Find Good Online Friends....

[Henry]

This question is probably absurd to most people , in some ways it may be...

So for anyone out there that may read this i pose the question...

I'm an attached male , 30 yrs old, various interests , great shoulders and ears for anyone that may need them... Have been told a heart of gold. Good sense of humor, love animals..theres other things..

Now my question is this, how many people feel they could chat to me as an online friend on a permanent or semi - permanent basis not just a fly by night friend , another words a fair weather friend.

I am coming to the conclusion i may not be meant to make friends online....Am hoping that my thoughts and feelings are wrong...


Btw i have made a few good online friends but you can never have too many in my opinion....

 

[CWatson]

You sound like a nice person, and I know I'm not the only person on this earth who values the traits you listed. But the very fact that you have to ask this question, is something of a turn-off. People tend to be suspicious of those who sound needy, because it suggests obligation or strings or something. It's like, "Uh-oh, I have to make a commitment to this guy before I even KNOW him." (Makes you wonder how I got any friends.) Just be available and outgoing, without implying any strings, and someone will clue in eventually.

No, this doesn't mean you CAN'T be needy. You just have to HIDE it.


~CWatson

 

[Henry]

You sound like a nice person, and I know I'm not the only person on this earth who values the traits you listed. But the very fact that you have to ask this question, is something of a turn-off. People tend to be suspicious of those who sound needy, because it suggests obligation or strings or something. It's like, "Uh-oh, I have to make a commitment to this guy before I even KNOW him." (Makes you wonder how I got any friends.) Just be available and outgoing, without implying any strings, and someone will clue in eventually.

No, this doesn't mean you CAN'T be needy. You just have to HIDE it.


~CWatson

Thanks for that...

Ok the reason for the thread that i never mentioned...

I have a few good online friends - that i can talk with and vice versa... I'm looking for more.

A hypothetical example to peruse :

You spend quite a few hours listening to someone and helping them if you can...they say things and offer help when you may need it...You ask for the help but get refused by this person...

Would you consider that fair of someone you call a friend.....

 

[Jaybird3]

I have never refused any of my friends, unless it became obivous that the only time they would talk to me is when THEY are in trouble or having problems.

If they don't have the time for me then I don't have the time for them. That is the way I am and always will be.

Hello to you Spellcaster.

 

[Henry]

I have never refused any of my friends, unless it became obivous that the only time they would talk to me is when THEY are in trouble or having problems.

If they don't have the time for me then I don't have the time for them. That is the way I am and always will be.

Hello to you Spellcaster.

Jaybird i am slowly coming to the conclusion i need to be more like that....

Hello and hope alls well for you..

~Henry~

 

[Carnus]

I have found some wonderful friends here. I am the kind who would never refuse to help oneo of them if at all possible. I know that you will hear that kind of response a lot. I love the people here, most are open and understanding. I think a lot of that comes from the type of board this is, but it mainly comes from the type of people I have gotten to know here. Sometimes I know it feels like you can't find a friend who really is one, but don't worry about those people, don't worry about the ones that say they are a friend until you tell them something hard. Tell a real friend something hard and you get something soft in return, a smile. I am not sure what you are asking us, but I say don't give up, you can't find a friend, you have to grow one.

Carnus

 

[Henry]

I have found some wonderful friends here. I am the kind who would never refuse to help oneo of them if at all possible. I know that you will hear that kind of response a lot. I love the people here, most are open and understanding. I think a lot of that comes from the type of board this is, but it mainly comes from the type of people I have gotten to know here. Sometimes I know it feels like you can't find a friend who really is one, but don't worry about those people, don't worry about the ones that say they are a friend until you tell them something hard. Tell a real friend something hard and you get something soft in return, a smile. I am not sure what you are asking us, but I say don't give up, you can't find a friend, you have to grow one.

Carnus

Carnus thanks for that...

 

[wicked woman]

Henry

Online friends are no different than RL friends....you can find your next best friend, a fair weather friend, a pretend friend, a play friend, a some times friend, a short term friend, a bad 'friend'...and all the other kinds of friends on line. Only difference is that we communicate virtually.


I've made more friends online than I could list...including best friends and a lover....but some of then are very short term. It's sometimes more difficult for people to stay connected over the internet...RL creeps in and takes time away from the relationship. I learned a long time ago...that glass half full thing...to be thankful for these friends, regardless of the duration of the friendship.

Be a friend to make a friend...Good luck in finding what you want Henry.

 

[Henry]

Henry

Online friends are no different than RL friends....you can find your next best friend, a fair weather friend, a pretend friend, a play friend, a some times friend, a short term friend, a bad 'friend'...and all the other kinds of friends on line. Only difference is that we communicate virtually.


I've made more friends online than I could list...including best friends and a lover....but some of then are very short term. It's sometimes more difficult for people to stay connected over the internet...RL creeps in and takes time away from the relationship. I learned a long time ago...that glass half full thing...to be thankful for these friends, regardless of the duration of the friendship.

Be a friend to make a friend...Good luck in finding what you want Henry.

WW , hope thats ok...

Thanks for that, that makes a heap of sense...

Making friends offline is harder for me in some ways than even online.... mainly health concerns there unfortunately....

Thanks again...

~Henry~