spicecajun
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Do you think sex on the first date is a turn off or turn on?
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xx_La_Reina_xx
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depends...
I think this is one of those things that varies from situation to situation. Some people go on a date simply to have sex..some people hope to build a relationship.....some people go out just to have a good time....it all depends...
I think this is one of those things that varies from situation to situation. Some people go on a date simply to have sex..some people hope to build a relationship.....some people go out just to have a good time....it all depends...
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I think it's a bit of a turn off. I've never had it but I've turned it down a couple of times. It's just not my style is all.
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LoL 911!!!
When I was younger I was very premiscuous, I had sex with anyone, anytime.
However, as I began getting older and wiser, I was always nervous that my past would come back and haunt me in the form of disease.
Thankfully, I've been spared.
I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date because of the disease issue. Other then masturbation, NO sex is safe sex. Even when using a condom, you can still contract a disease.
I recently brought my at the time boyfriend to get tested because he has a very shady past. (I got tested too, just to be fair, but I knew I was clean from prior tests) I learned that the two most dangerous kinds of sex are anal and oral. I was really surprised to hear that and I was sorry that we had done both already.
Alas, he was clean and so was I.
So I was spared again.
How many times do you think I could be that lucky?
Please, just be aware, educated, and safe.
Sorry for this rant, but it comes from the
When I was younger I was very premiscuous, I had sex with anyone, anytime.
However, as I began getting older and wiser, I was always nervous that my past would come back and haunt me in the form of disease.
Thankfully, I've been spared.
I wouldn't recommend sex on the first date because of the disease issue. Other then masturbation, NO sex is safe sex. Even when using a condom, you can still contract a disease.
I recently brought my at the time boyfriend to get tested because he has a very shady past. (I got tested too, just to be fair, but I knew I was clean from prior tests) I learned that the two most dangerous kinds of sex are anal and oral. I was really surprised to hear that and I was sorry that we had done both already.
Alas, he was clean and so was I.
So I was spared again.
How many times do you think I could be that lucky?
Please, just be aware, educated, and safe.
Sorry for this rant, but it comes from the
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It depends on what kind of date it is.
Is this a casual thing?
Is it something that you both have planned on,like a long distance romance kind of thing?
I mean if I am traveling 14 hours to meet someone,dinner and a drink wouldnt be on my mind.
However if you are only taking me to the movies,then you aint getting any nookie.
Is this a casual thing?
Is it something that you both have planned on,like a long distance romance kind of thing?
I mean if I am traveling 14 hours to meet someone,dinner and a drink wouldnt be on my mind.
However if you are only taking me to the movies,then you aint getting any nookie.
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There's no right or wrong answer to this, really. When I dated, sometimes I would have sex the first date, sometimes not, depending on how it seemed to be going. Usually not, but I never ruled it out.
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lovetoread said:
I've only ever had sex with 2 men in my life. The first was my husband.....we waited 6 months. The second is my lover who I met online. I met him face to face 2 months later, but we'd had phone sex lots of times before that
I'd known him a week before we even did that (does that count? 
)If I'd only just met someone - no I couldn't do it. We built up a relationship full of trust and love in those 2 months online, and when we finally did meet it was like I'd known him for ages.....and making love with him for the first time was magical
It really depends, I mean, a couple years ago, I was meeting people online, and we'd hook up for one night, and that worked for me at the time......well, I guess it still would...
I guess if it's someone from online, it's easier to do with no regrets. Plus, it is fairly exciting....
I guess if it's someone from online, it's easier to do with no regrets. Plus, it is fairly exciting....
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spicecajun said:
Really depends on the situation and what kind of date it is..
Personally, for me..
I find it a turn off if I don't know the guy that well, and it is our first date.
If I do know the guy fairly well, and am very attracted to him.. then anything goes.. not necessarily going to be the outcome, but I am more open to it.
I think everyone has sex on their mind when going on a first date.. otherwise why would we shave our legs and get all pretty.
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Re: Re: depends...
Well gee Tugs...that's kinda like having dessert before the meal
Hmmm...now that you mention it...not a bad idea at allllllllllll 
tom_tug said:
Well gee Tugs...that's kinda like having dessert before the meal
Hmmm...now that you mention it...not a bad idea at allllllllllll
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How interesting..
nevermind
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I've gotta have an emotional connection to someone before getting too physical. I definitely won't fuck on the first date. But I could be persuaded to fool around a little.
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Giving it up
I think it would be a turn off. Being a female, I wouldn't give it up the first night, shows that im easy and the guy might think, well if she's dated plenty of times before, who else could she have had sex with, don't know where she has been sort of thing.
I think it would be a turn off. Being a female, I wouldn't give it up the first night, shows that im easy and the guy might think, well if she's dated plenty of times before, who else could she have had sex with, don't know where she has been sort of thing.
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I must say
None of the girls who had sex with me on the first date ever turned into more than sex buddies, which was never a problem for me. The girls who made me wait qwere the ones I ended up getting serious with. LOVED THEM ALL
None of the girls who had sex with me on the first date ever turned into more than sex buddies, which was never a problem for me. The girls who made me wait qwere the ones I ended up getting serious with. LOVED THEM ALL
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I'm voting TURN OFF... As a guy, and this is an unpopular opinion mind you, sex on a first date makes you look easy.
It depends totally on the Lady, some have wanrted me first date (guys aint the only users) Some the longere we've dated the lesslikely it is something will happen by that I mean if thet aint gonna kiss me at the end of the third date nothing is ever gonna happen there . Gues them Nuns are hard to crack LOL
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DOUBLE STANDARD
This is where this question is always destined. First, I am not initiating an argument.
Second, I guess I am looking for a rational anwser to this question. But if a guy and a girl were to have sex on the first date, and looking on the side of "it makes her look easy", howcome it doesn't make him just as "easy" looking, or cause me to wonder how many others he does this with? Of course, it would. But notice that all the negative replies have been directed toward the female. I understand that b/c I believe that society has created the double standard; not that it is a basic instinct. But I am wondering if it is a fair judgement.
This is where this question is always destined. First, I am not initiating an argument.
Second, I guess I am looking for a rational anwser to this question. But if a guy and a girl were to have sex on the first date, and looking on the side of "it makes her look easy", howcome it doesn't make him just as "easy" looking, or cause me to wonder how many others he does this with? Of course, it would. But notice that all the negative replies have been directed toward the female. I understand that b/c I believe that society has created the double standard; not that it is a basic instinct. But I am wondering if it is a fair judgement.
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I think it comes down to reproduction. Basically, a male's role in nature is to spread their genes far and wide. They have millions of sperm just waiting for a chance to fertilize an egg. It's no big deal. They can shoot their load and move on without any consequence.
But females only have ONE egg at any time, and getting pregnant is at least a 9 month ordeal (not to mention a huge strain on her health). They're the ones who have the most to risk, and they should be choosey as to who gets their gift of reproduction. So a female that's easy is a turn off. It tells me that she's either desperate or she only values pleasure.
But females only have ONE egg at any time, and getting pregnant is at least a 9 month ordeal (not to mention a huge strain on her health). They're the ones who have the most to risk, and they should be choosey as to who gets their gift of reproduction. So a female that's easy is a turn off. It tells me that she's either desperate or she only values pleasure.
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Spiceycajun
I know exactly what you mean by the double standard. Being a female and all, but I guess you can look at it this way. Not that it happens this way but it could. The guy could initiate wanting to have sex, giving the female the opportunity to respond. He's like wanna have some fun or whatever the case may be. The ball is then on her side of the court if she wants to. If she does decide to go along with it, maybe that is why they see the girl as easy, instead of her saying, "no its too early, we just met" something like that. But again, if the female purses the male, then again it makes her look easy, but can also make the guy look easy taking the advantage of the situation. Some how it always comes back to the female looking easy, what a damn shame, lol! But it could make the guy look desperate if he does initiate sex first, and having the woman turn him down and then keep persisting.
I know exactly what you mean by the double standard. Being a female and all, but I guess you can look at it this way. Not that it happens this way but it could. The guy could initiate wanting to have sex, giving the female the opportunity to respond. He's like wanna have some fun or whatever the case may be. The ball is then on her side of the court if she wants to. If she does decide to go along with it, maybe that is why they see the girl as easy, instead of her saying, "no its too early, we just met" something like that. But again, if the female purses the male, then again it makes her look easy, but can also make the guy look easy taking the advantage of the situation. Some how it always comes back to the female looking easy, what a damn shame, lol! But it could make the guy look desperate if he does initiate sex first, and having the woman turn him down and then keep persisting.
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Re: DOUBLE STANDARD
The thing is, guys ARE easy. I mean, if you're a beautiful woman, or even a halfway decent looking one, you could probably go out every single night and find some schmo to sleep with you. And it seems to me that, in general, people have accepted the idea that guys are easy. Like the fact that "it's in our nature" is supposed to excuse us of any moral responsibility. I personally disagree, and have never had sex on a first date, or even a 12th or 13th, but there are a lot of guys who would. The way I see it, women who have sex with a guy on the first date are easy too. I just don't think the term "easy" should carry such a negative connotation. In this day and age, there's really nothing wrong with having sex on the first date, or just having sex for the sake of sex. As long as you're careful, of course. Sex is a wonderful thing, and should be enjoyed. But anyway, all of that is just my opinion, and I could be wrong.
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The thing is, guys ARE easy. I mean, if you're a beautiful woman, or even a halfway decent looking one, you could probably go out every single night and find some schmo to sleep with you. And it seems to me that, in general, people have accepted the idea that guys are easy. Like the fact that "it's in our nature" is supposed to excuse us of any moral responsibility. I personally disagree, and have never had sex on a first date, or even a 12th or 13th, but there are a lot of guys who would. The way I see it, women who have sex with a guy on the first date are easy too. I just don't think the term "easy" should carry such a negative connotation. In this day and age, there's really nothing wrong with having sex on the first date, or just having sex for the sake of sex. As long as you're careful, of course. Sex is a wonderful thing, and should be enjoyed. But anyway, all of that is just my opinion, and I could be wrong.
I agree with a lot thats being said here. Its really not a question of who is easy, because as we are establishing here, it takes two to tango, so one sex should not be branded as easy. If two mature people can handle having first date sex and all of the reprecussions that follow; like never seeing that person again, developing a "sex-buddy" relationship, or something a little more serious, than there is nothing wrong with first date sex.. But I feel like its a slippery slope because its hard to cancel out emotions and equally as hard to make sure both people are on the same page and after the same things.
