First time

[guy4u112]

Tomorrow, I will be having sex for the first time. I am 23 years old and for some reason I never gotten to that point. I am very stressed out obviously. It's becoming clear that tomorrow will be the night.

Can someone please tell me that everything will be ok. Pointers anything will help.

Thank you very much!

 

[Blase]

About the only thing to keep in mind your first time is to let the girl guide you - listen to whatever she says so that you won't unknowingly rub her too hard, or whatever. Don't worry about performance your first time out, just enjoy yourself and be considerate so that she can, too.

Once you get to your third or fourth time, start masturbating beforehand so that you can last longer than 30 seconds.

 

[SweetErika]

Read through the relevant threads in post #4 in this thread: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=243894

Going in with knowledge will help you. If you're nervous about coming too quickly, and can get of more than once a day, masturbate before you get together with your partner. Same goes for condoms - practice putting them on beforehand so you're confident in the moment and there's less of a risk of failure. In fact, practice putting the condom on, and then masturbate before you see your partner!

Putting a couple of drops of lube in the very tip of the condom, then pinching above the tip before you flip it over and roll it on will increase sensation. Again, if you're worried about being too sensitive, skip that step, but have lube (NOT KY Jelly or spermicidal lube) on hand for the sex because condoms can cause irritation even when a woman has copious amounts of natural lube.

Focus on pleasing your partner, but don't feel bad if they don't come. Just do your best...ask for, and listen to, their feedback, respond to it, and take your time. Delight in your partner as an individual and the unique experience, rather than try to replicate what you've probably seen in porn. Seduce and tease them, pleasure them until they can't stand it anymore; that's the best part!

If you're prepared, confident and you focus on making your partner feel incredible, you'll be just fine. Remember, too, to approach this with a good sense of humor: even if things go awry, you'll likely have good memories and plenty of opportunities to perfect your future experiences. Your first time isn't supposed to be perfect, and most aren't even good, compared to our experiences later on! But they usually are special, regardless of whether they're pleasurable or not.

 

[guy4u112]

Thank you for replying. I guess I will just foreplay a lot and I will masturbate about 3 hours before getting with her. I will be back with comments after it happens.

 

[subwannabe]

I have two pieces of advice:

1. try to make her cum first. Do a lot of slow sensual foreplay and then eat her out and make her cum by clitorial stimulation with fingers fucking her pussy at the same time. It's best to use your tongue on her clit while your fingers are in her pussy but if that doesn't work to make her cum you can switch off your tongue with the fingers of your other hand. It's important to make her cum first as women rarely have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. You don't want to cum first and then leave her feeling cheated. After she has her orgasm then you can enter her and do your thing.

2. I disagree with the masturbation thing in most cases. I would only recommend that if you truly believe you will cum in no time AND you are able to cum good twice in 3 hours time. Everyone is different. She may feel she did something wrong if you are not able to cum because you had just recently jacked off. That would be worse than if you came too early. If you came too early she might even take it as a compliment that you really found her hotttttt.

 

[SweetErika]

I have two pieces of advice:

1. try to make her cum first. Do a lot of slow sensual foreplay and then eat her out and make her cum by clitorial stimulation with fingers fucking her pussy at the same time. It's best to use your tongue on her clit while your fingers are in her pussy but if that doesn't work to make her cum you can switch off your tongue with the fingers of your other hand. It's important to make her cum first as women rarely have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. You don't want to cum first and then leave her feeling cheated. After she has her orgasm then you can enter her and do your thing.

2. I disagree with the masturbation thing in most cases. I would only recommend that if you truly believe you will cum in no time AND you are able to cum good twice in 3 hours time. Everyone is different. She may feel she did something wrong if you are not able to cum because you had just recently jacked off. That would be worse than if you came too early. If you came too early she might even take it as a compliment that you really found her hotttttt.

Most 23 year olds have no problem coming twice in a 3 hour period. Most virgin males are going to be so excited by the fact that they're actually having sex that they'll come very quickly, especially if there's a lot of foreplay. Therefore, I'd be willing to bet he'll come pretty quickly even if he masturbates a few hours before he sees her if he has a shorter refractory period and doesn't usually have a problem coming.

Guy, if you read this before you get together, remember that if you do come too quickly, you can always go for another round later, so it's not something you should worry about.

I think you nailed it when you said "try to make her cum first." 'Try' is the key word there, as a lot of younger women especially don't come at all with a newer partner. If they focus on her coming, she'll likely feel pressured and be more tense overall, which isn't good for orgasms or sex. So, yeah, try, but don't push it or feel bad if it doesn't happen. Most women enjoy sex and feel satisfied even if they don't come, provided their partners are truly interested in their pleasure.

 

[guy4u112]

Thank you everyone for replying. It's getting closer. It might be a silly thing to say but since I'm nervous I am kind of wondering if I'll like sex. I bet I will the second time.

 

[voluptuousvixen]

you will like it. even if it is the first time, sex is still incredibly fun and enjoyable...especially when it is the right person. relax, if you are nervous it is most likely that your partner is nervous too! good luck and have fun.

 

[renard_ruse]

Thank you everyone for replying. It's getting closer. It might be a silly thing to say but since I'm nervous I am kind of wondering if I'll like sex.

Its actually kind of gross if you think about it, but most people don't dwell on that fact.

 

[Tyr51]

The first time, as a woman.... I had built up with a lot of foreplay with a partner for a long time. I was just ready to be DONE with it. Hurt like hell. It was something to get through, and not any sort of magical experience, honestly.

I have also slept with a man experiencing his first time. He didn't last, and seemed to be hovering between whether he should feel shame or propose marraige.

The point is, either gender? It's not set in stone, but there is always a good chance it will be akward. Expecting amazing sex, on either side, would be setting an impossible bar. You don't ask a first day gymnist to be ready for the olympics.



But there is something else.
Your first time is your first time. It will not be perfect. Someone will not get off, or they'll get off too soon, or.... who knows. It is not going to be perfect. Likely, it will be far from it.

But oh...... you get your first time ONCE. Even me. As I said, it hurt like hell and there were issues. But I remember it. You will never have a first time again in this regard. You may search for first times in other things. But you can only enter a woman for the first time once.
So I would suggest not making this about your performance, or even about having either of you cum. You're going to feel something you never have before. Give yourself room to make your journey. Enjoy the trip. Pay attention to her emotionally and physically. Savor what you have because you have it ONCE. You cannot repeat your "first time." Slow down and make your journey be your goal, my friend. I doubt you will regret it.

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

That's PERFECT advice Tyr. Couldn't have said it better.

 

[WriterDom]

I'm 50 and cumming 5 times in 3 hours isn't unusual. Three days of non-stop sex does wear me out a little.

 

[Abradix]

Yup, just kick back and enjoy your first 30 seconds.

 

[Mr.G]

Did he say "tomorrow" as in yesterday or the day before yesterday.

Wouldn't he have reported in by now?

Should we be organizing search parties yet?

He did say "her" at some point didn't he?

We should have scheduled check in times. Flight plan-like. Ya don't "make it" and we'll cum looking for you - so to speak.

*** pacing ***

*** pacing ***

trying not to imagine the wurst

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

Maybe she had a "lot" of experience and he was unaware of the fact that he needed to tie a board around his ass to keep him from falling in?!?!?!?!

God bless him! He was a trooper! I didn't know him well, but I sort of felt that he was a kindred spirit! I'll miss him!

Hahahahahahaahhahahahaha. Just kidding!
I hope he's having such a good time he's only coming up to breathe for a shower and deodorant!

 

[Mr.G]

GAWD - STILL no wurd. Maybe his plank broke. Maybe in his enthusiasm he entered the wrong tunnel and she was (or NOT) a trooper in one of "those" states. He could be looking at 70 years.

Oh LORD! What have we done??

 

[Hadar]

With me i did not find my first
time that good but im not that
into sex its boring...

 

[EjAcKuLaToR]

Hadar, pardon my assuredness with what I am about to say.

If you're fairly new to having sex and if you find it boring, you are simply not doing it right or maybe you're doing it with the wrong gender or something.

 

[Hadar]

Naw im just diffrent be afraid of
the diffrent