Finding the right RP partner…

[SmokingFap]

I have noticed the difference in this site it has changed so much and not for the better, I mean there are so many rules now and some of them a bit silly but I am not the one making them. I follow them but I dunno this site does not seem as welcoming anymore, maybe its because of the new rules and the mods or just more bad stuff is happening to people in their lives. This site was booming back in 2013 I have been on this site since 2006 sadly I took a couple of years off because I got married, then got sick and ended up having to lose my leg. That's when I came back on and everyone I knew on here was gone. I was away so long that I had to make another account because I could not remember my password to my Mayu account.

I am always looking for partners and I never ghost people writing keeps my mind occupied since my real life sucks but I know I am not the only one.

So sorry to hear about your illness and the loss of your leg. And I've only been on here for two years, so I have no point of reference, but I have absolutely enjoyed virtually all of my PM conversations with the folks on here, and I enjoy interacting with others on many of the threads. The threads do get a bit redundant and boring after this long, though.

 

[daldog]

I’m curious if anyone has tips or a method they find helpful in finding the right RP partner.

I have found general conversation to be helpful, as well as reading some of their past posts.

I’d love to hear how you vet a potential partner.

I think I meet most of your likes. I'm older, look younger, am long-time married (the fire is out but we peacefully coexist, therefore I'm harmless), have a good sense of humor, am moderately kinky I think, and curious about how this works. i'm new here so pardon any slip-ups. Please, pop my cherry!

 

[HornyIsh69]

It's like a double-edged sword when it comes to finding a partner. Even if my shit gets overlooked like a wart on a proverbial asshole, I still open my horizons. Which to me is not mandatory, but it's warranted. Honestly, I just have the itch to write.

As for missing the other peeps who we write with? I feel on that. Sometimes RL can be a bitch to deal with.

 

[JonathanBair]

I haven't RP'd in years. My question is do the players MM when the story reaches a particular climax? I suppose some do and others don't but it always motivated me more to know that we were both going to enjoy the fruits of our labor.

For me, I like to write for my partner and my self.... Then while in the story I try to think of things that could be interesting for the readers... Like with the story line with PantyMon... We know what the list is and we are skirting around saying the list... Then I made some suggestions to work off the list that will work for are kinks, but also can work for the readers in a few other kinks that we do not have... (Sorry about not sharing more details, but I do not want to give away some of the upcoming SRP story line..LOL)

I know I do enjoy seeing the readers viewer count on the story move up each day on the thread. I really enjoy it when I hear my writing partner goes back and re-reads it get them self worked up... I have gone back to read some past SRP's.

 

[Rick345]

I’m curious if anyone has tips or a method they find helpful in finding the right RP partner.

I have found general conversation to be helpful, as well as reading some of their past posts.

I’d love to hear how you vet a potential partner.

I don’t think it is possible to vet RP partners, as in life, the people you interact with on any given day are random and unpredictable. And just as in life, you do what you can to get along with your neighbors, co-workers, bosses, or whomever.

I do read some of their past posts just to learn a little about their writing style and experience, but those things don’t stop me from choosing them as a partner. The one thing I do is read lit Rps without considering the person as a partner. I just randomly read stories if I like their writing, I PM with a compliment, something like, Your RP ‘The Monsters of Maple Street’ is very engaging, very detailed and imaginative, you are a wonderful writer. If you ever want to do an RP about a co-worker romance, let me know, I think we’d work well together.

If they show interest, and many do, this is a writer's forum after all, I tell them what to expect from me. I can post 3 times a week. I like posts with enough substance, I have something to work with. If you will be unavailable for more than a few days, just let me know. I’ll do the same. If there is something about the story that you don’t like, just tell me and we can figure something out. If you are a grammar Nazi tell’m so.

So I guess the way I vet people is by reading random lit RPs and inviting the writers I enjoy reading to write with me. Don’t be discouraged if your partner disappears, life gets in the way. I have disappeared several times due to sudden, serious health problems. It happens. Years ago, I was in the military reserves, and for 2 weeks a year, I would disappear.

 

[SophiaQ]

Erotic conversation, and especially RP, is an art form. Few have the patience, the creativity, and an appreciation for the nuances involved in creating a most exquisite and profoundly erotic mindset.

I fully agree with this. I like a good story where the erotic/sexual parts are secondary. I also like it to be written collaboratively. The problem I find when attempting to create something with new writers, is they tend to want to create a character for me to write, or will write for my character what they want her to do. I get some of that is good for story flow in small doses, but when whole scenes are written out in one post, that is not on.

Anyway, I'm probably too picky and niche with my prompts and character, but I have to have my head in the story to have the inspiration to write it.

 

[Cfnmlover84]

I haven't RP on here in a couple of years. Worst experience is one time i did a vampire erotica with a user on here (a woman who's last name is a city in Nevada). After she wrote a very short and vague post i guess she didn't like how i responded because she then followed that up by ending the RP with a scene of a nuclear bomb going off and then changing her signature to call me out saying i "wasted her time".

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

As numerous posters mentioned last year, there are many stories which seem to have literate authors who collaborate well and then suddenly....

I try to agree a loose framework with the lady so that we have an idea where we want the story to go, but not so rigid that we can't improvise and perhaps surprise each other and our readers. Every one was started with honest intentions and a desire to create something interesting to ourselves and others who may find the thread. One of the them fell apart after ten posts; one lasted over 350 scenes and 65,000 words but still came to an abrupt halt. Our writing styles complemented one another and the narrative flowed smoothly, we live about 100 miles apart so there was no timezone issue, we exchanged lots of PMs about RL as well as the story and are still in touch occasionally even though she no longer uses Lit, but I still don't know why she abandoned the tale.

Now, after a few years away, I'm having the same experience as Gearhead noted back in '23. To the current regulars I'm an unknown and they stick to the familiar cliqué. Do they just see my profile and .sig and think I only write SF? The long slow-burner in the previous paragraph was set in a theatre in contemporary England. Other (public and private) stories have included a spy thriller in Paris, a feudal were-dragon in a mediæval castle, an outdoor romp during a Lake District hike and, yes, a story set on a spaceship.

Oh well, I'll just have to hope the plot bunnies keep breeding and that a compatible lady notices one of them and asks to play.