first date sex

[Thaedes]

hockeymandan is pretty much accurate on this one I think. Not only are guys considered easy, but a guy trying not to be labelled a dog, or easy, or whatnot has a very hard time of doing so. The Double standard works both ways.

Regardless, Sex isn't a bad thing. Sex on the first date isn't a bad thing necessarily. It all comes down to those who are involved, quite obviously if both parties involved are consenting adults using sensible precautions then its their business.

For me, sex on the first date isn't a turn on in a relationship sense. Quite obviously it would be a turn on to some extent - else how would I get it up? I however prefer to get to know people, to really explore their mind before I start enjoying a sexual relationship with that partner.

 

[spicecajun]

ok....nice assortment of opinions. But lets say you meet someone and really like the person they are showing you. Then SHE starts something with you. Do you stop her? Or do you go along and simply change your mind about her afterward, since she has become this easy slut. Or did the change in character really take place the second she made the pass?

 

[dpod]

even if she came on

I hate to sound like a prude, but on a first date even if she came on no. Not only is disease and pregnancy involved. If she'll do it with me that quickly who knows? But sex is better when you know somebody and can fully explore the emotional consequences. Now a third or fourth now we're talking.

 

[Thaedes]

I'd have to agree with Dpod. You may well like and connect with the person very well on the first date, but you really don't know them. Even factoring out issues of pregnancy and STD's - do you really want to give away such an intimate part of you to someone who may turn out to be a far cry different from that first impression which became the determining factor in sleeping with them?

However, thats not to say I disapprove of sex on the first date, or just sex buddies. It comes down to what the two consenting adults want to do together, and if they choose to then by all means, go ahead.

 

[TumbledLove]

Or did the change in character really take place the second she made the pass?

I don't have a problem with it if all she wants is some smooching. Anything more than that (on a first date) and I'd begin to think she's a slut.

 

[dpod]

What type of hook up is important

Thaedes exactly my point.
If you are looking for a quick fuck then that's generally what you'll get and that's it and there is nothing wrong with that. Yes of course people have exceptions. If you are looking at a long term relationship with more than sex involved, then those feeling normally take longer than 2 seconds to materialize.

 

[spicecajun]

I am so stupid!!!! I have know the anwser to my ? all along. I have treated the guys as "things". It is me who considers the men sluts and I just now realized. I have turned it around without realizing. Because that is the way it has always been. But I dont have respect for men. I guess I have a problem.

 

[dpod]

Sorry if I came out that way

Spicecajun,
Yes the double standard sucks. Guys who are loose are sluts and generally have no respect for the women they fuck.
From mine and only mine mind, if she came on that hard I'd might fool around but no intercourse. I never had that problem, women comming on to me, so maybe I'm blowing it out my ass.

I am so stupid!!!! I have know the anwser to my ? all along. I have treated the guys as "things". It is me who considers the men sluts and I just now realized. I have turned it around without realizing. Because that is the way it has always been. But I dont have respect for men. I guess I have a problem.

 

[spicecajun]

It is me who owes the apology

I was being extremely sarcastic when I wrote that. I'm sorry. Forgive me and thank you though for your input.

 

[Eagle70]

Sex on the first date...

It depends...hmmmm..i'll give a for instance here.

For instance, over the summer, i went to a concert and randomly bumped into a girl that i knew a little about from work, we'd talked maybe once or twice, she was wicked cool, wicked hot...she was really cool, and we ended up hooking up at the concert. lol, wonder if the alcohol had an affect on us...

Anyways, we continued our flirting and stuff at work...and after our first date, we had sex...it wasnt so much expected, but i knew there was a pretty good chance of it happening. we're still good friends, and we go out once in a while...kinda hard though, she's over 21, i'm not, so going places together is rather rough, she can get in where i cant...ya know? I dont think of her as easy...we had a really physical relationship, and it manifested.

Now, if it were a girl that i'd never had some sort of physical contact with...just a girl i liked, then i wouldnt go for it, nor would i expect it...it just wouldnt seem right. LOL, i guess, i you can get your foot in the door so to say, its ok.