line. I see opportunities to meet as a blessing. Having kids and working full time I met very few guys. Usually when guys would ask me out it would be too awkward to date them, say if we met, at the gym, work, or a club. It can get weird though.

I'm amazed by the world we live in.

People find each other so many different ways in these times.

 

[Spence99]

It's the reason I was always concerned about married people. Hell, I don't want to hurt anyone, or be hurt. Things happen.

Are you married now? Or with someone? Single?

Don't answer if the question is inappropriate.

 

[**Emmie**]

Are you married now? Or with someone? Single?

Don't answer if the question is inappropriate.

I'm in a relationship currently with a guy I met on a dating phone line. We've been together for two years.

 

[Spence99]

I'm in a relationship currently with a guy I met on a dating phone line. We've been together for two years.

Do you worry about yourself then? Being in a relationship, and posting/chatting in here? In the same way you worry about married people that do that same?

 

[braincum]

Hey, married people know what they're getting into.

Hopefully anonymous titillation; harmless, additive.

It's when they misrepresent that they cross the line.

 

[**Emmie**]

Do you worry about yourself then? Being in a relationship, and posting/chatting in here? In the same way you worry about married people that do that same?

I don't have one on one relationships with anyone here these days. No phone calls or sexual conversation. This is out of respect for my partner. If I did he certainly wouldn't know. This is just a chatting outlet for me these days. What others do is their business. I know what works for me.

 

[Spence99]

I don't have one on one relationships with anyone here these days. No phone calls or sexual conversation. This is out of respect for my partner. If I did he certainly wouldn't know. This is just a chatting outlet for me these days. What others do is their business. I know what works for me.

Sounds good. You know your situation and what you're doing here.

And it works well.

 

[poppy1963]

That must have been intense. Very, very intense. I'm sure you went through a wide range of emotions as you life led up to that moment. The meeting. I mean once it happens, there's no going back right?

Well...being older now...and smarter...both of us. We established what we were looking for...and it was not an intense relationship...nor were we looking for life partners. We liked each other, had fun talking with one another, and just decided to meet and see if there was a physical attraction.

There was...and my experience was expanded...This is what I came to Lit for...to expand my experiences in some way. I may act out stuff in cyber that I would never do in real life...

I think this whole gig is one of the best gifts our time has given us in many ways. Not just for this kind of thing...but we can meet and have all kinds of wonderful connectings with people ALL OVER THE WORLD.

Damn!!!

But you know...the whole Jeffrey Dahmer thing...that was a bit more real in my worries. I left the info of where I was going with some others in real life who were like: YOU ARE CRAZY...don't go.

But I did and I am glad I did.

 

[Spence99]

Well...being older now...and smarter...both of us. We established what we were looking for...and it was not an intense relationship...nor were we looking for life partners. We liked each other, had fun talking with one another, and just decided to meet and see if there was a physical attraction.

There was...and my experience was expanded...This is what I came to Lit for...to expand my experiences in some way. I may act out stuff in cyber that I would never do in real life...

I think this whole gig is one of the best gifts our time has given us in many ways. Not just for this kind of thing...but we can meet and have all kinds of wonderful connectings with people ALL OVER THE WORLD.

Damn!!!

Sounds like a great life experience.

Some people aren't so lucky when it comes to the internet.

Is it something you would like to repeat in the future if you came across the right sort of person?

 

[**Emmie**]

Well...being older now...and smarter...both of us. We established what we were looking for...and it was not an intense relationship...nor were we looking for life partners. We liked each other, had fun talking with one another, and just decided to meet and see if there was a physical attraction.

There was...and my experience was expanded...This is what I came to Lit for...to expand my experiences in some way. I may act out stuff in cyber that I would never do in real life...

I think this whole gig is one of the best gifts our time has given us in many ways. Not just for this kind of thing...but we can meet and have all kinds of wonderful connectings with people ALL OVER THE WORLD.

Damn!!!

Actually poppy, that is so completely true. I know I acted out in threads on the PG and said and did alot I had never imagined myself doing.
I've grown up the couple years I've been here and met people I never would have. Helped out with inhabitions in the sex dept too.

 

[poppy1963]

I added a bit, Spence, to my response to you.

It was good...it could have been bad just as easily. But sometimes things turn out good! Thank you, life.

 

[Spence99]

I added a bit, Spence, to my response to you.

It was good...it could have been bad just as easily. But sometimes things turn out good! Thank you, life.

You added a bit? What do you mean?

 

[poppy1963]

You added a bit? What do you mean?

I added a bit after you already quoted my post...a little more about the worries of meeting a stranger who could be...well...strange.

LOL.

 

[Spence99]

I added a bit after you already quoted my post...a little more about the worries of meeting a stranger who could be...well...strange.

LOL.

Where? What? I'm confused now. Or I'm being dense.

 

[Spence99]

I see it now. LOL

 

[poppy1963]

Sounds like a great life experience.

Some people aren't so lucky when it comes to the internet.

Is it something you would like to repeat in the future if you came across the right sort of person?

Yep...you are right about not being so lucky....it was a one shot deal I think. But who knows...never say never.

I've been tempted to a couple other times...hee hee!!! My mind tells me I made the right decision to NOT meet those in the end now too. But, of course, my mind likes to sooth me...and make me feel "right".

 

[Spence99]

Yep...you are right about not being so lucky....it was a one shot deal I think. But who knows...never say never.

I've been tempted to a couple other times...hee hee!!! My mind tells me I made the right decision to NOT meet those in the end now too. But, of course, my mind likes to sooth me...and make me feel "right".

There are many things I would like to ask you. But I don't want to be too personal in a thread about your private life.

It's great you had something happen that you can remember and look back upon fondly.

 

[poppy1963]

Where? What? I'm confused now. Or I'm being dense.

HEY...You are a refreshing change around this place! You will actually ask a question before making a negative assumption. Sometimes my mind works faster than my fingers can type and what I write is not clear.

Rather than calling me insane or stupid...you say: I didn't understand what you meant. Can you explain more?

I like that! Keeps my life simple. Although most of the time, I think I'm pretty clear...even though I know I'm very UNCLEAR at times.



Nice to meetcha, Spence!

 

[Spence99]

HEY...You are a refreshing change around this place! You will actually ask a question before making a negative assumption. Sometimes my mind works faster than my fingers can type and what I write is not clear.

Rather than calling me insane or stupid...you say: I didn't understand what you meant. Can you explain more?

I like that! Keeps my life simple. Although most of the time, I think I'm pretty clear...even though I know I'm very UNCLEAR at times.



Nice to meetcha, Spence!

I figured it out on my own. Just took time.

 

[poppy1963]

There are many things I would like to ask you. But I don't want to be too personal in a thread about your private life.

It's great you had something happen that you can remember and look back upon fondly.

Please feel free to PM anytime. I'm pretty much an open book with those who ask. Why not share experiences? But I do appreciate your recognition of the boundaries about in "public". As you may have noticed...that's not so smart to do sometimes...but still I think I do it more than most.

I am not ashamed of my life experiences...well not most of them anyway.

I be your bud! Talk to me.

 

[Spence99]

Please feel free to PM anytime. I'm pretty much an open book with those who ask. Why not share experiences? But I do appreciate your recognition of the boundaries about in "public". As you may have noticed...that's not so smart to do sometimes...but still I think I do it more than most.

I am not ashamed of my life experiences...well not most of them anyway.

I be your bud! Talk to me.

Encouragement to PM! Wow, I'm shocked. That's never happened to me before.

First time for everything right? LOL Maybe you should PM me first. Like right now!