Fisting!

[LexxNorthwind]

help me!

i want to be fisted. i need to be fisted. i neeeeeeeed it soooooo bad.

so i've been trying it with a boy i've been fucking for about seven months. we're comfortable with each other and when we try for it, we're both pretty relaxed, minus a little excitement. and we go through econo size bottles of lube, so there's no wetness problems. and we take our time and there's no pressure.

so i'm looking for advice, ideas, suggestions, hot tips from anyone who's exeprienced this and thinks they can shed some light so a girl can get a fist in her cunt, dammit!! *laughing*

thanks for your help!

 

[Quimmy]

so i've been trying it with a boy i've been fucking for about seven months. we're comfortable with each other and when we try for it, we're both pretty relaxed, minus a little excitement. and we go through econo size bottles of lube, so there's no wetness problems. and we take our time and there's no pressure.

So what went wrong?

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=27994

That should help. (doesn't really sound like my cup of tea, but have fun, kids!)

 

[LexxNorthwind]

thank you

thank you for the the link!

and what went wrong is he just couldn't get it in. and i think he chickens out when i start squirming. which is pretty unavoidable, i mean hello, there's almost a whole hand in my cunt!

thanks again for the link... it's nice to hear from people who've done it.

 

[BreadMan]

This might be a dumb question, but why would you want to be fisted?
I just do not see any pleasure in stretching your pussy out to more than 10 centimeters. Do you like there is any health problems in this act. Think about the amount of germs on a human hand. That is how most colds and illness are transmitted.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT.

 

[Quimmy]

This might be a dumb question, but why would you want to be fisted?
I just do not see any pleasure in stretching your pussy out to more than 10 centimeters. Do you like there is any health problems in this act. Think about the amount of germs on a human hand. That is how most colds and illness are transmitted.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT.

I'm sure she understands the dangers. They are similar to anal sex. I'm sure there are thousands of people who would think "Why would anyone want to put something in their ass?" and some have answers why they want it, some don't. Fisting isn't that weird, anyways. If you clean your hand, there are no more germs on it, than a cock or finger.

As for advantages, I think some girls really liked the stretched feeling and the knobbiness of the hand can really hit the pleasure spots. I know a few lesbians who like this, and who can argue with lesbians about female pleasure?

And it's not ten centimeters; more like 7-8.

 

[Guest]

 

[hotNnasty]

JK-RIST!

Last time I was opened that wide I was giving birth and that hurt enough. OUCH! Sorry, fisting isn't on my list of to do's.

 

[RedStorm]

My advice, don't do it

 

[Ass_tronaut_T]

fisting

Hi Lexx,
and welcome to Lit! If you don't get the answers you need here you might just ask in the BDSM-forum as well - probably more people with fisting-experience there...
But maybe I can help you a little as well.. I do have some fisting experience -from the giving side though....
It definetly is not for anyone but it can be a very intense experience for both. very intense -both physical and mind-intense..

As the problem doesn't seem to be a 'technical' one (lube, relaxation..) I'd say it's about talking!
You wrote he 'chickens' as you start to squirm... talk to him about that -BUT not while doing it but BEFORE! (you don't want to start a discussion with his fist halfway in you, do you?) so communication is the key. Tell him how much you want it and that you enjoy the intensity of that act - and even the pain involved...
You can even agree on a 'safe-word' before ..or just "stop!" will do as well..
Tell him he shall continue and let you decide when to stop. Once you get beyond the widest point the it will get a little less intense/painful..

good luck, have fun!

T.

PS: Maybe use some me medical gloves they are more slippy than a hand without...

 

[SlickTony]

Lexx, honey, just have two babies weighing over 8 1/2 pounds. I guarandamntee you won't have that problem anymore.

 

[LexxNorthwind]

so many responses

wow....... i cannot believe how many responses there are telling me NOT to do this or how bad or unsafe it is. i suppose i made assumptions about the literotica participants. and here i thought exploration of sexuality in a safe environment with someone i trust would be thought of a good thing. silly silly me.

now... Ass_tronaut_T... you are my hero

thank you for the positive reinforcement, and the revived faith in literotica enthusiasts. and thank you for the very sound advice on communication. after reading the article that was thoughtfully posted here and didn't really learn anything i didn't already know, i realized maybe it was time to have a little heart to heart with the boy. (who is indeed a man, but he's my boy very much on purpose, kind reader.) maybe read the article together to just go over the facts, etc again and then talk about how exciting and intense it is/can be/will be. so thank you for the encouragement. .....and that was sage advice about asking in the bdsm board... i never thought fisting was so kinky or naughty or scary for people... but i suppose i have learned a valuable lesson.

thanks to everyone who replied, no matter in what manner. this was my first time starting a thread, and it was nice to watch the thoughts unfold. thanks again, and happy fisting, ya'll *wink* (and by the way... having a baby to replicate the feeling of fisting seems like a really really bad idea... what about the next twenty plus years with this thing that came out of me? i just wanted to feel really really full for a little while! sheesh! *laughing*)

(p.s. for t... i'd love to hear more about what it's like for you, as the fister, if you'd be up for talking about it. i've not heard much from that perspective, minus some female-bodied people who do it to each other... but i'd be interested in hearing from a male-bodied person..... if you don't mind *grinning*)

 

[Lust Engine]

JK-RIST!

Last time I was opened that wide I was giving birth and that hurt enough. OUCH! Sorry, fisting isn't on my list of to do's.

Here...lemme soothe the pain then HnN.

 

[SexyChele]

Re: so many responses

wow....... i cannot believe how many responses there are telling me NOT to do this or how bad or unsafe it is. i suppose i made assumptions about the literotica participants. and here i thought exploration of sexuality in a safe environment with someone i trust would be thought of a good thing. silly silly me.

Interesting. Not all Literotica participants are sex-crazed, daring, willing to do anything no matter the circumstances, fuck machines. We are all people, different, unique, each bringin their own experiences/opinions to the table. When you post a question to the forums, you will have those who say "go for it", those who say, "maybe think twice", and those who are inbetween. Isn't it better to hear all sides of an issue, rather than just what you want to hear?

No matter if people agreed or disagreed with what you are attemtping to do, they gave their honest feedback to you. Just because some thought it not a very good idea is no reason to put down what they had to say - all are valid. Well, unless they are trolls, but then, we just don't feed them.

 

[LexxNorthwind]

Re: Re: so many responses

Interesting. Not all Literotica participants are sex-crazed, daring, willing to do anything no matter the circumstances, fuck machines. We are all people, different, unique, each bringin their own experiences/opinions to the table.

I fully understand this, and am thankful for sexual diversity in thought and action. I think my point was that i thought (and i, too, am learning as i go) that people who explored their sexuality in an open way, like being here, would have an open mind to other people's explorations, even if they didn't like it, or want to do it themselves. (by the way, i didn't know wanting to explore something new meant i was was a sex-crazed fuck machine who didn't think about circumstances or consequences.)


When you post a question to the forums, you will have those who say "go for it", those who say, "maybe think twice", and those who are inbetween. Isn't it better to hear all sides of an issue, rather than just what you want to hear?

Yes, i absolutely agree it's nice to hear from all sides of an issue. However, "my advice, don't do it" isn't hearing about a side of an issue. that told me nothing. and saying hands are dirty? clearly we would wash them, we actually in fact use gloves because we are not fluid-bonded partners. some of the points just didn't feel very useful, just people saying "ewww gross" in different ways. which felt judgemental. so i was emotively reacting to that in my post. i apologize for not being more thoughtful in my response.


No matter if people agreed or disagreed with what you are attemtping to do, they gave their honest feedback to you. Just because some thought it not a very good idea is no reason to put down what they had to say - all are valid.

I agree they are all valid. They all showed parts of the wide range of thoughts about fisting. Which is why i thanked everyone for their response, no matter what it said.



Thank you, SexyChele for your post. I appreciate the way you made myself check in with the way i responded. I didn't mean to put down anyone. But i was truly suprised in the manner which people responded. I shall try, in the future, to keep sarcasm or tongue-in-cheek replies to myself. I do appreciate that the literotica community exists. I shall try to be a more respectful member.

 

[Alley Cat]

heres a little thing i posted on a private forum board.. where i moderate the sex forum. remember, it was meant to stimulate questions (which, unfortuneatly, I didn't get too many.. )

Fisting- Fact and Fiction
So recently, I have been reading up on fisting... And there are soooooo many things that are said about it that just aren't true.

Granted, I have only read one book and a couple websites about the subject, But ill be more then happy to answer any questions you have about it..

But, lets get these things out of the way!

Fisting does not make you "loose"
Fisting is not something to be done while under the influence of any drugs, including pain killers.
Fisting is a very intense experience that should be shared with someone you trust.
Damage can happen to both parties, if not done correctly.
Fisting doesn't always happen, the first few times.
Lube, Lube, and more Lube is needed.


the Faq on fisting from "A Hand in the Bush: The fine art of vaginal Fisting" by Debrah Addington (Greenery Press, 1997)

Is fisting dangerous?
If its done correctly,no. With the right attitudes and precautions, fisting is perfectly safe. The mystique that surrounds fisting isn't because fisting is dangerous; it's because fisting isn't an everyday thing for most people, and lack of information shrouds it in a cloud of mystery.

Do I have to have a baby before i can be fisted?
Nope. There are physiological differences between bodies that have given bith and those that haven't, but fisting isn't dependent upon those differences. Fisting may be easier for those who have given vaginal birth, but many who haven't can also enjoy it.

How long will it take?
As long as it takes for you to make a short trip to heaven and back. If you are like so many of us these days and must budget out your time even mopre efficently than your income, I suggest you set aside no less than two hours. If you'd like to throw a bath in at the begining, and leave yourself time to snuggle afterwards then, to be realistic, give yourself the gift of three or four hours. It's a gift that keeps on giving.

Can you get stuck?
Nope. Not a chance. Once in a while, you make feel as though you're stuck, due to muscle spasm or vacuum lock, but if you relax, go slowly and have patience, you will once again get your hand back.


Basically, what i have learned here so far..
Its a time consuming process. Also, that the time involved is well worth it for both parties.
Do you have any questions? Ill post more on how to actually do this later.

how do you do it safe.

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Well. there is a lot there.
First of all, you need to make sure that there is a lot of trust between you and the person you are fisting. Also, have latex gloves. Make sure you wont be interupted... Like, unplug the phone, lock all the doors, and if you live with people, make sure they wont be coming home.
Next, you should make sure you have lube..Lots of it! and make sure you heat it in a bowl of warm water. You don't want cold lube going into her, cause that will cause muscles to clench.. A good rule of thumb is to put more lube with each finger that goes in. Also, you can't have enough. Don't worry about making a mess, and have lots of towles handy to clean up.
Slowly.. I mean, can't stress that enough, from what i have learned. Don't be disapointed if it doesn't work the first time.
As far as the physical aspect....
A warm bath first, to relax both of you, is a good thing. The whole experience requires all parties nvolved to be trusting, relaxed and sober.

Secondly, palm facing up, towards the pubic bone seems to work the best.
also, its best to bring the girl to orgasm first, before attempting to fist her. This allows her to loosen up more.


>> Also, have latex gloves.

but make sure neither party is allergic to latex! A latex allergy, among other symptoms, may cause swelling & burning, which equals mucho discomfort.


>> slowly

Yes... very slowly... very gently... very very very slowly. Patience is a virtue! did i mention slowly?

>> lube

Yes yes... lube and more lube. Your best bet is jelly types of lube - not the liquid stuff. There's a type of lube that comes in a small tub (i believe marketed towards gay men OR for fisting) that is excellent. It has about the consistency of crisco, but more gelatenous & viscous. There's also the ol' Vaseline - which you can NOT use with latex gloves. If you're using gloves (recommended), and not sure if you've got a water or mineral based lube... or if you or your partner is allergic to rubber (latex) - then polyeurethane gloves will do the trick. These can be picked up nearly any place that sells the latex variety.


... oh yes - gloves or no gloves, make sure your hands are clean clean clean and WELL manicured. No straggly or sharp or long nails WHATSOEVER!


aaaand - allow me to reiterate that you should not expect to be successful the first time!

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Anyway.. I can dig up some more info, If you would like

 

[hotNnasty]

Here...lemme soothe the pain then HnN.

MMMmmm you gonna kiss it and make it all better?

Trollin' LE

 

[Monazwx]

Originally posted by Alley Cat
Fisting does not make you "loose."

Ok, I understand that childbirth allows a woman to stretch through dilation,
but doesn't a fist inserted (regularly) do some damage?
Does Kiegel exercise help any?

Any takers?

 

[Alley Cat]

the way that fisting could make a woman loose.. is if she had a fist inside her, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for 20 years.. This is not the case.

A woman does bounce back after childbirth, remember that.

If you aren't quite willing to allow someone to do this to you (i wasn't..) I would suggest doing so to yourself.. You know what is too much pain.. (if there is any.. Most women just experience a dull pain for a moment as the bridge of the hand goes through).

I can fist myself, without problems.. and I have been told i am extremely tight.( click on the link below in my signature, and look at my pic pages.. There are a few close ups, which will show you, I don't have a gaping whole. ) ITs all about relaxation... Getting into the mood.

Does Kiegel exercise help any?
of course these are wonderful things, easy to do, and allow you greater control of your muscles.. this can help you to actually relax the muscles..

First and foremost.. If you don't want to do it, or are too scared, don't do it. It is possible to do damage.. (come on.. tearing and the like)But, if you do it safely, as well as smartly, you shouldn't have any problem.

Granted, there are women who just can't be fisted. Its ok, its normal, it happens. You should never expect to get a fist in the first time... A good way to slide into the feeling, Is to have your lover insert fingers inside you as his cock, or a dildo, is inside. This allows you to get some of the feeling... I was amazed when my lover did this.. I didn't even realize what he was doing, until i asked him what was going on.. (ya know, his dick just got huge?).. And, i was pleasantly suprised.. It spured me to do more research, and to eventually try it on my own...

Now, I just have to have him do it.

 

[sweetlittleass]

Fisting is oohhhh so good!

I have to say that I do love a good fisting and my husband loves giving it to me.

We have found that going slowly and using al lot of lube definately helps - although we have never gone through half a tube on one session - maybe I'm just wetter than some? I dunno. That just sounded excessive to me.

But I love that full feeling - there is nothing on this planet that feels better than a good full, stretching feeling.

I too, was worried about being "permanently stretched" but after having 3 kids... (all around the 10 lb range!)... my husband quickly made sure to tell me that things went right back to its original size. And as for the germs and infections, he has been fisting me for almost 3 years, and I have never had a problem - so I wouldn't worry about it too much!

But communication is definatly a BIG, no, HUGE factor in this. We have been together for 13 years, and have been through everything - and we can freely and openly talk about anything. I remember the first time I was so ready for it, but when it came down to the insertion of the entire hand, I had already had so many orgasms, that I just couldn't do it. He backed off and everything was good. One of the next times we tried it, it was such an overwhelming feeling - that I began to cry - it felt so good... And I've heard many women become very emotional, it is quite an experience... so you may want to prep your boy for that as well.

Good luck! Hope your next encounter is a successful one!

Kisses,
Baby

 

[Alley Cat]

as far as lube goes, you can't be excessive! towels are good things!

also, g spot orgasms, and even female ejaculation go hand in hand with it.

 

[Monazwx]

Thanks Alley Cat and SweetLittleAss.
Good info. Now if I could only find a man . . .

 

[Alley Cat]

Thanks Alley Cat and SweetLittleAss.
Good info. Now if I could only find a man . . .

try with yourself..

Don't expect to succeed, but its a good way to at least see if its something you ca do.

 

[Monazwx]

Always did like a challange.

 

[LexxNorthwind]

thank you AlleyCat and SweetLittleAss... this Exactly the kind of stuff i wanted. People who had experienced saying how it felt. I appreciate your input. Thank you.

 

[SlickTony]

A woman does bounce back after childbirth, remember that...I can fist myself, without problems...

Well, so can I, but not all women bounce back equally well. My husband hasn't complained, but back when I still had to use a diapghragm, it was no problem for me to go in after it when it would sometimes become too firmly lodged, and before I had my 2nd kid, I know there wasn't nearly as much space there.