Fingers only...

Circles have never done it for me. I'm up and down all the way. Played a bit with the spell the alphabet thing but yeah, I have one 'by hand' method I revert to if I have to do it by hand. I tend to switch up... vibe... shower head... hand... I try to sneak in at least one by hand every week or so to keep myself capable of getting off with softer stimulation. It takes a lot longer though... I expect to spend a half hour by hand, unless I've gotten worked up before I start.

Definitely switch up regularly, because sticking with one method will desensitize you to others... and I like to be able to get off whatever way I so feel like, whenever I feel like it. ^^

Fingergasms aren't really all that great compared to what I can do with a vibe or the showerhead, though. They're sort of a quick one shot relief deal. I can never get multiples by hand. However, I played with a spring-loaded earring once, and hooooly, that hit all the right places, which I can rarely do by hand. It definitely makes me consider getting a piercing there.
 
I didn't see this thread until just now... I just posted this reponse (below) elsewhere and then came across your thread and thought you might like to give it a try :cattail:

I was masturbating recently and had two fingers inside of my pussy - side by side, not top to bottom (though I don't know if that would make a difference. Hmmm...) Anyway, as I was getting off I just spread my two fingers like a peace sign - have no idea why I did it. Holy shit! Aaaawesoooome Can't wait to have someone try it on me... I think I'll patent it and call it the Pleasure Fan ™
 
Fingering inside my own pussy does not work for me, sadly. The other thing I wanted to say in regards to your post is that it raised a (very nerdy) question for me, which is, can you patent a masturbatory move? I mean of course you can't, but if you take the question seriously then you must answer, why can't you? So the answer, after googling around, is that first I had to come up with an analogy. Dance moves: what's been said about that? Michael Jackson patented the moonwalk, but he did so through patenting the special shoes he had created in order to create the illusion. Intellectual property must be "fixed in a tangible medium." You can copyright choreographed works, because of the Fair Use doctrine, i.e. it is technically still copyrighted but it is reasonable to assume that the choreographer wanted the dance to be performed.

Long story short, if you want to protect the Pleasure Fan, make it into a sex toy or copyright it as a choreographed work![/QUOTE]

Ok, you are my new Geek Goddess, and I love you :) :heart:
I am sorry to hear about your predicament, though... Have you tried / thought about piercings? I can't testify for them personally - it just came to mind from things I've heard and seen. Hope you find your groove... :rose:
 
I haven't got a horse in this race, but watching the conversation develop has been excellent for expanding my finger repertoire. I imagine a fair bit of it translates directly to cunnilingus as well. This can only be a good thing for Niner Domestic.

How is fingering yourself failing? I would think there are three primary reasons, as follows; 1) Can't stimulate G-spot adequately 2) Wanting the sensation of penetration without sensing penetrating; e.g. wanting a dildo 3) Both. If it's simply reason 1 then an adjustment of position may work. From mutual masturbation sessions with a fellow Litster, she solved one by laying on her side, propped up on one arm, entering from behind with spread legs and done in such a way as to leave her thumb free to stimulate her clitoris.
 
Well I can feel my G-spot no problem but it just doesn't feel awesome when I stick my finger inside. It is worth trying the position you mention, but I don't think I want a dildo... one of my vibrators is one you can stick in and I never have enjoyed that.

Fully understood. Two girlfriends ago, I had one who enjoyed penetration or clitoral stimulation. Couldn't do both simultaneously; one or the other. To try both would shut her off, figuratively speaking. Not saying this is what happens to you, just illustrating that I am familiar with the oddities of female pleasure.

Since the thread is dedicated to fingers-only stimulation I won't bother suggesting that specialized dildos/G-spot stimulators (I would recommend the Lelo brand; pricey but apparently well worth it given the response I get after giving them as gifts) might do the trick for you with regards to that, compared to jill of all trades vibe.
Edit: I apologize, that was stupid of me. "I won't do this," then I do it anyways. Yes, I do deserve that ego-shattering eye roll undoubtedly directed my way. Le sigh.
 
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(I get the feeling I'm gonna get PMed from this..Don't care tho lol)
Vibe penetration, for me anyway, feels a lot better than finger penetration. As far as fingers, though...I like going slow at first, top to bottom, gently checking to see how wet I am every so often. I don't think about breathing, but try not to get 'too' loud because I just know my hypocrite neighbor would bitch about it.
On a similar note, every so often watching myself (with perhaps a compact or other small mirror) makes it feel even better.
 
My girlfriend does that; it's rather effective. Try adding pillow, the extra pressure on your mound and inner thighs might help you along to climax.
 
I sometimes get off by putting my index finger and middle finger on both sides of my clitoris and squeezing them together a little and then moving them up and down in quick pulses. It works for me! (And weirdly enough, I learned that from a guy.)
 
I sometimes get off by putting my index finger and middle finger on both sides of my clitoris and squeezing them together a little and then moving them up and down in quick pulses. It works for me! (And weirdly enough, I learned that from a guy.)

I learned that from a guy too! It's a bit like wanking your clit like a small cock-feels amazing-I haven't used it to get me off because I get too aroused and end up going back to my tried and trusted technique.

I've never liked vibrators much-the vibrations are too much for me and while the build up is good, the orgasms are somehow disappointing

Tried the Lelo Billy I bought for my partner though and a couple of the settings on that are absolutely delightful...;)
 
did you try rubbing your g-spot? its not as hard to get to as all those dick pump and dildo companays want you to belive. its only a couple inches in. if you can reach it (which you should be able to) it can gice immence pleasure, and if you rub your clit at the same time, well, that all you realy need to know. lol
 
...how about someone else's fingers? ;D

Sorry, couldn't resist. Had a girlfriend once who thought sex toys were bad things to have and going down on her was disgusting to her, so it was fingers and nothing but the fingers. Learned a lot about how to work her up in different ways in order to save myself from unexplainable carpal tunnel syndrome. Some of these might help ya....

* Start slow and gentle, slowly amp up to hard and fast. The more damp you get, the more power you're going to need.
* Use your whole hand instead of just your fingers; press your palm against your mons and incorporate an upwards grinding stroke motion towards your head while rolling your hips up against your hand.
* Don't ignore your other erogenous zones. Put that other hand to work!
* Add some extra pressure points to the equation by working in/around really tight jeans and panties, with your hand down your pants. Don't ask me why this works, but I'd started quite a few bedroom sessions by coming up behind her and teasing her through her clothes, and then seeing how long it would take before she decided she needed to drag me back to the bedroom.
* This may sound silly, but... put on some music. If you're masturbating to the sounds of traffic or the rest of the house, your sonic awareness will be concentrated on the rest of the sounds around you, especially if you're shy or worried about being caught. On the other paw, the right mood music can help get you into things -- especially if you select something with a good bass beat that you can play in time to. One of my old favorites: Sweet Thunder, by Yello.

Hope this helps...
-CT
 
*grins* Well, it was worth a try.

Aye, no worries. I should have put a 'Your mileage may vary' kinda caveat in there. I'm more of a 'multi-pronged attack' sort -- and the variations are not only good at spreading the sensations out, but also give my hands and wrist a rest sometimes. Sounds like you found a few things that worked at least.

-CT
 
There's nothing very complex about fingering yourself. When I masturbate, I just slowly, firmly, stroke my clitoris, focussing on the upper part. Sometimes I slightly squeeze it, maybe put a finger inside my vagina. I just relax, enjoy the sensation, and try not to hurry my orgasm.
 
I usually go for right above the clit over the hood, and use a motion almost like i'm scratching it, which sounds painful but isn't... hahah. I use the very tip of my finger and just go up and down over that one spot. I'm not really a circles kind of girl.
 
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Interesting, for me its mainly fingers., Teasing at first up and dwn my slit, slipping inside before settling down and gently stroking my clit. Circles do it for me, gently and slowly then harder and faster.
I have about four toys and they help when I need something inside and squeezing my thighs together. I also like my finger to stray lower and rub my bottom when in the mood.
 
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