Finishing Inside Her

[bosox_2004]

I have a question for all of you out there (although mainly the women in the crowd). My girlfriend and I are quite sexually active, and we take the necessary precautions when having sex to ensure she doesn't get pregnant. She is on the pill, however we do use condoms as well. Occasionally, though, we skip the condom and make love "naturally", so to speak

So far, I have pulled out before cumming every time we've had sex without a condom. However, I would love to finish inside her; I find it a huge turn on, and think that the intimacy of such an act would be incredibly arousing for both of us.

So the question, ladies: Do women enjoy it when their boyfriend/husband cums inside of them? How should I go about asking her if she's alright with it? Should i ask her during sex the next time we forgo the condom, or would it be better suited for pillow talk or another intimate time when we are NOT in the act?

Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks folks

 

[kitkat88]

I have a question for all of you out there (although mainly the women in the crowd). My girlfriend and I are quite sexually active, and we take the necessary precautions when having sex to ensure she doesn't get pregnant. She is on the pill, however we do use condoms as well. Occasionally, though, we skip the condom and make love "naturally", so to speak

So far, I have pulled out before cumming every time we've had sex without a condom. However, I would love to finish inside her; I find it a huge turn on, and think that the intimacy of such an act would be incredibly arousing for both of us.

So the question, ladies: Do women enjoy it when their boyfriend/husband cums inside of them? How should I go about asking her if she's alright with it? Should i ask her during sex the next time we forgo the condom, or would it be better suited for pillow talk or another intimate time when we are NOT in the act?

Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks folks

Okay first of all; awesome handle!! This girl was born and raised in East Boston and that Yankee series even topped the Pat's superbowl wins to me!

Second of all I want to credit you for being a very considerate lover. Your woman is lucky to have a guy who actually cares about more than just getting his rocks off.

Now for your question. I think that unless there are some other issues you are overdoing it a bit with condoms and the pill. for the record "pulling out" is not a safe method of birth control you can still get pregnant from even pre ejaculate emissions. So you are not really taking a big chance cumming inside of her as you have already been gambling so to speak and it is just fine the pill should suffice.

On speaking to her this is definitely a non bedtime conversation. Bring it up some night when your just chilling and say "you know the next time we are intimate I would really enjoy cumming inside of you would you? maybe not those exact words but you get the gist. I think though that you stress how intimate it would make you feel use the word special she will enjoy that I am sure.

As for me personally? I am not really a "love maker" I enjoy cuddling a bit after and some affection but when it comes to sex I tend to like it "porno" style. I am not one for staying in missionary and enjoy "fucking" more than "loving" when it comes to sex. I very much enjoy being cum on rather than inside. Face, tits, ass, feet all depends on the mood.

However on the rare occasions that hubby and I go slow and sweet I do enjoy him cumming inside of me. Emotionally it is very intimate and even on a dirty note it is a great feeling to have that hot cum shooting inside and feeling his cock twitch as he spurts while holding him close.

For the record if you get your girl to go for it to me it feels incredible to have him cum inside me doggy style it just seems to shoot so much deeper!

well hope this helps. Good luck

 

[bosox_2004]

On speaking to her this is definitely a non bedtime conversation. Bring it up some night when your just chilling and say "you know the next time we are intimate I would really enjoy cumming inside of you would you? maybe not those exact words but you get the gist. I think though that you stress how intimate it would make you feel use the word special she will enjoy that I am sure.

Thanks for the advice kitkat, I will definitely keep it in mind. It's great to get a woman's perspective of it, and the compliments didn't hurt either

 

[lostsole21]

Thanks for the advice kitkat, I will definitely keep it in mind. It's great to get a woman's perspective of it, and the compliments didn't hurt either

Great 1'st post(by me ), think off what you want, then do it to her,
We all want a little more than a QF, but spend sometime and enjoy each other,

 

[bivachick]

Just liken Kitkat88 said, once your in her those little guys are getting out and swimming around.

Both my boyfried and I enjoy both sex and love making. When we have sex, he might cum any place. On my boobs, in my mouth, or on my body some place. When we make love, it is usually in the missonary position and he cum in me. I love the feeling of him cuming in me and then letting him pull out when he wants to.

When we first started having sex, I was on the pill but we always used a condom. I wanted it more for STD prevention. After a few months and we knew each other better, we discussed him not using a condom. So I guess what I am saying is that you both have to sit down a discuss it and not in the bedroom. I know we both enjoy love making better without condoms.

 

[HubbyLikesIt]

Kitkat's post was very interesting (and incredibly hot!), I have found that my wife, conversely, wants my load inside her every time. She enjoys the feeling of my cock going soft afterwords as well. Our procreation days are behind us, so I'm not sure exactly why, I am happy to oblige though.
I think the act spurting on her goodies is extremely sexy, but she just doesn't enjoy it very much.

Ms.Kat,
I'm curious about the female point of view on the pillowtalk aspect. Why did you recommend he bring up the subject outside the bedroom?

 

[HubbyLikesIt]

So I guess what I am saying is that you both have to sit down a discuss it and not in the bedroom.

I always thought the intimate time after/between intercourse was a good chance to talk about her likes and dislikes. Is this a bad idea?
Mind you, I know better than to pester her about, "How good was it for you?" or "Did you orgasm?" That sort of feedback comes naturally with time and experience.

 

[Kurokami]

I always thought the intimate time after/between intercourse was a good chance to talk about her likes and dislikes. Is this a bad idea?
Mind you, I know better than to pester her about, "How good was it for you?" or "Did you orgasm?" That sort of feedback comes naturally with time and experience.

Heh, you call it feedback, for me it's criticism. My girl is one of those strong ones (read: insane) that'll nitpick afterwards. She's only being funny about it, but as I've tried explaining to her, she needs to start picking her moments.

As to the actual question from the OP, where I end up so to speak is largely governed by context. On those quieter, sweet moments, I'll be finishing in her, which is something we both enjoy. During proper, honest to god fucking, anything goes. She's on the pill, so we're pretty much covered, although we have discussed stopping this in the interests of procreating, before agreeing we'd be awful parents

 

[hd8001]

My girl likes my load insider her also. She prefers it, and it helps her cum also having it get wet and warm sends her over the top. I would bring it up just sometime when you too get talking and it is on the subject of sex. She is on the pill so unless you or her have a disease there shouldn't be any issues of not using a condom, but that is something that you and her have to decide. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

[Artfuldos]

I think the pc thing to say is to ask her before sex...but I've asked during sex before and even though her response was "you better not" the tone of her voice said the complete opposite. We both thoroughly enjoyed the experience...

Also, for you people who've been with the same partner for a few years now. There's a bit of research out there that says women who let their parter ejaculate inside of them tend to be generally happier than women who use condoms...indicating that semen seems to be a natural antidepressant.

Just throwing that out there.

Be safe people!

 

[bailadora]

<snip>There's a bit of research out there that says women who let their parter ejaculate inside of them tend to be generally happier than women who use condoms...indicating that semen seems to be a natural antidepressant.

Just throwing that out there.

Be safe people![/FONT]

Really? I don't suppose you'd have a link to that, would you?

 

[Artfuldos]

Really? I don't suppose you'd have a link to that, would you?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn2457-semen-acts-as-an-antidepressant.html

 

[kitkat88]

Kitkat's post was very interesting (and incredibly hot!), I have found that my wife, conversely, wants my load inside her every time. She enjoys the feeling of my cock going soft afterwords as well. Our procreation days are behind us, so I'm not sure exactly why, I am happy to oblige though.
I think the act spurting on her goodies is extremely sexy, but she just doesn't enjoy it very much.

Ms.Kat,
I'm curious about the female point of view on the pillowtalk aspect. Why did you recommend he bring up the subject outside the bedroom?

Well simply because to me brining it up in bed before the act ruins the spontanaity like you are setting guidelines and rules. There of course should be those things a good partner always knows the limits and restrictions of their lover.

I think it should be discussed prior then when the time comes both parties are just relaxed and going with it. You are not worried and honestly since it had been discussed his lover may now be looking forward to it, knowing that it has been discussed and knowing that he is now going to do it.

All this is just my opinion of course. Can't speak for others.

 

[bailadora]

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201101/attention-ladies-semen-is-antidepressant

http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn2457-semen-acts-as-an-antidepressant.html

Wow. Learn something new everyday.

Next time I'm feeling down, instead of popping in a tear jearker for a good cry, I'll tell my husband I need a good shag instead!

 

[Riles]

I have a question for all of you out there (although mainly the women in the crowd). My girlfriend and I are quite sexually active, and we take the necessary precautions when having sex to ensure she doesn't get pregnant. She is on the pill, however we do use condoms as well. Occasionally, though, we skip the condom and make love "naturally", so to speak

So far, I have pulled out before cumming every time we've had sex without a condom. However, I would love to finish inside her; I find it a huge turn on, and think that the intimacy of such an act would be incredibly arousing for both of us.

So the question, ladies: Do women enjoy it when their boyfriend/husband cums inside of them? How should I go about asking her if she's alright with it? Should i ask her during sex the next time we forgo the condom, or would it be better suited for pillow talk or another intimate time when we are NOT in the act?

Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks folks

If you have already had sex minus the condom, you have already taken all the risks...all withdrawing is doing is robbing you both of the final moments together.

...I would hope both of you knew this already and an overly long discussion of pros vs cons needn't take place...unless you consider it foreplay.

 

[ilikeitlikethat18]

I would think the topic would have come up already, depending on when you guys got together. I know that with my boyfriend, so long as it's a good time of the month and usually we are using another form of protection anyways (equal to your girl being on the pill) I request him to come inside me. (What can I say, I Looooove it.) He's scared about me getting pregnant as I can imagine you might be. If your girl is on the pill, coming inside her is very unlikely to get her preggo, so I think you should just say something.

I honestly don't think it matters when you ask. During sex MAY even be better. I know I like it when my boyfriend asks me sexy questions during sex. Unless you asked her something horrifying, it won't ruin it for her even if she's not down. The worst she will say is no or maybe next time, right?

If you do come inside her...Just warn her before she stands up

 

[DarkFantasyRose]

I have a question for all of you out there (although mainly the women in the crowd). My girlfriend and I are quite sexually active, and we take the necessary precautions when having sex to ensure she doesn't get pregnant. She is on the pill, however we do use condoms as well. Occasionally, though, we skip the condom and make love "naturally", so to speak

So far, I have pulled out before cumming every time we've had sex without a condom. However, I would love to finish inside her; I find it a huge turn on, and think that the intimacy of such an act would be incredibly arousing for both of us.

So the question, ladies: Do women enjoy it when their boyfriend/husband cums inside of them? How should I go about asking her if she's alright with it? Should i ask her during sex the next time we forgo the condom, or would it be better suited for pillow talk or another intimate time when we are NOT in the act?

Any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks folks

Sounds like you guys are at a good stage together so talking should be easy. The pill is pretty safe so the chances of pregnancy are pretty slim BUT there is always the chance (if she has been ill or takes it late etc then this can effect it). There is always the morning after pill I guess if you are that worried or time it for when she is at her least fertile. Anyway, I love cum and feeling a cock stiffen and go rock hard followed by strong spurts of cum inside you is one of the best feelings in sex and the intimacy it creates is second to none.
Talk to her and see what she thinks then go have some fun!

xxxx

 

[intenselycurious]

Just to offer my thoughts, not that it hasn't already been said, but kitkat has everything stated very clearly - although after making love, laying close in the dark and telling your girlfriend that you'd like to finish inside her the next time, doesn't seem out of line to me. I'd actually consider it romantic. But that's just my 2 cents.

And as for warning her about what might happen when she stands up - I've always loved the feel of a man's cum running out of me after intercourse was quite a turn on for me. Of course, feeling him cum inside me first was the best...

 

[Juliewife]

Inside

It is very hard to explain to a man how good it feels when he comes inside me. Guys are completely orgasm driven, so they cannot understand how we can enjoy sex because it feels so good when they come. I can enjoy sex just feeling him come in me and enjoying being held and stroked and all the rest that goes with it, so some times I don't care to put the effort into a climax, as long as I can feel his.

I can feel it pretty much the same with or without a condom, but still there is an extra excitement when he comes in me without a condom and I think of all those sperm in there even though I can no longer get pregnant.

So, talk to her about it. I am sure she will be willing.

 

[MicknTrixie]

The vast majority of the time we finish with a vaginal cum shot. Several reasons for this include but are not necessarily limited to
1. For me it feels better to cum in than out.
2. She likes for me to use it as play lube to masturbate her
3. We both like how we taste mixed together. She licks me clean and I'll lick up her crack and bring our mix and run it in her mouth as we kiss.

 

[PassionateStars]

great thread idea

WIll go read all the replies now

D

 

[SydneyBlake]

Yes it is a great big fucking turn-on when he cums inside me!

But DO NOT wait until you're already riding bareback and about to dismount to ask her, "Um, is it okay if I blow my load inside you?" No, you need to discuss this before going to the bedroom.

Personally, I think that if VD isn't a worry, then why bother with condoms at all, since she's on the pill?

 

[pplwatching]

There are times when my wife prefers to have me cum on the small of her back, or on another erogenous zone. There are times when she prefers the intimacy of feeling me cum inside of her. The question of which she prefers was only relevant because (prior to her hysterectomy) we were both willing to accept a child in our lives if our chosen method of birth control failed.

In my experience it's very easy to become lulled into a false sense of confidence by the statistics around different forms of birth control. I personally know a number of women who got pregnant while using the pill. My wife became pregnant while using an IUD. Birth control fails, and IMHO part of being a responsible sexual partner is considering deeper subjects than failure statistics when discussing sexual preferences. Knowing in advance that we would both expect to keep and love another child made dealing with the unexpected pregnancy much easier.

As far as the question of relying on statistics to make a choice, IMHO it is important to consider the repercussions of pregnancy, rather than just the likelihood of getting pregnant. How do both of you feel about issues surrounding a decision to keep, and raise, a child if pregnancy occurs? What are her expectations? What are yours? If you are both on the same page, that will help you decide.

 

[Mac98]

I think you mean "Finishing in cider"

And I would NOT recommend that...