Fetish or Perversion?

[Alice_Roissy]

Hi there,

Can anybody clarify something for me..

The Oxford Dictionary claims that a Perversion is anything that deviates from the 'norm'. If you apply this to sex...what exactly is a 'norm'? And therefore what exactly is a perversion?

One could understand that at one point in time the missionary position for the purposes of conveiving could have been considered a 'norm' by our Nean'derthal ancestors, but in todays society with such diverse sexual orientations surely the norm has been updated? What do you consider the norm?

I personally think the vast majority of us, if we admit it, have some sort of perversion that arouses us. So perhaps perversion is the new updated norm.
But then if we have a perversion does that makes us a pervert (Collins Dictionary: a Pervert is someone with an unhealthy abnormaility in sex). I don't consider myself abnormal or my interest unhealthy.

And finally, does anyone have an opinion on the difference between a Fetish and a Perversion ?

Thanks for your input
Alice

 

[Lancecastor]

This is the norm.

Here are some perversions.

And here's some fetishes.

There are rarely definitives when it cums to sexuality, but often fetish behavior is object oriented (only able to cum in black pumps, for example) whereas perversions are simply behaviors outside the norm...the norm being defined most often by community standards as interpreted by judges and such in your area.

Confused? ask Norm.

 

[SaltydogNH]

There are rarely definitives when it cums to sexuality, but often fetish behavior is object oriented (only able to cum in black pumps, for example) whereas perversions are simply behaviors outside the norm...the norm being defined most often by community standards as interpreted by judges and such in your area.

Confused? ask Norm. [/B]

Well put, you could refine to suggest that fetish is an obsession or preferernce with an object or portion of a person (leather, feet etc) and that the fetishist would react to the fetish object or part more than to the whole (just put on a blue dress baby... )

perversion is a behavior or state of being(result) that is deviated from the intended.. i

.e. "this is a perversion of justice..." etc

You are a pervert suggests that there are deviations from the norm.

Now you can add Deviant to a list of labels as well


Salty

 

[Fierce]

Saw this on a bumpersticker at a fetish fair -

A fetish is using feathers; perversion is using the whole damn chicken.

 

[Ricckk]

only able to cum in black pumps, for example...

Well said, but now my bunny slippers are upset because you look at them as a mere fetish.

 

[lark sparrow]

Well said, but now my bunny slippers are upset because you look at them as a mere fetish.

lol most my clothes are black, and I do have a love of leather... one of Mistress' favorites threats is placing me in lots of pinks and bright colors, polka dots and stripes... how deviant and perverse is that?!