for the subs, Doms from the past?
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Red Menace
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Oh yes. There are a few.
Sir and I were separated for about a month and during that time I met a couple Doms who I found attractive at the time. Basically, I discovered they had no honor, didn't respect my boundries or the relationship I had just left and were more concerned with getting laid than giving me time to get to know them.
Sir and I were separated for about a month and during that time I met a couple Doms who I found attractive at the time. Basically, I discovered they had no honor, didn't respect my boundries or the relationship I had just left and were more concerned with getting laid than giving me time to get to know them.
InnerDarkness
gone....
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Of course....
just as there are people who I have had vanilla or strictly platonic realtionships with that I would not see again, there are dominant males that I would never wish to see/talk to again.
I have posted about this elsewhere, but I just now have my first real Sir...prior to knowing him however, I did have a relationship that was online/phone/etc that was very D/s but not "defined" as such. He was very dominant and forced my submission to him as much as he could over the phone and internet....but his interactions with me bordered on abuse...mentally of course...physically I was safe.
When I parted ways from him, I vowed never to allow him access to me again...I did it for my safety as much as for my peace of mind.
just as there are people who I have had vanilla or strictly platonic realtionships with that I would not see again, there are dominant males that I would never wish to see/talk to again.
I have posted about this elsewhere, but I just now have my first real Sir...prior to knowing him however, I did have a relationship that was online/phone/etc that was very D/s but not "defined" as such. He was very dominant and forced my submission to him as much as he could over the phone and internet....but his interactions with me bordered on abuse...mentally of course...physically I was safe.
When I parted ways from him, I vowed never to allow him access to me again...I did it for my safety as much as for my peace of mind.
Yes, two to be exact. One, the first one, because the relationship was just bad. It left me emotionally drained and spent, and I have no desire to have any contact with him again, ever.
The second one I actually wish well and wish there could be a friendship, but I know he would never see it that way. I simply felt no "chemistry" when we played together, though he did. To see him again would mean that he would want to play and I wouldn't. Not a good thing, so, no I would not wish to see him again.
The second one I actually wish well and wish there could be a friendship, but I know he would never see it that way. I simply felt no "chemistry" when we played together, though he did. To see him again would mean that he would want to play and I wouldn't. Not a good thing, so, no I would not wish to see him again.
serijules
just seri
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my first dom...I would be happy if I never had to see him or be around him in any way again. However, we run in the same circle of friends, and it is very possible that I will run into him again at a future party...it will be hard, because it's hard for me that a lot of people I care about are still friends with him. I wouldn't expect any different, but I could never still be friends with someone that hurt someone I cared about, so its just different priorities and different ways of handling things.
Another play partner...I still see him now and then and we talk often as friends, but I don't have the desire to play with him anymore. As soon as his girlfriend and now wife moved down here, he totally cut me off (and she did know of our relationship and is in the lifestyle too) and I never really did get over that, since there was no real reason for it other than that he had someone living with him to meet his needs so didn't "need" me anymore, and I resent that.
Another play partner I just don't have the connection with that I need or want, so I really don't wish to see him again. We haven't played in a long time although we do talk occasionally, and seeing him would mean playing, which I don't want anymore.
Another play partner...I still see him now and then and we talk often as friends, but I don't have the desire to play with him anymore. As soon as his girlfriend and now wife moved down here, he totally cut me off (and she did know of our relationship and is in the lifestyle too) and I never really did get over that, since there was no real reason for it other than that he had someone living with him to meet his needs so didn't "need" me anymore, and I resent that.
Another play partner I just don't have the connection with that I need or want, so I really don't wish to see him again. We haven't played in a long time although we do talk occasionally, and seeing him would mean playing, which I don't want anymore.
