first time Anal
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SweetErika
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Have you already read through the threads in the Anal section of The Blank Manual sticky?
If not, start there, then come back with any questions.
It'd also help if you could provide more info. Is it your first time too, or just hers?
Submissive or not, I'd suggest letting her control the speed and depth of penetration, at least until she's totally comfortable. You can give this as an instruction, like "fuck yourself with my cock and signal me to take over when you're totally relaxed." Also let her know that you need to know if anything is causing her pain. If it's her first time, you don't want to turn her off of anal by being too rough, fast or harming her, so a more gentle approach may be your best bet until you two get the hang of it as a unique couple.
If not, start there, then come back with any questions.
It'd also help if you could provide more info. Is it your first time too, or just hers?
Submissive or not, I'd suggest letting her control the speed and depth of penetration, at least until she's totally comfortable. You can give this as an instruction, like "fuck yourself with my cock and signal me to take over when you're totally relaxed." Also let her know that you need to know if anything is causing her pain. If it's her first time, you don't want to turn her off of anal by being too rough, fast or harming her, so a more gentle approach may be your best bet until you two get the hang of it as a unique couple.
You might want to begin with a small dildo. Whatever you use use lots and lots of lube. You should use a condom to prevent a urinary infection. Lube your dick well and start slow and stop immediate ly if it hurts. Do NOT use any numbing cream.
If you use a small dildo on her you both might enjoy double penetration with your dick in her pussy.
Let us know how things are going.
Hi buddy
As an anal Expert (WOW!) i have to tell u some hints n magic words!
1- First of all! be patient! the more you push, the less u go in! anal muscles are designed for guiding the things outward not inward! then when u try to infiltrate her ass there might be an amount of resistance. n if u try to push in , she might get hurt! so u have to be extremely gentle n make her relax. you have to work on her n warm up her engine n between rubbing her pussy n make her building up an orgasm , try to put your finger in her as n play with it.
do your best to make her feel good but...
2- the second hint is : "DON't LET HER GET AN ORGASM!" before you penetrate her! because if she got off , the spasms in her organs specially in her anal part wont let u in!!! so dont get her to the point of no return!
3- Use a proper lube as much as u can! dont hesitate to squirt the lube tube intu her ass!!! use as much as u can. and talking about proper lube: use water based lubes like Astroglide or KY or else... Don't use oil based lubes like vaseline or Hand creams or any type of oils.
4- Step by Step fingering... start with one knockle n then go further. when u feel she is losen up around ur finger then it's time to add the second on. if u succeed tu put 3 finger, then it's the right time to pound her well! if just to fingers fitted , you have to be verry gentle! and if just one fitted i don't sudgest u to fuck her in the ass and take your chance later and try more! and if nofinger fitted in , then don't even think about anal sex that day cause this means that today wont be your lucky day! try it another day! so... "No finger! No ASS Fuck!"
5- Find the proper Position! it's verry hard to sudgest a position right here right now!
According to her anatomy n your cock's dimansions n shape u have to find the best position yourself!
Every Ass has her own proper position to get relaxed. but as a Statistical Resault you can try these position as the top ranked positions for first timers:
- Laying on her back with the knees up to chest! a verry good position for most of first timers. Specially if your cock is upwarded!
- Doggy style , the most used position by newbes! specially for Downwarded cocks!
- Spoon position: laying on one side may make her muscles verry relaxed! Sometimes this position works verry well!
As an "Expirience " I dont offer to use "Spread Eagle" Position this will hurt so much!!!! but verry pleasurfull style ... n will build a fantastic orgasm for u!
After Some Anal Sessions u'll find the best position for your partner!
Have a nice fuck n dont hesitate to ask any questions around ANAL Stuff!!!!
As an anal Expert (WOW!) i have to tell u some hints n magic words!
1- First of all! be patient! the more you push, the less u go in! anal muscles are designed for guiding the things outward not inward! then when u try to infiltrate her ass there might be an amount of resistance. n if u try to push in , she might get hurt! so u have to be extremely gentle n make her relax. you have to work on her n warm up her engine n between rubbing her pussy n make her building up an orgasm , try to put your finger in her as n play with it.
do your best to make her feel good but...
2- the second hint is : "DON't LET HER GET AN ORGASM!" before you penetrate her! because if she got off , the spasms in her organs specially in her anal part wont let u in!!! so dont get her to the point of no return!
3- Use a proper lube as much as u can! dont hesitate to squirt the lube tube intu her ass!!! use as much as u can. and talking about proper lube: use water based lubes like Astroglide or KY or else... Don't use oil based lubes like vaseline or Hand creams or any type of oils.
4- Step by Step fingering... start with one knockle n then go further. when u feel she is losen up around ur finger then it's time to add the second on. if u succeed tu put 3 finger, then it's the right time to pound her well! if just to fingers fitted , you have to be verry gentle! and if just one fitted i don't sudgest u to fuck her in the ass and take your chance later and try more! and if nofinger fitted in , then don't even think about anal sex that day cause this means that today wont be your lucky day! try it another day! so... "No finger! No ASS Fuck!"
5- Find the proper Position! it's verry hard to sudgest a position right here right now!
According to her anatomy n your cock's dimansions n shape u have to find the best position yourself!
Every Ass has her own proper position to get relaxed. but as a Statistical Resault you can try these position as the top ranked positions for first timers:
- Laying on her back with the knees up to chest! a verry good position for most of first timers. Specially if your cock is upwarded!
- Doggy style , the most used position by newbes! specially for Downwarded cocks!
- Spoon position: laying on one side may make her muscles verry relaxed! Sometimes this position works verry well!
As an "Expirience " I dont offer to use "Spread Eagle" Position this will hurt so much!!!! but verry pleasurfull style ... n will build a fantastic orgasm for u!
After Some Anal Sessions u'll find the best position for your partner!
Have a nice fuck n dont hesitate to ask any questions around ANAL Stuff!!!!
TBKahuna123
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I agree with most of what this poster said, but not the above. My experience is in fact the direct opposite. I think having her orgasm before attempting anal penetration actually makes her relax and makes the experience more enjoyable.
dear buddy
u might be some sort of right! but remember , every Ass has her own habits!!!
I have the same experience as u had, but here I'm talking about statistics !
from a scientific view, the orgasms in women , will create some carpopedal spasms and contractions specially in lower organs! in most of cases specially in newbes these contractions may enclose the rectal entrance and make it difficult to penetrate.
but in some exceptional cases the release of a hormone called Endrophine may make them relaxed and ease the penetration.
u might be some sort of right! but remember , every Ass has her own habits!!!
I have the same experience as u had, but here I'm talking about statistics !
from a scientific view, the orgasms in women , will create some carpopedal spasms and contractions specially in lower organs! in most of cases specially in newbes these contractions may enclose the rectal entrance and make it difficult to penetrate.
but in some exceptional cases the release of a hormone called Endrophine may make them relaxed and ease the penetration.
CelticKnotted
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From my experience, the best way to do anal is to lube yourself up extremely well, but most importantly, let her ease you in rather than you trying to gauge when she is ready. Once she can accomodate your full length though you can start pumping and work up to a fairly normal pace.
sparkles910
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first anal experience
I agree with SweetErika and CelticKnotted. Great advice! She might relax more if she's going at her pace and not anticipating any sudden pain.
My first experience was so hot and erotic that I couldn't believe I'd waited so long to try it! We started with foreplay leading to simultaneous fingering of my pussy, asshole and clit using plenty of astroglide. After some fantastic sex, I still felt so turned on and hungry for another orgasm that I decided I would finally try anal sex. I asked my husband to lay on his back, while I straddled him facing his feet. This gave him a great view of my ass as I held onto and guided his cock to my ass. I warned him sternly that if he moved, it was over!
After adding plenty of Astroglide to his condom and myself, I worked my ass up and down on the tip of his cock. He slapped my behind and talked dirty to me calling me a "dirty little bitch". That made me want it even more and helped me relax. I moved up and down, little by little, working the tip of his cock gradually into my very lubed asshole until it eventually went all the way in. To my surprise and delight, it didn't hurt at all, but was just the opposite! It felt very sensual and erotic. Just the thought of his cock in my ass made me even hotter. The nerves stimulated there felt soooo good. I rode his very hard cock up and down slowly for a while. Once given permission, he sat up and reached around to finger my clit and pussy. Eventually we rolled to the right together. Still joined , we worked our way into a doggie style position where he was then allowed to fuck me slowly at first, then faster and faster! I rubbed circles around my clit as he fucked me and talked dirty to me. We both came so freakin' hard. The feeling of his cock throbbing in my ass with his climax as he laid on my back felt so great!! What a great first time!
Wow....where is my man?...I want some more now...LOL
Hope that helps. Make sure your fist time enjoyable.
I agree with SweetErika and CelticKnotted. Great advice! She might relax more if she's going at her pace and not anticipating any sudden pain.
My first experience was so hot and erotic that I couldn't believe I'd waited so long to try it! We started with foreplay leading to simultaneous fingering of my pussy, asshole and clit using plenty of astroglide. After some fantastic sex, I still felt so turned on and hungry for another orgasm that I decided I would finally try anal sex. I asked my husband to lay on his back, while I straddled him facing his feet. This gave him a great view of my ass as I held onto and guided his cock to my ass. I warned him sternly that if he moved, it was over!
After adding plenty of Astroglide to his condom and myself, I worked my ass up and down on the tip of his cock. He slapped my behind and talked dirty to me calling me a "dirty little bitch". That made me want it even more and helped me relax. I moved up and down, little by little, working the tip of his cock gradually into my very lubed asshole until it eventually went all the way in. To my surprise and delight, it didn't hurt at all, but was just the opposite! It felt very sensual and erotic. Just the thought of his cock in my ass made me even hotter. The nerves stimulated there felt soooo good. I rode his very hard cock up and down slowly for a while. Once given permission, he sat up and reached around to finger my clit and pussy. Eventually we rolled to the right together. Still joined , we worked our way into a doggie style position where he was then allowed to fuck me slowly at first, then faster and faster! I rubbed circles around my clit as he fucked me and talked dirty to me. We both came so freakin' hard. The feeling of his cock throbbing in my ass with his climax as he laid on my back felt so great!! What a great first time! Wow....where is my man?...I want some more now...LOL
Hope that helps. Make sure your fist time enjoyable.
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Dragonpoet
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What my wife and I usually do:
1) Enama- Trust me, unless you like shit all over your cock your either going to wnat to use a condom or give her an enama.
2)Lube- Lots and lots of lube. Hold her cheaks apart and put lots of astroglide in there. My wife and I use astroglide because it's water based, easy to clean up, and works well with our fleshlights.
3)Slow and easy- this one explains it all. If she's not that into it, then she's just not into it.
4)Have fun and be safe. Use condoms if you don't know if she has std's or not and if she's bleeding and she's telling you to keep going weather she acctually likes it or not, then STOP.
Hope this helps.
1) Enama- Trust me, unless you like shit all over your cock your either going to wnat to use a condom or give her an enama.
2)Lube- Lots and lots of lube. Hold her cheaks apart and put lots of astroglide in there. My wife and I use astroglide because it's water based, easy to clean up, and works well with our fleshlights.
3)Slow and easy- this one explains it all. If she's not that into it, then she's just not into it.
4)Have fun and be safe. Use condoms if you don't know if she has std's or not and if she's bleeding and she's telling you to keep going weather she acctually likes it or not, then STOP.
Hope this helps.
