Fingers only...

[saah0203]

Does anyone hump their pillows. That's the way I've done it since I was like 11.

 

[Aurantica]

I'd have to suggest just focusing on the sensations you're creating... Works for me.

 

[orangetree]

This is such an awesome thread

I have been so lazy lately and will just use a vibrator really quickly (but like 5-6 times ) but these suggestions about different ways to use your fingers are sooo hot. I tried a bunch of them -I just have to say thaaank you!!! So much more fun and interesting...

So I saw this on another thread here (forget which)- someone called it the "chain trick" I think. So you take a new metal chain- clean it really well make sure it is really smooth and insert it one link at a time into your pussy. You put as much of it in as possible and then masturbate until you are ready to come and then right before/as you do, you pull the chain out. (Well- the original post had someone going down on you while they put the chain in...)

I don't have a chain (that I would want anywhere near me lol) but I used a necklace with beads- and oh my god!! it is awesome. It takes some fancy handwork- like I would need three hands to do it smoothly- but it was pretty freaking cool. Wow, I totally want someone to do this to me..!

 

[Hiliburn]

I definitely only use my vibes as fun additions to masturbation and use my fingers as my primary method of getting off - and sometimes can ONLY get off with my fingers. We all have different reactions to things, but for me, I'll tease my pussy in various ways getting myself turned on and when getting ready to orgasm, I rub my clit hard (harder than I think I'd be able to handle sometimes lol) and ride out the orgasm. I think you just have to tell yourself you can do it (not over thinking and saying "I never cum this way").

apologies my computer could not get to the rest of the thread- but this post caught my eye, thanks! I have never cum with clit stimulation, but because of that I do probably have a 'it all in you head problem' now. for masturbation my fingers always work, but it is always vaginal. Clit is great for arousal but I can never seem to go over that edge. I think I should keep up the practice, lol.

 

[yuna1981]

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[Tmmldr]

duplicate.

 

[Tmmldr]

This sounds absolutely wrong to me. Which means I should absolutely try it.

No way you can go wrong with that attitude.

Try running some fingers over your asshole at the same time you work the clit, then.

 

[MarriedKitten]

Ok, the mention of the dorsal vein has sparked some thoughts. These are some things I have learned that work for me but ymmv. Hopefully they will be of some use to you.

Knowing that blood flow to the pelvic area increases during arousal and in turn you become more sensitive to touch, you can use a combination of breathing and pelvic pressure to accomplish more of both (blood flow and sensitivity). Take a deep breath, and relax your pc muscle and gently push down just for a second or two as you breathe out. Repeat that every few breaths. This can speed up your getting to that level where your vulva and clit are fully engorged and becoming more responsive to the slightest touch.

Another technique for the pc muscle - While rubbing your clit, see if you notice a difference in sensation on your clit when you are a) pushing down/out on a relaxed pc muscle and b) tightening the pc muscle like when you do a kegel. It may be subtle at first but the more you notice it and work with it, the more clear the difference becomes. If there is a difference, you can use this to your advantage. For me, the sensation is stronger when I have my pc muscle tightened, so I like to keep it relaxed for long stretches, then tighten it and wham! the sensation suddenly jumps up a couple levels and I get closer to climax. Then back away from the edge, relax the muscle, go back to the lower level of sensation, and repeat.

Getting close to orgasm, then backing off, as many times as you can take it, greatly increases your sensitivity, not to mention leads to a harder orgasm. Maybe you could try telling yourself, "I am not going to orgasm, this is just playing" and then take yourself to the edge repeatedly. If you have a pattern of thinking "I can't cum this way" then this will take that idea out of the equation.

hth

wow, great advice.

Ok, so one of my new things is lying down on my stomach, lifting my hips up, and humping/riding my fingers. Haven't orgasmed that way but gotten close....

this has worked for me

This sounds absolutely wrong to me. Which means I should absolutely try it.

yep.

There's nothing very complex about fingering yourself. When I masturbate, I just slowly, firmly, stroke my clitoris, focussing on the upper part. Sometimes I slightly squeeze it, maybe put a finger inside my vagina. I just relax, enjoy the sensation, and try not to hurry my orgasm.

sometimes hard to go really slow.

Ok, so I have been getting better at the fingers only stuff, though I still prefer my vibrators, truthfully.

That being said, I'm enjoying all these tips immensely and want to keep sharing my own.

I can get awfully excited but have a hard time pushing myself through to the end goal with fingers only. The other day, a very specific thing brought me over the edge and I wanted to share it. By the time I did this, I was extremely, extremely close, and my pussy was very, very wet. I don't think this would have worked otherwise. I held my palm flat, like as in high five mode, and since my fingers hyperextend, my second knuckles were jutting out a bit, creating a hard point that I used to rub against my clit, pressing down on it and grinding against that jutting surface. Being able to grind against something so hard was just what I needed at that particular moment, to be able to push me over the edge.

after reading your thread, i want to try more of this because I am also, a girl who LOVES her toys (and husband)

 

[lauren26f]

Ladies, I'd love to hear your tips on how you get off with just your fingers. I can't get all the way there without my vibrator, which is annoying when I don't have it!

Stay away from the vibe for awhile and you'll cum. You just are accustomed to the vibe action. It's somewhat in your head but more that's how I cum deal.

 

[spyro1123]

I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed reading this thread. And Yuna I really swooned when you went all nerdy with the patenting the masturbation move...

Pondering how you could call it choreography.... Does that imply an audience?

I love threads like this, I practically take notes, never know when you might need some new tricks to try.

 

[Cameo_Fleur]

My method is to lie on my back and fantasize about a certain actor (RDJ) or a few kinks I'm not going into here. I play with my breasts, pinch my nipples, rub my clitoris in a back and forth motion. Never tried circles. Finger myself too. I usually insert a penis-shaped vibrator into my pussy. I can have intense orgasms this way.

 

[yuna1981]

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[yuna1981]

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[icandothis]

Bottomline, youre going to be retraining your body. All your clit knows right is how to cum with a vibrator. Put the vibrator aside and start using your fingers. You need to be consist though. It works both ways . . . The only way I had ever masturbated was with my hand up until about a year ago. A friend was telling me about her experience with a vibrator and how fantastic her orgasms were and so I got one for myself. I could not cum no matter how long I tried! I couldnt seem feel anything or find that sweet spot. I persisted and eventually was able to orgasm with a vibrator every now and then. I'm getting better with vibe, I can cum when I want, but it just takes so long. I still primarily use my fingers though . . .

 

[pisces_girl]

Lately I've tried teasing the area around my clit... like the lips and labia and maybe putting my fingers inside for a little and once I feel that I'm wet I'll use that wetness all over my clit rubbing it slow usually with just one finger and still feeling around the rest of my pussy. When my clit starts to feel swollen is when it gets the most sensitive so even the lightest rubbing feels amazing and pressing on it with a little pressure from time to time too... or I'll tease it even more and just remove my hand completely for a few seconds at a time and then going back at it.

 

[yuna1981]

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[icandothis]

Lately I've tried teasing the area around my clit... like the lips and labia and maybe putting my fingers inside for a little and once I feel that I'm wet I'll use that wetness all over my clit rubbing it slow usually with just one finger and still feeling around the rest of my pussy. When my clit starts to feel swollen is when it gets the most sensitive so even the lightest rubbing feels amazing and pressing on it with a little pressure from time to time too... or I'll tease it even more and just remove my hand completely for a few seconds at a time and then going back at it.

Pisces,
I get too impatient and unless I'm deliberately trying to prolong it I don't normally insert fingers into my pussy, clitoral stimulation alone is enough to get me off. My technique is basically the same as your's - I use my first 3 fingers in a circular motion. I always cum.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

I'd have to suggest just focusing on the sensations you're creating... Works for me.

Totally agree

 

[tammyw]

I like to lube my hand a bit and lie on my belly on my bed. I put my middle and ring fingers inside me and then hump my clit against my hand. You can control the motion back and forth and round and round using your hips. I always enjoy that and it works for me.

 

[SactoRN]

I like to lube my hand a bit and lie on my belly on my bed. I put my middle and ring fingers inside me and then hump my clit against my hand. You can control the motion back and forth and round and round using your hips. I always enjoy that and it works for me.

This is my preferred way as well. . I knew I liked you!

 

[SactoRN]

I've never used a vibrator, I always use fingers. I prefer to just rub myself, while imagining a scene, then when I'm really wet and ready, I play with my clit. Circles, or just touching it if I want to draw it out a bit, but when I want to get off fast, I start flicking it, side to side, imagining it's a tongue, or someone else doing it. Always leads to a shuddering orgasm!

(this is my first message here - a bit nervous!)

Welcome!

 

[LoveToLurk]

Do you prefer your clit being rubbed side to side? Back and forth? Circles?
I would like to know...purely for scientific research.

YES

 

[hottyfire102]

circles for me sometimes going back and forth, depends on my mood...The harder the better at times as well

 

[boomer177]

This thread should be required reading for all us men.

In my experience, as much as my women friends love to get off on penile penetration, their most intense orgasms appear to come, so to speak, from being fingered, in its various delicious forms.

How about for you?

 

[hottyfire102]

I love being fingered and eaten out at the same time...OH MY