Finding a New Partner Safely

[newgirrl]

I'm a straight BBW in an area where few men are interested in BBWs. In my last relationship my partner didn't like intercourse (at all, not just with me). That was actually one of the reasons we broke up. I actually ache for it sometimes.

Craigslist has lots of men looking for BBWs, but I would be terrified to actually meet someone that way.

I've tried regular dating sites as I am looking for an actual relationship, but am not having much success.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I want a relationship, but I NEED sex.

What's a girl to do?

 

[Eilan]

You might want to turn off PMs for a while. As a n00b with a female username, you're sure to be the target of leg-humping predators looking for fresh meat.

[/cunt block]

 

[newgirrl]

Thanks for the tip.

 

[eyeshavya2]

need sex

Just find a F Buddy most men will go with that

 

[newgirrl]

Thanks, but where? I can't seem to find anyone who wants a BBW.

Also, how do you make sure the person is sane/D&D free?

 

[snoopydaddy59]

Thanks, but where? I can't seem to find anyone who wants a BBW.

Also, how do you make sure the person is sane/D&D free?

Well you might try and develop a relationship with someone here and then thru building trust, communicate location details etc and meet in a public place so you have an escape route if it turns out to be creepy. I personally love BBW over everyone else, but that's just me.....

 

[subwannabe]

What does BBW mean? Lots of people are overweight but you can usually find a partner somewhere. Most men would rather have big boobs than no boobs. If you are extremely overweight (Let's say 150 pounds or more) that may be an issue but I"m guessing you have a self esteem problem which is more of an issue than your weight. If you feel like a loser you will be perceived as a loser and many of these type of people try to overcompensate for that by having a personality that actually drives people away and if you come across as desperate you will be less attractive. Food for thought.

 

[dizzyegg]

Sounds like a friends with benefits might be worth a thought. I've had a few of those. That has the benefit of actually knowing the person first, though finding them like minded about the idea might be a trickier proposition.

That said there's a lot of like minded men and women on this site. Sure you'll get to know a number of them quite well and who knows, might find someone close to you. Best of luck.

 

[joe_schmonyc]

Wo

Thanks, but where? I can't seem to find anyone who wants a BBW.

Also, how do you make sure the person is sane/D&D free?

Would be happy to chat but your PMs are off. Let me know how we might be in touch - my contacts are in my profile.

 

[magic_rat]

I'm a straight BBW in an area where few men are interested in BBWs.

Don't be so sure about that. My wife was a voluptuous lady and never had a shortage of partners, before or after we married.

Take a look around you. I'll bet half the people you see are married to larger ladies.

You're built for comfort. What you lack isn't being thin, but confidence. Go out and behave like you're the most desirable, fuckable woman in the room. You'll find out before long that you actually are.

 

[the_single_gal_unconfidential]

I just did it last night - had a wonderful fuck w a brand new guy. bar pickup actually.

I always use text - they know that it's a perm record.

last night, after he thought some affection would be nice - I said text me your address -

another bar pickup I took a picture of his tattoo w the background of the bar. plus txt his address.

this guy was wonderful, I'm going to for sure revisit him. he's sort of a Italian version of fabian. he said he's Irish descent.

it is very rare for me to bring guys to my house - they have a thing of showing up for puss.

 

[magic_rat]

I always use text - they know that it's a perm record

It's a very good idea. I met up with a young lady from here not too long ago and before she got in the car she photographed me and my car registration number and texted them to a friend of hers. I would never overstep the mark anyway (let's face it, I'm 60, I could barely reach the mark!) but that would have ensured I was a perfect gentleman.

 

[seekingAlpha]

Also, how do you make sure the person is sane/D&D free?

Meet them in a busy public place and spend some time talking to them and get to know them. In addition, ask them to go get tested and then provide a copy of the results. You should get tested and do the same for them as well. You are much more likely to catch a sexually trasmitted disease than you are to run into a serial killer so proceed accordingly.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

You're not alone; the last woman who didn't have to worry about finding that special somebody was Eve.

How do you meet men?

To start off with, the worst choice is anybody you work with; if it goes sour, you're going to be seeing them every day, which is really bad karma.

Good ways?

Networking, by which I mean let your friends know that's you're looking for a relationship.They might know somebody or know somebody who knows somebody.

Think of places where people meet - night school classes, craft classes, book clubs, hobby groups. Don't ignore churches. I used to say volunteer for a political party, but the world's going weird and that's like cutting off half the good men in the country. Volunteer for a charity. If you have a dog, you'll meet lots of other dog owners. If you don't, offer to dog-sit for friends and take their mutts for a walk.

Many places have speed-dating groups. Check on the net.

Bars and dance clubs are always an option, but how to make sure that that good-looking guy a) is interested in BBW, b) isn't a creep and c) isn't carrying something contagious? Well, it's the 21st century - go bold. Guys all know the tension in approaching a strange woman, the fear of rejection; they all seem to cope fairly well. So dress nicely, choose a nice bar, find a good-looking guy without a wedding ring and just approach him: "Hi, I'm Sandra and I think you're cute. Would you like to meet for coffee next week?" It's not an open invitation for a hook-up, but if he's interested in what he sees, it gives you both a chance to get to know each other. No guy is going to be offended by a cute lady wanting to get to know him. If it doesn't work with him, keep trying.

Similarly, if there a guy you know, just ask him. "Tom, it's been six months since your divorce. I know you're probably not ready for a full-on relationship now, but are you open for dinner sometime?"

Good luck.

 

[newgirrl]

I was in a relationship for several years after I started this thread, but am single again, so this thread is once again relevant for me.

Just wanted to say thanks to Joe for reviving it and to everyone who's contributed this year.

 

[magic_rat]

Those are beautiful words.

Just truth.