For Those Who Sometimes Like to Play Off board...

[Jennifer Kaye]

Can you cyber on the board? Isn't that when people start to yell, "get a chatroom"

I suppose I can.

I've not had that yelled toward me.

 

[poppy1963]

I chose the first 3 as my answers as depending on my instinct, I've done all those...but sometimes there are stronger "nudges" one way or another about someone. I find that interesting as I'm not always sure why that is. I find it hard to throw caution to the wind when that happens...

Bronzeage...I don't quite understand your post.

Originally Posted by bronzeage
No, I never do that. Look at all the profiles that say "NO CYBER". I think it pisses them off.

I would put "NO CYBER" in my profile too, but I've never been asked.

You never do what?

And you are saying/joking that that NO CYBER means they are protesting cyber for all rather than just saying they're not interested?

I don't get that post at all!

 

[poppy1963]

By "off board", do you mean in real life or are you simply meaning away from Lit, say instant messaging or exchanging emails?

Into real life is also what I meant...but I figured the criteria might be more stringent for that step at least most of the time and for most people. Playing "online" is one thing...going out and meeting a person physically...well that's a whole new thing.

But yes, that's part of it here.

Many people seem to like just flirting/tension building in the threads...that's it. Others go to PM or chat and cam. Still others take it to a more personal and real level via phone...but stop at that point...for whatever reason. Then sometimes...meetings in real life occur.

I'm not so much speaking of like a Lit-together thing as meeting of a potential ongoing sexual partner or a step toward finding "Mr./s Right".

 

[hotguy1234]

I like to play off the board whenever I play board games. Then I make the rules for those spots. If someone lands on that square of carpet they have to pay me big money to rent that piece of land in Monopoly.



Playing off the board is fun

 

[poppy1963]

I like to play off the board whenever I play board games. Then I make the rules for those spots. If someone lands on that square of carpet they have to pay me big money to rent that piece of land in Monopoly.
Playing off the board is fun

Your points are quite well made! I'm glad you enjoy your play then!

 

[poppy1963]

I suppose I can.

I've not had that yelled toward me.

Just imagine that! LOL!

Thanks, Jen! Welcome back by the way!

 

[watergirl]

hmmm

Hmm... people here that I talk to...

I give more credence to people who have been around a while, have lots of posts, and I get a sense of who they are, where they stand, and how they stick to or waffle on their opinions & friends...

It can move to pm's, but I feel safer with people who'll talk to me in a thread & who talk to lots of folks here.

If we're hitting it off, I've swapped phone numbers & had some long talks with lit folks.

I've met a few lit folks for a small dinner get together, it was just odd.
I've made a rule not to meet any more whiny husbands who want to flirt with me and complain about how their wives don't get them, b/c I have no sympathy or patience with them.

Then there's the "if you like them, jump on in!" statement. I've done that with people I've met via online things... Usually seems like a great idea at the time, and I'd do it again if the timing & person were right!

 

[braincum]

Board or Bored?

Boards are made of wood; wood is made of cellulose and water.

Great encounters are made on horizontal boards, with lubricant and cellulite.

 

[poppy1963]

Hmm... people here that I talk to...

I give more credence to people who have been around a while, have lots of posts, and I get a sense of who they are, where they stand, and how they stick to or waffle on their opinions & friends...

It can move to pm's, but I feel safer with people who'll talk to me in a thread & who talk to lots of folks here.

If we're hitting it off, I've swapped phone numbers & had some long talks with lit folks.

I've met a few lit folks for a small dinner get together, it was just odd.
I've made a rule not to meet any more whiny husbands who want to flirt with me and complain about how their wives don't get them, b/c I have no sympathy or patience with them.

Then there's the "if you like them, jump on in!" statement. I've done that with people I've met via online things... Usually seems like a great idea at the time, and I'd do it again if the timing & person were right!

You know, the "jump on in thing" has usually occurred during or following a really fast-paced comedy thread/hijacking a nasty thread with someone who joins in and has a similar way of communicating their humor. A couple of these turned out some of the best times I've had and the "friendship" can last even after the sex thing fades.

I like that best!

 

[poppy1963]

Boards are made of wood; wood is made of cellulose and water.

Great encounters are made on horizontal boards, with lubricant and cellulite.

You've thought this through then...

 

[JustSkye]

*waits for lightning to strike*

 

[ksmybuttons]

I don't play behind the scenes. I don't have much time to be here let alone anywhere else. And, the husband and I have decided that "cybersex" is cheating and we don't do it.

 

[poppy1963]

I don't play behind the scenes. I don't have much time to be here let alone anywhere else. And, the husband and I have decided that "cybersex" is cheating and we don't do it.

Who would have imagined such discussions between spouses/SO's would be taking place? The world sure changes fast sometimes!

 

[Sean]

I get it now. It's clicking with me. Especially seeing the nasty comments directed at poppy. Some people in here don't like each other much. That might lead them to do nasty things like that.

Thanks for the explanation.

You'll learn.

 

[bronzeage]

*waits for lightning to strike*

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[JustSkye]

lmao

you're quite the conductor

 

[Spence99]

You'll learn.

More and more every day. Yes I do.

 

[captvaw]

Hmm... people here that I talk to...

I give more credence to people who have been around a while, have lots of posts, and I get a sense of who they are, where they stand, and how they stick to or waffle on their opinions & friends...

It can move to pm's, but I feel safer with people who'll talk to me in a thread & who talk to lots of folks here.

If we're hitting it off, I've swapped phone numbers & had some long talks with lit folks.

I've met a few lit folks for a small dinner get together, it was just odd.
I've made a rule not to meet any more whiny husbands who want to flirt with me and complain about how their wives don't get them, b/c I have no sympathy or patience with them.

Then there's the "if you like them, jump on in!" statement. I've done that with people I've met via online things... Usually seems like a great idea at the time, and I'd do it again if the timing & person were right!

By far the best answer yet.

I like getting to know someone before swapping numbers etc.,

 

[**Emmie**]

I've had a few cyber relationships that even panned out in the real world. I chat with that person in IM awhile and post Lit together with them awhile. On the phone, in pm, IM, when I'm at my comfort level we meet. I don't judge people by their posts since most of the time I fool around on threads and everyone tends to be serious. I've steady dated three Lit men, over the years I've met some great people. Now that I'm in a relationship that fun is over.

 

[Spence99]

I'm might be naive, but do a lot of people come to lit for the purpose of finding an online/cyber kind of relationship?

I know there's the personsals thread or whatever it is. But I come here to read what people are saying, argue sometimes, agree sometimes, post what I think, look at the occasional picture, join fantasy sports leagues. And more.

I've never really thought of trying to start some sort of online thing. I enjoy chatting and PMing and meeting new people, but I've never had any other motivation for being in here.

 

[Cathleen]

I have some great people from Lit., as friends mostly. I try to go with my instincts, sometimes I'm wrong though... that's life. For me attraction comes from getting to know the person. Pursuing anything further starts there.

 

[**Emmie**]

I'm might be naive, but do a lot of people come to lit for the purpose of finding an online/cyber kind of relationship?

I know there's the personsals thread or whatever it is. But I come here to read what people are saying, argue sometimes, agree sometimes, post what I think, look at the occasional picture, join fantasy sports leagues. And more.

I've never really thought of trying to start some sort of online thing. I enjoy chatting and PMing and meeting new people, but I've never had any other motivation for being in here.

Some look for relationships, most I believe just happen. Spending time chatting leads to friendship and roleplay awakens desires. At least for me it was that way.

 

[poppy1963]

I've had a few cyber relationships that even panned out in the real world. I chat with that person in IM awhile and post Lit together with them awhile. On the phone, in pm, IM, when I'm at my comfort level we meet. I don't judge people by their posts since most of the time I fool around on threads and everyone tends to be serious. I've steady dated three Lit men, over the years I've met some great people. Now that I'm in a relationship that fun is over.

I'm not in a position to do this again right now, but I met one man from Lit in person. I am glad I did that...it was kinda the perfect situation for me at the time and worked well for a while. It was a bit scary though...lol. But yanno...most people are cool. He was not Jeffrey Dahmer in the end.

 

[Spence99]

Some look for relationships, most I believe just happen. Spending time chatting leads to friendship and roleplay awakens desires. At least for me it was that way.

That's true. Put people together and stuff is bound to happen regardless of original intent.

 

[**Emmie**]

I'm not in a position to do this again right now, but I met one man from Lit in person. I am glad I did that...it was kinda the perfect situation for me at the time and worked well for a while. It was a bit scary though...lol. But yanno...most people are cool. He was not Jeffrey Dahmer in the end.

I agree it can be scary. My current SO and I met on a dating phone line. I see opportunities to meet as a blessing. Having kids and working full time I met very few guys. Usually when guys would ask me out it would be too awkward to date them, say if we met, at the gym, work, or a club. It can get weird though.