Fisting... it ROCKS!!!

[Slut_loves_pain]

Its long been such a dream of mine, tried it numerous times but never quite got that knuckle in, well the other night I'd taken some beta-blockers (yes I'm supposed to have them) and then headed out for a nice quiet glass of wine with Sir, well the wine and the BB made an interesting combo and I needed to be helped into the car. A very unique occurance, I am not a drinker and when I do drink I usually am a sober serious drunk.
Ended up in bed and found I could get His cock all the way down my throat (another first), then ended up easily getting my legs behind my head (another first by now He was Raaaaaaaaather happy) and I said please Sir fist me, and before ya know it it happened!!!
oh my GOOOOOOOOOOOD the exquisite pain, the agony/extacy, of being stretched to the limit and his hand turning in me over, in and out, it was so amazing and my pussy is having twinges of rememberance as I type.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Thankyou Sir.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, sounds like a night to remember but please be careful about mixing prescribed drugs and drink.

Catalina

 

[Slut_loves_pain]

i know catalina

I had asked my doctor about alcohol she said it shouldnt interact but in my case it did. Not something I'll be doing again but who knew... and it produced an awesome night!!!

 

[MissTaken]

I still enjoy fisting from time to time.


On My terms!

 

[Etoile]

I still enjoy fisting from time to time.

Oh man, I enjoy fisting just about every time I have sex. Hell yeah, baby. I'm a fisting queen.

 

[Cardinal]

How to?

Maybe this should be on the how to thread but, how do you get ready for fisting other than drugs and alcohol?
My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years. I have been able to use a few fingers with pleanty of lube but never have gotten close to the whole hand. She had had two children and one without any tearing so I know it's possible or at least I think so. Also, I don't really want to compare child birth to sex, and I'm sure it's not something that she wants to experience on a regular basis.
Anyway I'm rambling, can anyone do this? how?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: How to?

Maybe this should be on the how to thread but, how do you get ready for fisting other than drugs and alcohol?
My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years. I have been able to use a few fingers with pleanty of lube but never have gotten close to the whole hand. She had had two children and one without any tearing so I know it's possible or at least I think so. Also, I don't really want to compare child birth to sex, and I'm sure it's not something that she wants to experience on a regular basis.
Anyway I'm rambling, can anyone do this? how?

Some of these threads might help...two of the most important factors are relaxing and taking as much time as it needs....easier said than done at times.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69934

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=229584

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=97279

Catalina

 

[ukcum2me]

right in there!!

Yep love doing it, its the thrusting and gasping as I ram my hand inside my g/friend and then twist. love it all the time.
we both do, but would like more fun..

 

[Angelofsex]

Its long been such a dream of mine, tried it numerous times but never quite got that knuckle in, well the other night I'd taken some beta-blockers (yes I'm supposed to have them) and then headed out for a nice quiet glass of wine with Sir, well the wine and the BB made an interesting combo and I needed to be helped into the car. A very unique occurance, I am not a drinker and when I do drink I usually am a sober serious drunk.
Ended up in bed and found I could get His cock all the way down my throat (another first), then ended up easily getting my legs behind my head (another first by now He was Raaaaaaaaather happy) and I said please Sir fist me, and before ya know it it happened!!!
oh my GOOOOOOOOOOOD the exquisite pain, the agony/extacy, of being stretched to the limit and his hand turning in me over, in and out, it was so amazing and my pussy is having twinges of rememberance as I type.
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Thankyou Sir.

I have to say fisting is good......as long as it is done right......because damn it could hurt.

Glad you had so a GREAT NIGHT......Just stopping in and checking this board out......I haven't been here in a long time.....saw a posting of something I like.

Enjoy doing it more.

 

[Etoile]

Re: How to?

Maybe this should be on the how to thread but, how do you get ready for fisting other than drugs and alcohol?
My wife and I have been together for almost 20 years. I have been able to use a few fingers with pleanty of lube but never have gotten close to the whole hand. She had had two children and one without any tearing so I know it's possible or at least I think so. Also, I don't really want to compare child birth to sex, and I'm sure it's not something that she wants to experience on a regular basis.
Anyway I'm rambling, can anyone do this? how?

Yeah, it could go in how to, but I'll give it a shot.

First of all, there is basically very little comparison to the act of fisting and the act of childbirth. The objects are going in opposite directions, for one thing! Also, the hand is only in the vaginal canal, it does not enter the uterus.

Let's see, how to get ready for it...well, drugs and alcohol are probably a bad idea. This is a very delicate process when you're doing it for the first time, and both partners must be aware of what they're feeling and be able to communicate in a sober manner.

How do you actually get ready for it though? She must be absolutely ready for it. Bring her to the brink of orgasm. I've also heard that it's easier for some women to be fisted AFTER their first orgasm. Go slow, too, one finger at a time... the "punch the whole fist in" doesn't usually work. It may take a couple of hours before you can get all the way in, you must be patient. It may not even happen the first time, you may need a few sessions targeted on fisting.

Also. Lube. I know you said you're using it, but use more. Always more. All over your hand, by the way - before fisting me (which she does quite often), my girlfriend lubes up her whole hand, not just her fingers. If the back of your hand stays dry, then you won't be able to get in all the way. If you want, you can lube up the fingers, work those in, and then when you get past the end of the lubed part, apply more using your free hand. (My girlfriend does that sometimes too.)

 

[warrior queen]

isn't there something so incredibly ~intense~ about doing this?
and yet, done wrong, so unbelievably bad!

and there's so many who think it's a case of just 'pushin on in thar!'... when in fact because of the intimacy and patience needed to perform this particular act it creates an atmosphere if such trust and connection between the partners *smile*

i adore it when i'm literally impaled on my partner's hand, and then of course, there's the whole 'thumb knuckle rubbing the g-spot' thing that happens

not something i do every day, mind you... but when i'm feeling particularly orgasmically-relaxed, definately on my agenda!!!

there's an excellent book out there for people who are looking for 'how to' instructions... A Hand In The Bush (can't remember the author off the top of my head! i should tho, i have the book! lol)

and may i second Etoile? - lube, lube, and when you think you have too much, use more!

 

[Mamid]

damn.. I'm getting body memories just thinking about this. I'm going to have to get Penalt in here and have him describe how he used to fist me...

 

[Penalt]

Okay, here is how I've done it in the past. This works, for us, your orgasms may vary.....

Step one: As has been mentioned bring your intended victim, I mean partner close to orgasm. This helps lubricate and loosen important internal parts.

Step two: Using plenty of lube insert your forefinger and middle finger into the vagina. Immediately find the G-spot. You can locate it as a patch of textured flesh on the front wall of the vagina.

Step three: Begin to rhythmically stoke the G-spot with your fingers. As you do so count the strokes. One, Two, Three, Four, etc. It helps if your other hand is busy as well. On her clit, rubbing a nipple or other sensitive location.

Step four: When your count reaches Seven give a very strong stroke to the G-spot or a quick series of strokes. Repeat the counting and stroking. As the count reaches Seven each time your partner will begin to anticipate the strong Seven stroke, this causes a relaxation of the clitoral muscles. Once you feel this start to happen. Insert a third finger on the Seven stoke.

Step five: Keep going with three fingers. Repeat step three and four until you get four fingers in. Keep going. Almost any woman can reach this point. It is VERY important at this time to make sure the back of the soon to be fisting hand is covered in lube as is the heel of the palm and the wrist.

Step six: Timing is the key here. Keep stroking and counting. As you stroke begin maintaining a slight inward pressure. You are waiting to feel the clitoral muscles relax to one final level. this step may last for several minutes.

Do not rush it. Be willing to abort fisting if you do not feel the relaxing of the muscles after several minutes or your partner starts to have discomfort. Make sure your hand is still lubed well. During this time begin to fold your thumb into your palm. This reduces the overall width of your hand and makes entry easier.

You can never have too much lube at this point.

Step Seven: The Biggie. The moment you feel the clitoral muscles loosen begin a firm, steady forward push with you entire forearm into vagina. Make sure your thumb is folded in. As the knuckle section of your hand begins to penetrate curl your fingers. This combined with the inward thrust will aid in penetration and form your hand into the fist as you completely enter her. Be prepared to back off and try again if you don't get sufficent looseness in the muscles.

Step Eight: Congrats! You're in. Pause here for a 10-20 seconds at least to allow the vaginal area to stretch. Then its time to start moving the fist around. Twisting motions. Stroking motions. Try everything. Find what she reacts to best. Expect multiple orgasms. Expect to have your wrist clamped down on.

Step Nine: In time you are going to have to bring things to an end. It is best to pull out at the tail end of an orgasm. Doing so will throw her into another one. Uncontrolable orgasms are the best. Once your hand is out. Stop stimulating her and curl yourself around her and hold her. She is going to have aftershocks for upwards of an hour.

She is also going to be exhausted or nearly so at this point so make sure she doesn't become chilled. Massage of the back and legs is highly recommended. As is something to drink. She most likely spent the past hour or so with her head thrown back and saying all kinds of interesting things and needs the liquid.

During the fisting it is very likely that she will have dropped into subspace. As she returns she is going to need emotional support as well as physical. Be there and you ensure the request for a repeat performance.


Hope this is all useful.

 

[Slut_loves_pain]

mmmmmmmmmm

memoriiiiiiiiiies....... thanks Penalt

 

[Mamid]

hey.. I'm the one who had to deal with getting him out of bed in order to post it.

Other tips:

Don't just spring this on her. Either work her up to it with a good fucking or with cunningliguism (is that a word?) or talk to her about it before hand.

Sex afterwards is just ugh. She'll be all loosey goosey afterwards and may take a few days to recover.

Cold packs are a must for post fisting swelling. Just as trim fingernails and LOTS OF LUBE are musts. Some sort of handiwipes are good to have on hand for clean up too. Babywipes seem to be the best of the bunch because they are designed for sensitive skin.

Don't just "whambamfistyathankyama'am" her. You're going to need to spend some time afterwards to make sure she's okay. There are many nerve bundles and blood vessels that have to be unconstricted and that can take time. Expect to spend the night awake watching over her. Unlike childbirth, her body hasn't had months to prepare for fisting. Even if she has had a child (or three) she might not be able to be fisted.

Before you insert, plan on where your thumb is going to be.

If she tells you to stop, Believe Her! There are no "safewords" in this even if you ordinarily have them. No MEANS NO not "go." She simply won't be in the headspace to play with safewords and she needs to know this before she consents.

She can expect some pain during the initial insertion. This is why you try to go as slow as possible when warming her up. The actual insertion will hurt but once the fist is in, if the pain doesn't go away, bring her to an orgasm as soon as possible to help you remove yourself and end the session. This isn't a failure, some women just can't take it.

Once inserted, stay still. Let her get used to the feel of your fist inside. Don't just start pumping away at her. Let her start to move around you. After a bit, you'll be able to move your fist.

And don't just pump her like you would fuck her. Move your fist around a bit inside. Rotate. Extend your fingers. Flex your wrist. With a bit of trial and error, you'll find out what she likes and what sends her into orbit (or subspace as my other half put it).

Yes, it does feel a lot like giving birth, since it is stimulating the same nerve clusters that get stimulated during birth. She will start to bear down and this is normal. She may ejaculate. This is also normal. She may scream, she may not. Whatever she is doing, she is not the woman you knew before you started. She is a primordial shebeast who simply wants to orgasm because she has no choice but to orgasm. She is a slave to you at this moment and there is nothing she can do to stop it.

If you succeed in withdrawing while she is in an orgasm, you will cause one many many more times intense to happen. If you get stuck, ask her to bear down - this happens naturally during unmedicated childbirth and it will help you get your fist out without hurting her. If you try to force it, you can cause extreme harm to come to her.

Although it may feel like it, she won't break your fist.

Once withdrawn, do not leave her side. She'll will be in a huge afterglow and will have several more orgasms. Have icepacks ready to apply to her taint and puss because they will be sore. Don't leave her side. Cuddle with her. Tell her she did good. But whatever you do, don't leave her side.

Unlike a normal sex session, it is easy to do damage to her sensitive tissues. A little bleeding is normal. A lot isn't. It can bring on her period if she's close to that time of the month. It can also cause a miscarriage so if there is even the slightest possibility she could be pregnant, don't do it. She can also cause sprains and strains easily with just her orgasms.

Letting her fall asleep in your arms is about the best thing to do with her. Breakfast in bed the next day is a great way to say thank you to allowing you to do that to her. I'm serious here guys. Flowers are also good.

She can very exhausted and crampy the next day. In fact, she can run the gamut of emotions for a few days. Chocolate is a good mood stabilizer. Don't expect her to be able to perform sexually for at least a week. Give her time not only to physically heal but to recover emotionally and spiritually from the experience.

Childbirth is so much like fisting and vice verses, but unlike fisting, there isn't this 8lbs of "feed me now!" that requires her attention after its over. Both are types of orgasms, but one is for fetal ejection and the other is simply for endorphin release. One is completely out of anyone's control, the other can be control.

Anything else?

 

[Mamid]

one last thing..

when fisting...

vibes are your friend....

 

[Mamid]

one other last thing (I know i know...)

a shaved puss and taint helps. that way the hairs don't get gnarled and pulled in during thrusts. that HURTS.

(77 more posts to make, 77 more posts! make them all, put in an avatar... 77 more posts...)

 

[Netzach]

Very sound advice.

Then there are exceptions.

The avid, expert fistee who just sat on my forearm casually then demanded I fuck her as though I were using a small dildo.

I was the bottom, sure as hell shocked me.

Fun times.

 

[Mamid]

thank you.

 

[Etoile]

The avid, expert fistee who just sat on my forearm casually then demanded I fuck her as though I were using a small dildo.

Yup, I've done that.

I'm curious, Mamid and Penalt, is fisting a regular part of your sex lives or is it an occasional thing? All of the tips you've described are great for first-timers or those who don't practice fisting often, but as someone who receives fisting on a fairly regular basis (just about every time the wife and I get it on!) they don't necessarily come to my mind or even apply anymore. Some of the tips you've given also may not apply in a BDSM context; I've been fisted while in a scene and some of those things just don't mesh with a D/s fisting (with the dominant being the fister)!

Of course I'm kind of ashamed that I didn't come up with all those tips myself! I used to be the fisting queen around here, I swear! I guess I've just been too busy doing it to think about it? that, and Lit didn't tell me warrior queen had replied!

 

[Mamid]

Occasional. Mainly because my internals can't handle the stress too often. Once a month at our best. Damn man tried it last night and that's before I posted about pussy hair.

Tried. I haven't recovered from Oops' birth enough yet to do it. Not that he didn't try....

 

[Etoile]

Oops?

This is a baby? I guess I know how that happened!

Hee!

 

[Mamid]

Oops is our currently 12 week old daughter. and yes, she is an Oops baby. We were told I'd only be able to conceive with clomid and in fact proceeded to do so and have since nicknamed said child, a 27 month old son, "Birth Control" or BC for short. His skills at injuring his father's willingness, nevermind ability, to perform are immesurable. That, and he seems to know whenever we are planning to have those long probing conversations and interrupts them with that uncanny knack that children have.

To paraphrase what another once said... when you're looking at your beloved in the eye and you feel a little hand touching your foot, we call that a show stopper!

 

[Etoile]

12 weeks old? Well then, I think congratulations are still in order!

 

[Mamid]

thank you.