First time question

[scotland_2004]

Hi, i'm new to this - be gentle!!

I'm a virgin and want to have sex with my current girlfriend. The time is right. Will she be expecting me to make her cum even though it's my first time?

What's everyone's opinion on this?

Thanks.

 

[Vixandra]

Hmm...
Most girls are amazed if they cum the first time. Shoot most of the ones I've talked to hated thier first time and then hated me (just for a bit) for cumming my first time.

Not to be undully harsh but the chances of a first-timer guy making a girl come are pretty low on average. Not saying it can't be done.
Relax have fun and remember- making love with someone you love isn't just about cumming. Its supposed to be a physical expression of joy and love between the two of you. Cumming's just a rich icing on that cake.
If that makes sense.

 

[cebalrai]

Give her oral before you penetrate her. I've had sex with two virgins before and for both of them the first time was relatively uncomfortable. They both came, though I knew it wasn't likely to happen during actual intercourse...

 

[white_mage_goddess]

My ex husband and I lost our virginity together...I didn't have any problems cumming at all....but then we had spent the last year doing oral/manual simulation with each other.

 

[Bobmi357]

No one can promise you can make her come. Heck you can do every move right and still she might not come.

On the other hand, if you have the time, and the right attitude you can give it your very best shot. So with that in mind, remember one word. FOREPLAY.

Foreplay doesn't mean spending 2 minutes nuzzling a nipple before you plunge in. It means taking the time to make love to her, all of her. Her neck, breasts, tummy, thighs.... It means trying things and listening and watching her for clues to what you're doing. Listen to her and watch her reaction, does she yawn and look bored or do her eyes close and she sighes softly? What does she do with her hands? Does she hold you tightly or gently move you off of a spot? She's giving off clues in a hundred different ways and its your job to read them.

If you really want the experience to be a good one for her you will take your time and not rush things. And if you want it to be really super for her, tell her before you start that its okay if she tells you what to do. Let her know its your first time and you'd like her to guide you even if its just a little.

You didn't say, but even if she's also a virgin she can still let you know what feels good to her and what doesn't. Take your time, explore each other using all of your senses, smell, touch, sight, taste and sound. Sex is supposed to be fun its a virtual carnival of sensation, let both of you experience as much as you can before you leap into things.

The better and more attentive a lover you strive to be, the better and more attentive a lover she'll try to be. Try to remember that she isn't a toy, she's a person who wants to enjoy this as much as you do. If you treat her right, she'll treat you right.

Since this will be your first time, you will probably cum very quickly. Extending out the foreplay will hold you off for a while and give her more pleasure, maybe even bring her an orgasm or two before you even enter her.

One final word. CONDOM!! Remember it, use it. But don't put it on until you're ready for the insertion.

 

[sexy_geek_girl]

I didn't cum until four years after my first time. And I think I was lucky for being able to cum thru intercourse.

I wish the guy I was with had just thought of me more then just himself my first time. That's it. My only advice.

 

[ReadyOne]

I might try something like good foreplay ending up with the "Try this and report back" G-spot stimulation. While working on the G-spot, I'd be stretching her at least two fingers worth. Look for any covering at the very entrance to the vagina and work on making sure it's not going to constrict you are you enter. Then when you know you dick will fit without stressing things, you're ready. Go back to only the clit for a bit, then let her guide you in.

Might take a couple of nights of stretching before you know it won't be uncomfortable for her. Don't push it.

 

[Pimptress J]

Listen to Bombi.

And if it is over for you after a few minutes, apologize once or twice, but dont over do it. She may think that something was wrong with her, and that's not a good thing. If it lasts for only a few, then start over.

Remember that practice makes perfect!

 

[ninja squirrel]

She didn't cum the first time. Then again neither did I.

 

[krustyalice]

Hi, i'm new to this - be gentle!!

I'm a virgin and want to have sex with my current girlfriend. The time is right. Will she be expecting me to make her cum even though it's my first time?

What's everyone's opinion on this?

On average only 30% of females come during sex I have had sex with multiple partners im now up to my 13th partner and i experanced my first orgasim with him so you really just need to pay attention to her needs and im sure in time you will learn each outers needs and desires

 

[Stu21]

What you don't say is if she is a virgin also. If she is then she is expecting something to be painful, not pleasurable. She has has discussed this endlessly with all her friends. If she has had some experience than her expectaions are somewhat different. She just wants to be with you and to be closer to you.

Let me use an analogy here.

Women are like cars, some are built for comfort, some for speed, and they all have different appearance and performance. Each car is unique in the way it works, its driver history etc etc. My friend, you have just got your learners permit. So you shouldn't expect to drive perfectly the first time. In fact you haven't even found out what sort of driver you are. What makes it even more interesting is that road conditions change from moment to moment.

Realise this is the first time hopefully of many and tell her you love her and want to please her, and you want to learn how to please her. Enjoy the freedom that sex gives you to explore each other. Learn to talk and about what pleases each of you. Sex isnt just about how to do it, its the sense of intimacy and how you both are while you do it.

From here is a the next natural step for both of you, because you both have got to a natural point where whatever you are doing is not satisfying you. My best piece of advice is to learn to give her good head. Learn to please or orally and she will do anything for you. Anything you do to please her will end up pleasing you in the most surprising ways.

You are hopefully about to experience one of the nicest feelings in the world. Your cock in a nice wet pussy.

Drive safely

 

[Machiavellian]

My suggestion is to be slow - don't rush it - rushing it won't work well with your anticipation or her pleasure. Find out first what she'd like to do the most of prior to sex, what type of foreplay - then makesure you use caution when doing so.

The most important thing is not to finish before you start!

 

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[auraofpower]

Wow, there's been some great stuff said here. I agree with the ones about listening to your gf. See, I'm a virgin, and plan to be one 'til I'm married, but my guy and I still love to fool around.
I'll say this, be gentle. Regardless of whether she likes a little pain or whatever, be gentle when entering. It took me a few weeks to get used to the feel of my guy's finger inside me, much less two or three.
Also, don't be afraid to tease her a little. One things that gets me incredibly hot is feeling his finger or tounge just tracing over the lips or hovering over my clit. Foreplay is definately important. Observe her subtle hints. Variations in her voice, deeper or softer moans. If she holds your hand or mouth on a certain spot or gently directs you to another. Pay attention to all of these, I use them all the time and it makes the experience all the better when my guy picks up on them.
Above all, just remember that you love her. Instinct will guide you, but concentrate on that love and enjoy God's gift to us