First Time Gay Experience

[Yorky_Boy]

I'm quite young, only 18 and unfortunately suffer from a problem which causes me to have a tight foreskin. After doing a little research I've pretty much concluded I have something called phimosis which will need a circumsision to sort out, but I'm not really ready to face that operation, let alone tell my parents.

Putting that to one side, I am soon to be meeting up with another man I met from the net (he's about 36) who'll be introducing me to my first gay experience. I'm just looking for a few tips on how to please him best without using my cock (painful for me). So I'm looking for good tips on a blowjob. My mouth isn't large so I can't just start gobbling down on him, I need techniques. Should I even venture around to his ass and lick there, or is that a no go area for oral?

Secondly, I want him to treat me and take my anal virginity. What would be the best position for this to give me and him both maximum pleasure without much pain, being my first time. Should I be on my all fours or is there anything better?

And finally, he has been pestering me telling me how he would love to give me oral sex, but I don't know if I'll be able to cope. And yes, if you have read between the lines I'm 18 and haven't yet been given oral sex. Anyway, would having a tight foreskin cause problems with somebody performing oral sex on me? I fear problems with ordinary sex or anal, but I have mixed feelings towards oral. If he's gentle, he can't really hurt or rip the skin can he?

Thanks in advance.

 

[Tele2047]

As far as how to pleasure him without using your penis, you're a man, do what you think would feel good

Other than that, I don't think oral sex should cause a problem, but if you tell him about the tight foreskin thing I'm sure he'll be careful.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm quite young, only 18 and unfortunately suffer from a problem which causes me to have a tight foreskin. After doing a little research I've pretty much concluded I have something called phimosis which will need a circumsision to sort out, but I'm not really ready to face that operation, let alone tell my parents.

Putting that to one side, I am soon to be meeting up with another man I met from the net (he's about 36) who'll be introducing me to my first gay experience. I'm just looking for a few tips on how to please him best without using my cock (painful for me). So I'm looking for good tips on a blowjob. My mouth isn't large so I can't just start gobbling down on him, I need techniques. Should I even venture around to his ass and lick there, or is that a no go area for oral?

Secondly, I want him to treat me and take my anal virginity. What would be the best position for this to give me and him both maximum pleasure without much pain, being my first time. Should I be on my all fours or is there anything better?

And finally, he has been pestering me telling me how he would love to give me oral sex, but I don't know if I'll be able to cope. And yes, if you have read between the lines I'm 18 and haven't yet been given oral sex. Anyway, would having a tight foreskin cause problems with somebody performing oral sex on me? I fear problems with ordinary sex or anal, but I have mixed feelings towards oral. If he's gentle, he can't really hurt or rip the skin can he?

Thanks in advance.

Welcome!

I generally think, 'If I know them well enough to be sexual, I ought to be able to freely share fears, concerns, turn-ons, etc.' So, I'd talk to him now, and that way you two can also focus on developing shared fantasies that have a good chance at becoming reality. Plus, you'll avoid uncomfortable moments due to this in the bedroom.

There are TONS of threads and tips on oral, manual, and anal stimulations in The Blank Manual sticky at the top of this forum. You can also do a search for even more info. The folks in GLBT Chatter probably have some great techniques as well.

My husband and I have found anal positions to be personal preference...some of them work better than others, but we only know that because we've tried just about everything suggested in the threads here. Everything else is also personal preference, so it'd be most helpful to talk to him before and during, and ask him to give you a lot of feedback on what he enjoys.

Good luck, have fun, and be safe!

 

[Eilan]

Good luck, have fun, and be safe!

I just wanted to repeat this. Condoms are your friend.

 

[human_male]

Have you actually been diagnosed with some condition concerning your foreskin or have you just drawn your own conclusion? I'd see someone about it if you haven't already. I couldn't get my foreskin all the way back until I was about your age and had my first gf and we started spending a lot of time grinding our hips together and dry humping and this did something to help, I suppose it gradually put pressure on the foreskin and eventually it loosened up and I could get it all the way back.

I would definately see a doctor because you need to clean under there or you can get an infection as smegma builds up under it. If you can't because you don't have your own money and you don't want to tell your folks is there someone at school or university or whatever you can contact? Or a free clinic in your area or something like that? And don't worry about telling the doctor about it, he's heard it all a million times before. But do see someone, okay?

 

[versatile1]

You do not necessarily need a circumsicion to alleviate this problem. After trying to gently retract my son's foreskin as recommended by his physician more and more over time did not work, his pediatrician sent him to a urologist. There is a steroidal cream that can be applied to the tip and forskin that can take care of the problem. It worked great for my son. The urologist reported a 50% success rate with this procedure. I highly suspect that the key variable is sticking with applying the cream as prescribed over the course of months. He gave us six months and my son was fully retracting in about half that time. As I recall, the cream was applied 3 times a week. Avoiding circumcision was highly motivating for my son to stick with the program!

I was skeptical, but it really did work!

As far as the health ramifications of not being able to retract, my son's pediatrician was not concerned at all after examinations over the years and said that in his case and in most others, there were no hygiene concerns and everything appeared clean (There really is a lot of inaccurate information about uncircumcised penises out there). Many males are not able to retract for many years after birth. There was no smegma at all even though his penis had never retracted or cleaned under the foreskin. Again--consult your physician.

I wouldn't worry about receiving oral unless erections are painful--just let your partner know your concerns. Giving oral is great fun and you can do an awful lot with your lips and tongue and hands without even taking his cock into your mouth. Having a cock in the mouth is surprisingly tiring on the jaw, although a wonderful sensation--for me anyway. With anal, start with something small like a well lubed finger finger first, then work up to larger. Lots of lube. Find a position that in which you find it easy to relax. Your relaxation and a considerate, patient, caring partner are important.

Have fun but be careful!

 

[sensualwords]

I just wanted to chime in and wish you a great first experience with another man.

Also, with the tight foreskin... there are many solutions beyond circumcision that you might consider, and do feel free to speak with a doctor.

Or, as simple as it may sound, just google the condition, and you'll see a host of possible solutions.

Those who are proponents of foreskin restoration are proving every day that skin expansion works. It is a distinct possibility that you could reduce the tightness with some applied tension on a regular basis.

Again, everyone is different, and do what works for you. I'd just hate to see you give up your foreskin because you see it as the only option.

Have a great day!