First time threesome

[maybeez]

Hey everyone,

I've been having a long distance thing for 6 months now. We've seen each other 3 times and had some pretty hot experiences. Our phone calls and texts are mostly about sex. He is pushing pretty hard to invite another girl in...which I am not completely opposed to. I am wondering how important it has been to others to feel a strong, sturdy connection with a partner before inviting in a new person? I'm feeling a little torn here...

Thanks for your insight!

PS Also what are your recommendations for finding a compatible 3rd person?

 

[von_Bismarck]

Hey everyone,

I've been having a long distance thing with an old friend from high school for 6 months now. We've seen each other 3 times and had some pretty hot experiences. Our phone calls and texts are mostly about sex. He is pushing pretty hard for the next time we meet to invite another girl in...which I am not completely opposed to but I don't feel like I 100% trust my friend. I am wondering how important it has been to others to feel a strong, sturdy connection with a partner before inviting in a new person? I'm feeling a little torn here...

Thanks for your insight!

PS Also what are your recommendations for finding a compatible 3rd person?

Can't help you personally, but try sending a PM to Que. As a cuckold, he used to have threesomes with his ex-wife and her bull, when he was allowed to.

You're welcome in advance.

 

[Kirkrapine]

PS Also what are your recommendations for finding a compatible 3rd person?

Further definition required. If the threesome is going to involve lezzy stuff, "compatible" means somebody you're attracted to -- if not, somebody you can stand being around will do.

 

[midwest_texan]

It can’t be forced upon you. You have to be part of the process in picking someone you are compatible with and are attracted to. Otherwise you will not enjoy the experience and will be full of regrets.

 

[maybeez]

Yes, it involves lezzy activity...which I am open to with the right person. I am brand new to this site to btw!

 

[Kirkrapine]

I've been having a long distance thing with an old friend from high school for 6 months now. We've seen each other 3 times and had some pretty hot experiences. Our phone calls and texts are mostly about sex. He is pushing pretty hard for the next time we meet to invite another girl in...which I am not completely opposed to but I don't feel like I 100% trust my friend. I am wondering how important it has been to others to feel a strong, sturdy connection with a partner before inviting in a new person? I'm feeling a little torn here...

It seems a strange question, so stated. Like most people, I think of a threesome as something entirely outside of the context of relationships. That is part of its appeal. The ideal threesome would involve three people who just met.

 

[Super-Surprise]

Ask him if he is open to a MMF threesome.

 

[Dribble]

he is already doing her...and it takes too much time to keep you happy too. So if he can kill 2 birds with 1 stone...he wins.

 

[Kirkrapine]

Ask him if he is open to a MMF threesome.

It's not gay if the guys don't make eye contact!

 

[IG_88]

I don't really give a shit about the dude with the fiction in the OP but I like to brag about my conquests so I'll take this opportunity to say that I've been in many 3ways. Most were fun, couple were awkward, one caused a problem for the other two cuz they were married and apparently shouldn't have been having 3ways with 'ol IG cuz once you go 88 you don't go back, baby.
Anyway all in all good experiences for me anyway.
Oh and a nice little fact, chicks who do 3ways of any kind almost always do anal. Been my experience anyway.
I got more but I don't wanna make youz guys jealous.

 

[bestone4ever]

I don't really give a shit about the dude with the fiction in the OP but I like to brag about my conquests so I'll take this opportunity to say that I've been in many 3ways. Most were fun, couple were awkward, one caused a problem for the other two cuz they were married and apparently shouldn't have been having 3ways with 'ol IG cuz once you go 88 you don't go back, baby.
Anyway all in all good experiences for me anyway.
Oh and a nice little fact, chicks who do 3ways of any kind almost always do anal. Been my experience anyway.
I got more but I don't wanna make youz guys jealous.

Your fake 3somes are less interesting than the other liar's fake 3some.

 

[cowslinger64]

Can't help you personally, but try sending a PM to Que. As a cuckold, he used to have threesomes with his ex-wife and her bull, when he was allowed to.

You're welcome in advance.

Wait a minute... you're trying to inflict sex with the beach ball head and want to be thanked?

 

[Kirkrapine]

https://www.explainxkcd.com/wiki/images/7/7d/threesome.png

 

[maybeez]

It can’t be forced upon you. You have to be part of the process in picking someone you are compatible with and are attracted to. Otherwise you will not enjoy the experience and will be full of regrets.

Yes, thank you these are my thoughts as well.

 

[maybeez]

Ask him if he is open to a MMF threesome.

I already asked...he's not interested.

 

[BoyNextDoor]

A threesome is so I can get some strange without cheating.

 

[tedsbeds]

Hey everyone,

I've been having a long distance thing with an old friend from high school for 6 months now. We've seen each other 3 times and had some pretty hot experiences. Our phone calls and texts are mostly about sex. He is pushing pretty hard for the next time we meet to invite another girl in...which I am not completely opposed to but I don't feel like I 100% trust my friend. I am wondering how important it has been to others to feel a strong, sturdy connection with a partner before inviting in a new person? I'm feeling a little torn here...

Thanks for your insight!

PS Also what are your recommendations for finding a compatible 3rd person?

You should look around for a third, someone you are comfortable with. Just go out and smile at other pretty ladies. You'll never know what you Wil find. Please share details if it happens.
Ted

 

[Comshaw]

I don't really give a shit about the dude with the fiction in the OP but I like to brag about my conquests so I'll take this opportunity to say that I've been in many 3ways. Most were fun, couple were awkward, one caused a problem for the other two cuz they were married and apparently shouldn't have been having 3ways with 'ol IG cuz once you go 88 you don't go back, baby.
Anyway all in all good experiences for me anyway.
Oh and a nice little fact, chicks who do 3ways of any kind almost always do anal. Been my experience anyway.
I got more but I don't wanna make youz guys jealous.

You do realize that first liar never stands a chance don't you?




Comshaw

 

[maybeez]

You should look around for a third, someone you are comfortable with. Just go out and smile at other pretty ladies. You'll never know what you Wil find. Please share details if it happens.
Ted

Thanks for the support Ted. I'll keep in touch.

 

[CandiCame]

I've never planned a threesome, they just kind of happen. So... I don't know how you'd find a third person who is like, a stranger?

The best way to do that is to find people that you trust already. If there's not some preestablished trust I can forsee that getting really awkward, really fast, because some folks put a lot of social meaning on sex acts, in general, so... this is some tread lightly territory if it's with a stranger that you just kinda picked out. Plus, you won't know their medical history and there's just a bunch of shit to work out.

I mean, if you want to get offers, literally just go to any sexually charged space, like certain clubs or house parties, and say the phrase, "So I'm bisexual" and people will crawl out of the woodwork like, "Do you want to have a threesome?" Like... that's not unique to me. That's a major problem that bisexual people tend to have, because we're either invisible, or we're fetishized.

Basically what I'm saying is don't just pick someone to have a threesome with. You can do that, and it might be fine, but I've done this kind of a lot, and you'll have a much better experience if it's someone you both know pretty well, and you have strong communication before and after with. You wanna set your expectations before anything happens, and you wanna do proper aftercare to maintain those expectations. Communication is SUPER important, and it's easier to do with someone that you're already comfortable with, ESPECIALLY because you're looking for a third, meaning that you already have a preestablished relationship.

I'm not gonna sit here and pretend like I haven't fucked strangers. We've all done it when we were young and stupid. And it can be fun. It can work for you. But it can also bite you in the ass, and if you ARE gonna do that, be aware of the dangers. People can have STDS. People can be bad at sex, especially the performance anxiety that comes from having two people to please and sometimes a weird perceived competition that I'm just not about. And sometimes, people can get... weird. People can overstep boundaries, get clingy, get STALKERY. Shit can go bad if it's not someone that you trust. So weigh those pros and cons before you make a decision.

The safest bet is someone who's already a friend and already sexually attracted to you, your partner, or both, but not romantically attracted unless you're looking to be in a polyamorous relationship. Set your expectations for any romantic feelings and how you're going to handle them.

I had/have way more to say about this than I thought I would.

Look, threesomes can be great, at the end of the day. Group sex can be amazing, in general. But everything has potential dangers that you need to prep for.

So good luck and have fun!